[illneverletyougo]

semi long story... background info

at the beg. of the semester there was this cute guy (lets call him chris) that i had to sit next to in class.
we didn't really talk but i had seen him talking to my friend zach so i was like oh hey i think you are in my class and blahblah and we introduced ourselves and from there we semi talked in class. later on we had saw each other at his frats party ( i'm really good friends with all his pledge brothers).

the next time we were in class we had free time so we spent like 20 mins talking about what had happened.

so the next time he saw me was at another one of his frats parties. i was talking to my roommates boyfriend on the couch and chris was with five girls. he was chatting with them and then i see him look at me and we make eye contact he says my name and i go over and hug him. but because i was talking to my roommates bf i went back to talk to him but he followed me and ditched all the girls he was with to sit with me on the couch and we basically bonded for like an hour. it was the most i ever talked to him. ( we were both sober btw)

the following day we had lunch together and he asked me for my number. (and at night he had chatted with me on facebook for like two hours)

on wednesday we played beerpong/liquor pong with my roomie and chris' best friend.
we were all really drunk and there were no ulterior motives.
but somehow me and chris ended up in my room and we "hooked up"
he knows i'm interested in him because i told him when i was drunk but other than that all i know is he thinks that i'm cute. i talked to his bestfriend about it and he told me to go for it because its life nothing to lose if chris doesn't want to be with me he'll tell me.

what should i do? i feel like chris knows i like him already so if he wants to be with me then he'll tell me.
i still like him but i don't know how to get him. i do not want to text/initiate conversation first... we do talk whenever we see each other on campus though...

help?

[Chocopie.]

Okay so this is my first post in the love & relationship section~

So there's this guy that's in grade 11. Two years older than me. The thing is i don't know him at all and he doesn't know me. I just see him in the hallways a lot when i go to my classrooms. I like the way he looks, he looks like a cool guy. There's like hotter and cuter guys than him but he just catches my attention the most. Hes my type of guy i guess? How should I approach him? Or should i just forget about him because i don't know him?

[junchan]

@Chocopie.
Well...i think you should talk to him, or at least smile first...then you can talk to him

when i was still in junior high...My bf and I met in the bus stop at the first time...
We always meet there, and i smiled to him...one step that changed my life

i wiped away my shy side, and i started asking him where he was school, what grade and something like that...and we're getting closer and closer
until he asked me to go out
we're still together now and i'm in 3rd term on univ rite now...hahahahaha..

[twinkle_l0ve]

i need advice...
well this is my third relationship and it's very serious...at least i want it to be. But my oldest sister always telling me to break up with my bf or like cheat on him or use him because he live out of town and could only visit me one or two times each month. She say that he doesn't love and care for me as much as i do for him. I know he is strict on me and won't let me do most of the things i normally would do and i can't tell him to do anything or stop him from doing most of the things he usually do. I know he loves me a lot and cares for me a lot too because he could never miss a day of no talking to me. Everytime he comes see me is when he sneak out of the house to come see me which is like three hours driving...oh yea and he doesn't have a car too so he always tag along with his brothers to come see me. sooo...basically what i really need help on is...how do i tell my sister in a positive way to stop saying those hurtful words because everytime she say those words...it makes me sad and seem like no one approves of our relationship. i don't know if she is trying to help me or trying to ruin my relationship with my bf.

There is no way to tell her but just straight out.
Tell her that you appreciate her concerns and you know she doesn't approve of your relationship but you know what you want and you're fine/comfortable with the way your relationship is and that she doesn't need to share her concerns with you anymore..... or something like that haha

I'm a girl, but I need some female advice so.. =P

My sister just broke up with her first boyfriend. They got together when they were 15 and she's now 23. They've lived together since they were 20 and obviously, it's not an easy break-up for her. Especially since he broke it off with her.

Anyways, I'm younger than her so I feel that I don't have much advice to give her but I still want to show my support.
I only have morning classes on Friday so I want to surprise her with something.
Maybe leave a gift outside her door or something.

My question is, if you consider being in her shoes,
what would cheer you up?

Is it too early to write a card with the gift and use the saying "there are many fish in the sea.." ? =/

=D help me out fellow sister!

If I was her, I wouldn't like the "there are many fish in the sea" part because I'd think "wth, she's younger than me, what does she know" kind of thing
But I do like the idea of the gift Just leaving a small something, let it be chocolate or cupcakes, with a simple note like "keep your head up, sis <3" would definitely put a smile on her face

semi long story... background info

at the beg. of the semester there was this cute guy (lets call him chris) that i had to sit next to in class.
we didn't really talk but i had seen him talking to my friend zach so i was like oh hey i think you are in my class and blahblah and we introduced ourselves and from there we semi talked in class. later on we had saw each other at his frats party ( i'm really good friends with all his pledge brothers).

the next time we were in class we had free time so we spent like 20 mins talking about what had happened.

so the next time he saw me was at another one of his frats parties. i was talking to my roommates boyfriend on the couch and chris was with five girls. he was chatting with them and then i see him look at me and we make eye contact he says my name and i go over and hug him. but because i was talking to my roommates bf i went back to talk to him but he followed me and ditched all the girls he was with to sit with me on the couch and we basically bonded for like an hour. it was the most i ever talked to him. ( we were both sober btw)

the following day we had lunch together and he asked me for my number. (and at night he had chatted with me on facebook for like two hours)

on wednesday we played beerpong/liquor pong with my roomie and chris' best friend.
we were all really drunk and there were no ulterior motives.
but somehow me and chris ended up in my room and we "hooked up"
he knows i'm interested in him because i told him when i was drunk but other than that all i know is he thinks that i'm cute. i talked to his bestfriend about it and he told me to go for it because its life nothing to lose if chris doesn't want to be with me he'll tell me.

what should i do? i feel like chris knows i like him already so if he wants to be with me then he'll tell me.
i still like him but i don't know how to get him. i do not want to text/initiate conversation first... we do talk whenever we see each other on campus though...

help?

If his bestfriend told you to go for it, that's the green light - GO!
Obviously he knows that you like him (since you told him drunk haha) but he probably wants to hear it sober
If you don't want to initiate conversation first, then you're closing off your communication with him
If you want him, tell him (sober)
good luck!

[Chocopie.]

@Chocopie.
Well...i think you should talk to him, or at least smile first...then you can talk to him

when i was still in junior high...My bf and I met in the bus stop at the first time...
We always meet there, and i smiled to him...one step that changed my life

i wiped away my shy side, and i started asking him where he was school, what grade and something like that...and we're getting closer and closer
until he asked me to go out
we're still together now and i'm in 3rd term on univ rite now...hahahahaha..

Aww thanks junchan for your advice! It really made me have a little more courage in myself . I'll think I'll try smiling at him when i see him in the hallways. Just hopes he notices xD. I'm gonna try to get him to notice me by November! I just hope i won't be too shy, or i hope he won't ignore me ><.
Your story with your boyfriend is really cute! It's good how you guys are still together after all that time .

[pico]

hi, i just want to know what you think of this situation.

well there is this guy who is sort of my friend, well whenever i msg him, he doesn't reply back. he said coz he recieves msg late. so anyways, i found out that he deleted me of his friend list - msn. since he tried to add me back. So, i just wanted to know... why would he delete me of his friend list & add me back? - if he doesn't even chat to me? ... like whats the point?

i haven't chat to him for half a yr now. So it felt like there isn't any point if he add me back or not. Would u consider him as a friend, if he deleted u, and then tried to add u back? .. but don't even chat to u? .. and the fact he deleted u in the first place. How would u feel, if u was in my shoe? I don't think he accidently deleted me, since there are pop-ups in msn that confirms u want to delete the friend.

[michikosashimi]

so my friend likes this guy.
she said hes a very shy person.
because he's usually super quiet.
how does my friend start a conversation or confront him?
she's shy too :x
they never talked before :/ poor her.

[greeenkiwi]

no! Don't forget about him. Don't you think you would regret it later on if you did forget about him? If you answered no, then I guess you aren't truly interested in him & you are free to move on. If you are unsure or answered yes, then definitely don't let it go.
You can start by smiling at him daily. Find out if you have a friend that knows him and get them to introduce you guys. If not, just start if off slow by saying "hi" one day and introduce yourself. Even if you don't really like to put yourself out there, just try it! It doesn't hurt to be friendly to someone and even if it doesn't work out, maybe you'll make a great new friend.. or boyfriend! haha.
don't worry. all girls get shy when they meet a guy they like whether it looks like it or not. i was too, but i sucked it up and few years later i'm still with the same guy. so.. you never know what you'll be missing out on if you don't try. good luck!

lol. how old are you? you refer to this guy as "sort of my friend" so why does it matter if he replies late, deleted you, and added you again? seriously? maybe he just accidentally deleted you because he forgot who you were since you guys BARELY talk.. like half a year ago? Obviously if you have to think about it when considering someone a friend or not, chances are they aren't really your true friend. Just someone you know. If it bothers you so much, just don't let him add you again. I think you over thinking this whole situation. o_o
good luck.

Aww. You should really encourage her to at least make eye contact with him & smile & say "hi". Shy and quiet people are really hard problems at times, but I think you should just try your best to encourage her to break out of her shell and fill her head with fantasies on what she could be missing on. I believe that if people really truly want something & have a goal, they can do anything they set their mind to.
If she's too shy to talk, you can also try suggesting to her to send him notes in class? People always did that in high school. that's what I did to a guy a liked starting off because I was too shy to face him, but then eventually I got the courage to. Even better if they sit near each other or have a class together. good luck to your friend!

[junchan]

@chocopie
Agree with greenkiwi
>_____<
gogogogo! Chocopie you can do it!!!

@michikosashimi
awwww...baby you such a good friend...
n_____n
try to make ur friend try to text him...
It isn't wrong at all if girl take a step ahead first...
And actually your friend can't see that boy's face rite...and i'm sure his face which made we feel nervous and shy...
Good luck!

[.mio amore.]

Umm I wanted to know when a guy says, "I want to be single for a lil while" really means?
That if there's a chance getting back together or if its just saying in a nice way, I don't like you.
Thanks, please tell me, someone! lol

[Nana544]

Can you move on without forgiving? Well, I certainly can, and my sister says no. She says that no problems can move on without forgiving. Obviously, we were having an argument, and although we didn't forgive each other; I just don't care. I moved on and think she should do the same. Besides, our argument, which I think was ridiculous!!!

[Heroine]

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[*eeeek_]

So, here's the backgroud info:
I've known this guy for sometime and was pretty close to him, to the point where the nicknames were getting at something..
Over the summer he went out with his ex-girlfriend.. Ever since then, he stopped talking to me as much.
Recently they broke up, and he's started talking to me more again.
The way he talks now is exactly how he talked to me before he went out with his ex-girlfriend.

Does this make me a rebound? :\

[michikosashimi]

is it wrong to start liking a different person in a short amount of time? o_o like just a simple crush?

[ceruleanthought]

Can I get some advice please? Long post sry >.>
I'm sixteen years old and a junior in high school. For me, I always thought since I was little that this was the "right" time to start liking guys and whatnot. So, so far I've liked a lot of celebrities and people like that but never seriously a guy at my school.
A while back I was in a club and we had an event. It's a really really big club, but this event didn't have a lot of people in it. I went and started talking to this guy because it was such a small event we were all just wandering around together, so it was easy enough to start a conversation since I didn't know anyone in that group really well (except one of my close friends was with me ^^)

This guy knows my sibling, who is a little older than I am, and because I didn't know him at all before that day I was able to talk to him pretty easily. But then after the event I thought I might like him. So now at school I don't know what to do. We don't have any classes together and the club, like I said, is really big.

I also have this problem that once I like someone I can't talk to them or approach them at all. And I am very self-conscious so I don't want to talk to him in case someone "figures out" that I like him. I never talk to guys in general except randomly after school if they happen to be in the group I'm in. All of my friends are girls. And I don't want to tell my sibling about this guy because then I'll get teased and my sibling is not helpful at all at all and would just mock me and tell everyone.

The guy is also very popular it looks like. And he hangs out with a lot of the very self-confident people who go around in a large group. I have always been intimidated by them and I really do not want to go up and talk to them especially since in freshman year I tried to hang out with them one day and didn't fit in at all, and was overall really uncomfortable and felt like they felt I was annoying, so I just made new friends and haven't talked to anyone since. I don't want to go up and talk to him when he is around these people, and he is always around people. Plus, it has been a while since the event and there has been absolutely no contact since...it makes me sad. But I'm very intimidated by his friends so please do not tell me to go up to them...

Thank you ^^

[peppermintsugar]

So, here's the backgroud info:
I've known this guy for sometime and was pretty close to him, to the point where the nicknames were getting at something..
Over the summer he went out with his ex-girlfriend.. Ever since then, he stopped talking to me as much.
Recently they broke up, and he's started talking to me more again.
The way he talks now is exactly how he talked to me before he went out with his ex-girlfriend.

Does this make me a rebound? :\

Not entirely. He probably had feelings for the girl all along, and had always hoped that they'd get together, so when they did, he did the right thing and stopped talking to you as much (even though it sucks, it IS the best course of action), and since it didn't work out, he knows that you're still a nice, interesting, person that he'd like to get to know, so, he's doing that.
Don't get me wrong, it is possible that you're a rebound, but rebounds usually occur to ignore some deep rooted emotional conflicts, and it doesn't sound like he and this girl dated long enough for that to be the case.

is it wrong to start liking a different person in a short amount of time? o_o like just a simple crush?

Not at all. That's probably how the phrase "swept off of your feet" came about. Some people are just really attractive (be it physically, or their personality) at the start.

[tenken]

edit: i think i better make this a full topic

[Soeul021]

hi....

when you will know if a guy likes you or should i say loved you??

I'm curious because of my classmates tease me about a guy in my class but i don't know if he likes me...

Please reply...

[chrissavic]

A bit LONG.. but I don't wanna start a thread just for this so here it goes:

My bf (now ex)moved out of state, which is on the other side of the country, after we graduated from high school this year; so I decided to visit him one month later. After I visited him, he and I called each other all the time, especially every night until we both fall asleep. But all of a sudden he stopped calling me; he would tell me that he went upstate, he lost his phone, etc. So I waited for almost 1 month for him to call me. Whenever I call him, he barely picks up his phone.

He doesn't even send me a message on aim. One time when I PMed him,

Me: Hey -his name- is that you? (sometimes his cousin uses his aim)
Him: Chyeah..Hey how are you? You know I got stitches all over my hand..blah blah blah
Me: huh? what happened? are you ok?
Him: -my name- I'll brb ok? wait for like 3 or..5 mins
Me: err ok..I'll wait
Him: uhh just kidding..you know what I actually have to go >.< Sorry -my name- =((
Me: ok...take care..I miss you
Him: <3



Few weeks later he actually said that he broke his phone, that he needed to get a new one so I couldn't call him. This time I waited for almost 3 months. O.o

After waiting for THAT long, I texted him; he replied, "Hey what's up? I'm a bit busy can I call another time?"
When he sent me that, I got really pissed and tears just started to fall coz all that 3 months he didn't tell me that he already got his phone so I texted back, "No I get it, it's ok you don't have to call me anymore." ...That's where I ended it and he didn't even bother to text back -__-

You think he was just really busy? It's been 2 weeks since I broke up with him and I'm starting to kinda regret it.I don't know if I did the right thing. He couldn't even give me a minute, just a simple "hi" or "how are you"...I was just worried about him coz he just stopped calling me and it really felt like he was ignoring me. We never argued, we were so close..Obviously..I gave him a lot of space..

Here are my Q's (hope someone could help me):
1. Do you think he was really ignoring me?/ was he really busy?
2. Did I do the right thing(breaking up with him)?
3. Should I ask him what went wrong? like if there's something bad happened, if I'm bothering him, or if he's avoiding me?(is it wrong for me to ask that?)

If this was confusing, let me know...>.< Otherwise, please help me.

[Hwan]

Here are my Q's (hope someone could help me):
1. Do you think he was really ignoring me?/ was he really busy?
2. Did I do the right thing(breaking up with him)?
3. Should I ask him what went wrong? like if there's something bad happened, if I'm bothering him, or if he's avoiding me?(is it wrong for me to ask that?)[/b]

If this was confusing, let me know...>.< Otherwise, please help me.

1. Yes. Boys dont want to tell girls to leave them alone. So he always says 'I'm busy, catch ya later'. Even I do it. The reason I'm doing it cause I cant even go on aim for one sec without getting pm'ed. It's ok at first but it gets really annoying later on. I think he needs space, dont wait with too much hope, he will eventually respond back normal.
2. That I dont know, since I dont really know the two of you XD.
3. Dont ask him. If you do, he will only get agitated cause you confronted him with it.

I think you should just let him be, and forget about him