[xxiaoMEI]

When you truly like someone or when you're in love...
do you always miss that someone and want to always see him wherever you go?
Will you back away a little because you think you are being too clingy?

[Seraphyx]

Hello,
I need some advice. So I have a friend who talks to this girl. Lately he has given off hints to me that the girl thinks im hot and fances me. The signals are pretty obvious and im quite sure i have gotten the right message.Once she asked me a question in mclass and i looked her in the eye and she felt was avoiding.

However i have not told my mate that i know all about it, and just pretend to not know. A few days ago, we were messin about and my mate joked with the girl sayin that he would tell me something she didnt want me to know, . She just says no dn't in her girlish voice.

What does this mean? Does she want me to approach her? But bearing in mind she always gives off the loud popular girl image and i am the more cool type.

If you want her go for it. It doesn't really matter about images that a person gives off, you just have to find out for yourself who that person is. I think she likes you, but I guess you should just ask her. Just say something like "I like you, do you like me?" so she would be put in a position where she can tell the truth. You give her the position of power, so she has the power to either accept you or reject you. If she likes you, she probably won't reject you. (Note, I don't know if you like her or not, but that line will probably get her to confess to you)

When you truly like someone or when you're in love...
do you always miss that someone and want to always see him wherever you go?
Will you back away a little because you think you are being too clingy?

Well little sister, you do tend to miss that person when you aren't with him. I don't know if you are clingy or not, but I'm sure to some extent the person would actually enjoy it?

[disfunktional.]

There's this guy i met through a friend in October, and we started hanging out& talking a lot in November. On aim, phone, real life. We talk on aim like almost every day and for hrs too. I have this thing where I tend to bash/make fun of people im comfortable around so i tease him a lot & he does it back too, but after all this we end up talking about personal things. So it's been like that from November-february, we know each other pretty well; likes, dislikes, habits, family, habits, just anything. We both act as if we hate each other, like we fight physically a lot like how boys play fight with each other lol but i think we're super close. I can just walk up and ask him for money if i need some & he doesnt ask for it back, we'd stay up together & do homework at like 2am, even if he's done he'd wait for me, hold books for me, walk me home, etc. We bought each other Christmas presents & then he went to London for winter break, i made him promise he'd take the bear i bought him to London & he actually did too. Even in London we still talked online. talked at exactly 12 when it was Xmas & New years. When he came back, I was one of the people he chose out a specific present for, it was this bearrr. And then I came over his house & saw the same bear, so it was basically matching bears. On my bday, he refused to say happy birthday to me but bought me a mini bday cake, & our friend gave it to me saying it was from anonymous (he had to go pick up his sisters so he wasn't at my party). I recently found out it was him who bought the cake & on his agenda he actually wrote down "quynh's bday" Then at the end of february, we had a school trip where we slept at a college for 3 days with a huge group of friends & from then we just kind of stop talking. And since March we rarely talk like once a week on aim and twice a week in real life? I really miss the guy but i'm still wondering, did he ever like me? Like I'm always assuming he likes someone and he'd tell me "she's not my type", he tells me everything but 'his' type of girls.

-PS. He's superrr popular with girls and they love hanging with him but he says he doesnt consider any of them 'close'. He's also the cold&quiet type so he doesn't act this way with everyone, although he's the type that could give out advices on family/relationships, even fasionn =)

Sorry for the long post, i've just been so confused, this guy can be so unpredictable sometimes.

[xxiaoMEI]

If you want her go for it. It doesn't really matter about images that a person gives off, you just have to find out for yourself who that person is. I think she likes you, but I guess you should just ask her. Just say something like "I like you, do you like me?" so she would be put in a position where she can tell the truth. You give her the position of power, so she has the power to either accept you or reject you. If she likes you, she probably won't reject you. (Note, I don't know if you like her or not, but that line will probably get her to confess to you)



Well little sister, you do tend to miss that person when you aren't with him. I don't know if you are clingy or not, but I'm sure to some extent the person would actually enjoy it?

Okay, lol sorry, it sounds like I'm absolutely clueless, but I'm just trying to figure out something for my friend and his relationship with his girlfriend.. :S

[Seraphyx]

There's this guy i met through a friend in October, and we started hanging out& talking a lot in November. On aim, phone, real life. We talk on aim like almost every day and for hrs too. I have this thing where I tend to bash/make fun of people im comfortable around so i tease him a lot & he does it back too, but after all this we end up talking about personal things. So it's been like that from November-february, we know each other pretty well; likes, dislikes, habits, family, habits, just anything. We both act as if we hate each other, like we fight physically a lot like how boys play fight with each other lol but i think we're super close. I can just walk up and ask him for money if i need some & he doesnt ask for it back, we'd stay up together & do homework at like 2am, even if he's done he'd wait for me, hold books for me, walk me home, etc. We bought each other Christmas presents & then he went to London for winter break, i made him promise he'd take the bear i bought him to London & he actually did too. Even in London we still talked online. talked at exactly 12 when it was Xmas & New years. When he came back, I was one of the people he chose out a specific present for, it was this bearrr. And then I came over his house & saw the same bear, so it was basically matching bears. On my bday, he refused to say happy birthday to me but bought me a mini bday cake, & our friend gave it to me saying it was from anonymous (he had to go pick up his sisters so he wasn't at my party). I recently found out it was him who bought the cake & on his agenda he actually wrote down "quynh's bday" Then at the end of february, we had a school trip where we slept at a college for 3 days with a huge group of friends & from then we just kind of stop talking. And since March we rarely talk like once a week on aim and twice a week in real life? I really miss the guy but i'm still wondering, did he ever like me? Like I'm always assuming he likes someone and he'd tell me "she's not my type", he tells me everything but 'his' type of girls.

-PS. He's superrr popular with girls and they love hanging with him but he says he doesnt consider any of them 'close'. He's also the cold&quiet type so he doesn't act this way with everyone, although he's the type that could give out advices on family/relationships, even fasionn =)

Sorry for the long post, i've just been so confused, this guy can be so unpredictable sometimes.

He sure seems to have done some things that made it quite obvious that he liked you. All you can do to be sure is to ask him yourself.

[.ChocoCat.]

There's this guy i met through a friend in October, and we started hanging out& talking a lot in November. On aim, phone, real life. We talk on aim like almost every day and for hrs too. I have this thing where I tend to bash/make fun of people im comfortable around so i tease him a lot & he does it back too, but after all this we end up talking about personal things. So it's been like that from November-february, we know each other pretty well; likes, dislikes, habits, family, habits, just anything. We both act as if we hate each other, like we fight physically a lot like how boys play fight with each other lol but i think we're super close. I can just walk up and ask him for money if i need some & he doesnt ask for it back, we'd stay up together & do homework at like 2am, even if he's done he'd wait for me, hold books for me, walk me home, etc. We bought each other Christmas presents & then he went to London for winter break, i made him promise he'd take the bear i bought him to London & he actually did too. Even in London we still talked online. talked at exactly 12 when it was Xmas & New years. When he came back, I was one of the people he chose out a specific present for, it was this bearrr. And then I came over his house & saw the same bear, so it was basically matching bears. On my bday, he refused to say happy birthday to me but bought me a mini bday cake, & our friend gave it to me saying it was from anonymous (he had to go pick up his sisters so he wasn't at my party). I recently found out it was him who bought the cake & on his agenda he actually wrote down "quynh's bday" Then at the end of february, we had a school trip where we slept at a college for 3 days with a huge group of friends & from then we just kind of stop talking. And since March we rarely talk like once a week on aim and twice a week in real life? I really miss the guy but i'm still wondering, did he ever like me? Like I'm always assuming he likes someone and he'd tell me "she's not my type", he tells me everything but 'his' type of girls.

-PS. He's superrr popular with girls and they love hanging with him but he says he doesnt consider any of them 'close'. He's also the cold&quiet type so he doesn't act this way with everyone, although he's the type that could give out advices on family/relationships, even fasionn =)

Sorry for the long post, i've just been so confused, this guy can be so unpredictable sometimes.

yeah it seems like he likes you. but did you ever like him? maybe he did like you but didn't get any response from you so he found someone else?

[sam.son]

Thanks fo r the advice Seraphyx. I spoke to her online yesterday. We had good conversation and we have things in common. I made her laugh a lot and she thinks im really funny. I didn't ask her if she fancies me yet though. Do you think that would be a bit too straightforward? Should i let her know me more first?

[disfunktional.]

Seraphyx & .ChocoCat. , thanks you guys.
I like this guy a lot. The thing is somewhere in february he told me about this girl who likes him. And he doesn't know how to deal with 'her affections' towards him and that he'll just avoid her. Though he's talking to her again cause he took my 'advice', so i never wanted to confess. And i don't know what went wrong during the 3 day trip we were playing around just fine until the 2nd day afternoon. Before he stop talking to me there was this guy Bill on the trip that im pretty close with & he's a big flirt but we're close friends so he was like napping on my shoulders & i was leaning on his head. I caught Bob glancing back like every minute since he was all the way in the front. Is he thinking that i like that Bill now? Cause I hang out with Bill a lot, that's how I met Bob and both of them knows i use to like Bill. So after that he stop talking to me, i can't tell if its because he found out i like him or because he thinks i like another guy. Only 3 of my close friends know i like Bob & I always act like i hate him & i'm always trying to get him with one of my girls even though he tells me he's not ineterested, so i dont know how he would have found out..
We also talked on aim yesterday (1st time since 3 weeks) & he recently went on another trip, he changed so dramatically (it's everytime he goes somewhere he changes) and he seems so complex now before he was just the simplest guy ever. But nowadays I've been pretty sad at schoool, im the hype kind of person. And he actually noticed it, even though he dont talk to me anymore he said he can just 'see it'. So he still observes me?? We meet like only twice down the hallway in school.

Bob (2:43:18 AM): you're acting more strange than usually
Bob (2:43:22 AM): you okay?
Me (2:43:48 AM): what do you mean? the bet is strange or the name thing
Bob (2:44:02 AM): you in general

Bob (3:18:05 AM): when aren't you hyped up
Bob (3:18:41 AM): if you aren't then, thats when there's a problem

ps. bob&bill are just made up names to make things less confusing =)

[Seraphyx]

Thanks fo r the advice Seraphyx. I spoke to her online yesterday. We had good conversation and we have things in common. I made her laugh a lot and she thinks im really funny. I didn't ask her if she fancies me yet though. Do you think that would be a bit too straightforward? Should i let her know me more first?

Whoa baby slow down! Don't ask her just yet, I doubt she would fancy you right off the bat. Give it some time and see if she gives off any hints or signals. You have time, don't worry about rushing it. It's pretty weird to have someone you don't really know that well ask if you like them.

Best of luck.

[♥WonderBang♥]

okay, my boyfriend broke up with me and he said he thinks he doesn't like me anymore and he doesn't think our relationship is going anywhere and stuff.
but, he said he still wants to be friends and stuff
but, now he doesn't look at me and doesn't really talk to me
and when i talk to him through chat he only gives me like one word answers.
what should i do, i still like him but im scared to tell him and stuff.
there's more detail to it,,

[Seraphyx]

^

Give him some time to think things over. He might just not talk to talk to you right now or anytime soon. The "let's just be friends" line really don't mean let's just be friends, it's just a very subtle way of breaking things off. If you have more details, feel free to PM me and I'll try and give advise to the best of my ability.

Best of luck though~

[&endeavor.]

okay, my boyfriend broke up with me and he said he thinks he doesn't like me anymore and he doesn't think our relationship is going anywhere and stuff.
but, he said he still wants to be friends and stuff
but, now he doesn't look at me and doesn't really talk to me
and when i talk to him through chat he only gives me like one word answers.
what should i do, i still like him but im scared to tell him and stuff.
there's more detail to it,,

Usually during break ups the line, "I still want us to be friends," is a subtle way of ending things off. I mean, you wouldn't want to break up with someone and tell them that you're never going to talk to them again, even if that's the case. But you should give him some time and you probably need to accept the fact that since you're not together anymore so that means he'll not look and not talk to you less and less.

[sam.son]

Seraphx you give great advice.you must have been through a lot. So I speak to her online since it is the Easter holiday. We have things to say and she always replies and always tries to be nice but it doesn't last long. Also she never starts the conversation even though I know she likes me. Is she playin hard to get. Does she like to speak to me I real life instead online? Should I leave the msn conversation and wait till we talk in school which is in 2weeks

[Seraphyx]

^

The compliment is much obliged.

How positive are you that she likes you and why do you think she does? If she does in fact like you, it is quite possible she is playing hard to get, to either pique your interest or get you to move first, which shows to be true here since you are pondering the issue. I'm sure most people would prefer to talk to their interest in person rather than through the internet. If she does, yes you should keep talking to her via MSN until you can see her again, so you guys don't feel awkward a.k.a staying in touch.

Best of luck~

[icecream_x3]

lets say B is the boy.

B that seems to be older than me & he's in two of my classes. i recently found out he liked me. we don't have a relationship in any way, it's just classmate. i don't like him, but he likes me.
I'm naturally a nice person, i'm careful with my words. so this would be my first rejection! i don't want to sound mean.. and hurt him if i say something wrong.. like a straight out no when he's hoping for a yes or something.

the school is having a dance tomorrow, and some friends have asked me if i'm going with anyone. and these friends know B. So i think their asking me on his behalf, and he might ask me, by the sound of questions they all asked me. I want to be prepared to reject him if he DOES, but i don't want to sound mean..

sorry if it was long.. but i really need advice! i don't plan on dancing with anyone at the dance, but just to work and hang around =[
just want him to know that i won't be liking him, and that i'm going to reject his 'proposal'..


BTW;; im a seventh grader, and he's an eighth && its the last dance of the year for seventh graders. he approx. liked me for 2 months or longer.

[Seraphyx]

^

Just tell him exactly what is going on; a rejection is always going to sting no matter how you put it. If you don't want to hurt him as badly, don't tell him that you won't be liking him, but just reject his proposal to go to the dance. Just say that you "will be working and hanging around" instead of dancing. Otherwise, you will have to just set it straight with him and hurt him, there is no easy way to say no.

Best of luck~

~Edit

Sorry about all the typos, I went back and fixed them.

[icecream_x3]

Thank you Seraphyx! Hopefully it won't be to hard =/

[SUPER.NANA]

I'm 17, I'm very mature for my age actually. I'm going off to college in May and start a job in May. I graduate HS in June.

I met this guy yesterday and we started to hit it off. He was really well mannered to me and my family while we were renting a car and he was the employee that helped with the paperwork.

We would have these very "sparkly" conversations. Sparkly as in ... when we look at each other it feels like there's a spark/connection.
My sisters adored him and my mom as well. My sister had gotten his phone number for me and I called him so we had a long conversation together which was absolutely amazing. I chose not to introduce myself when I first met him and we just spoke casually.

I know it's a little too early to except anything but is it too weird for me to be TALK TO AN OLDER GUY?
He graduated from college already assuming he's around 23-25. Though he looks like he's 20.

Is it wrong of a 17 year old to talk to an older guy?

[pochacco3]

Hi, I would like some advice...

Recently, at work, there is this guy, who starts calling me his girlfriend... like.... "hey, girlfriend...."... i wasn't really sure how this started, but anyways, at the beginning, i thought he was just teasing me and i thought he would be like those flirtatious kinda of guys...

but anyways, its been some time now.. i say like a few months or half a year... he has been referring to me as "girlfriend", and he would like put his arm around my shoulders. but he hasn't officially asked me out, and he is the type of guy, who just jokes around...

So the question is, does the guy like me as a friend or "more than just a friend" ?

[Seraphyx]

I'm 17, I'm very mature for my age actually. I'm going off to college in May and start a job in May. I graduate HS in June.

I met this guy yesterday and we started to hit it off. He was really well mannered to me and my family while we were renting a car and he was the employee that helped with the paperwork.

We would have these very "sparkly" conversations. Sparkly as in ... when we look at each other it feels like there's a spark/connection.
My sisters adored him and my mom as well. My sister had gotten his phone number for me and I called him so we had a long conversation together which was absolutely amazing. I chose not to introduce myself when I first met him and we just spoke casually.

I know it's a little too early to except anything but is it too weird for me to be TALK TO AN OLDER GUY?
He graduated from college already assuming he's around 23-25. Though he looks like he's 20.

Is it wrong of a 17 year old to talk to an older guy?

No, there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. Age doesn't matter in a relationship.

Best of luck~

Hi, I would like some advice...

Recently, at work, there is this guy, who starts calling me his girlfriend... like.... "hey, girlfriend...."... i wasn't really sure how this started, but anyways, at the beginning, i thought he was just teasing me and i thought he would be like those flirtatious kinda of guys...

but anyways, its been some time now.. i say like a few months or half a year... he has been referring to me as "girlfriend", and he would like put his arm around my shoulders. but he hasn't officially asked me out, and he is the type of guy, who just jokes around...

So the question is, does the guy like me as a friend or "more than just a friend" ?

We can't be sure, but I'm leaning towards that he doesn't? If he has been joking around for that long and hasn't made a move, either you haven't sent any signals back to tell him "go for it" or that he isn't interested in you. The only way to be sure is to ask him yourself.

Best of luck~