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Who Should Pay For Dates?

Poll: Who should pay in the majority of situations? (710 member(s) have cast votes)

On the first date

  1. The guy (426 votes [48.57%])

    Percentage of vote: 48.57%

  2. The person who made the invitation (192 votes [21.89%])

    Percentage of vote: 21.89%

  3. Split even (Dutch) (144 votes [16.42%])

    Percentage of vote: 16.42%

  4. The one who's more financially stable (33 votes [3.76%])

    Percentage of vote: 3.76%

  5. Absolutely does not matter to me (70 votes [7.98%])

    Percentage of vote: 7.98%

  6. Other (12 votes [1.37%])

    Percentage of vote: 1.37%

On the first few dates after the 1st

  1. The guy (275 votes [31.11%])

    Percentage of vote: 31.11%

  2. The person who made the invitation (169 votes [19.12%])

    Percentage of vote: 19.12%

  3. Split even (Dutch or switching off) (262 votes [29.64%])

    Percentage of vote: 29.64%

  4. The one who's more financially stable (59 votes [6.67%])

    Percentage of vote: 6.67%

  5. Absolutely does not matter to me (105 votes [11.88%])

    Percentage of vote: 11.88%

  6. Other (14 votes [1.58%])

    Percentage of vote: 1.58%

After going out steadily

  1. The guy (159 votes [17.02%])

    Percentage of vote: 17.02%

  2. The person who made the invitation (91 votes [9.74%])

    Percentage of vote: 9.74%

  3. Split even (Dutch or switching off) (333 votes [35.65%])

    Percentage of vote: 35.65%

  4. The one who's more financially stable (133 votes [14.24%])

    Percentage of vote: 14.24%

  5. Absolutely does not matter to me (195 votes [20.88%])

    Percentage of vote: 20.88%

  6. Other (23 votes [2.46%])

    Percentage of vote: 2.46%

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#101 User is offline   GwendolynGuillotine 

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Posted 24 August 2009 - 09:37 PM

It's all about teamwork. Just help each other out! That's how I roll.

My parents been married for more than than twenty years, and they do this too. ^_____^ Although, it's their money combined.

You guys might as well need to learn how to get used to sharing money.
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Posted 26 August 2009 - 08:56 PM

50/50 all the time
Unless one person is treating the other to a special occasion and offer to pay for everything. Like...I wouldn't expect my bf to pay the bill for his own birthday dinner.
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Posted 28 August 2009 - 01:41 AM

I think the guy should pay for the first meal if he asked the girl out.
And if we go on more dates, I don't think it matters who pays for the date. I'll normally offer to pay when I'm out with my girlfriend, but if she wants to pay then I'll let her
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Posted 28 August 2009 - 01:55 PM

I am quite old fashioned when it comes to the first few dates

I think the guy should pay for the first few dates

then after once going steady it should be mostly the guy but once in a while the girl pays

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Posted 01 October 2009 - 07:48 AM

I'm quite traditional so I'd like the guy to pay. However, the real answer is typically the one who extended the invitation should pay. After a while of steady dating, it really doesn't matter who pays.
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Posted 01 October 2009 - 02:23 PM


The guy should pay on the first date.
But after that, it should be split evenly... as if in, the guy & girl takes turn paying.
I dislike freeloaders.
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Posted 01 October 2009 - 02:26 PM

I think, whoever made the invitation should pay the date. =)
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Posted 01 October 2009 - 03:38 PM

I say the guy for the first date, especially if he was the one to ask.

Every date after would be situational.

But in the end, I'm a guy and if it were me, I'd want to pay at most dates unless I was having a horrible time or unless the girl insisted. No point in fighting over who gets to pay the bill, though I would strongly insist to pay for her, haha.
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Posted 01 October 2009 - 03:49 PM

I don't really care! He pays, I pay, split. If he offers to pay, I'll say it's okay I can pay for my half. If he insists, then I'll just let him pay. Lol. If I do the invitation on the first few dates, I don't mind paying. I feel more comfortable about someone paying for me after we get together. Cause then again, I pay, you pay, same mini cooper, we're together. Lols.
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Posted 01 October 2009 - 05:41 PM

Now that I think of it, I think I should either pay or at least pay for my share.
I'd hate to have some poor girl have to practically take out a small loan just to pay off my lion's share of the food that I ordered for myself.
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Posted 01 October 2009 - 06:13 PM

He pays first time

we can split second time around, or he can pay
afterwards, dutch all the way

I don't like it when guys pay all the time.
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Posted 02 October 2009 - 05:31 AM

First time : the guy

the next ones : split.

I bet it must suck for the guy if he has to pay for everything every time.

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Posted 02 October 2009 - 12:10 PM

Since I'm the guy, I really did pay for the first couple dates, but now since we're going out, she insists to pay equally with me. biggrin.gif
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Posted 02 October 2009 - 05:30 PM

If it was a special occasion I would understand, but otherwise the guy should always pay.
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Posted 07 October 2009 - 11:28 PM

In my country (Greece) , its like traditional for the guy to pay.
At least its must-be to pay in the first date, no matter if woman is willing to pay,too.
Usually goes for the first couple of dates,too.
Being in a 3 years relationship, I pay 1 in 20 times, and this is because I am pressuring him too.

I don't like him to pay all the time, but its like an insult to not-allow him to.The only times that men usually go dutch is when they are in University and the money is limited.

Its all culturally speaking in my ocassion, what is ethically correct.

A Swedish girl I used to know, got a Greek boyfriend and she was...shocked that he didn't let her to pay anything....


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Posted 08 October 2009 - 07:24 AM

In the spirit of social progression, I believe the only way is to go 50/50. In fact if I go on a date and a girl doesn't at least offer to pay half then I usually don't go out with them ever again.
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Posted 11 October 2009 - 08:03 PM

I'm kinda old fashioned so i like hearing the guy offer to pay but going dutch is ok with me. Luckily i have a bf who refuses to let me pay unless he's absolutely broke and even then it's only for my share ( ^)(^ ^ )*
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Posted 12 October 2009 - 08:54 AM

I believe in equality and not being sexist, so I like to spilt everything. I'm a grown woman, not a child, I do not need things paid for me.
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Posted 13 October 2009 - 10:06 PM


So over the weekend, a group of us went out to dinner. My friend's GF was in town, and apparently, they always fight over the bill. No, they don't fight over not wanting to pay for the bill.... they fight over WANTING to pay for the bill (if that makes any sense). Apparently, my friend has been paying for all of her meals (whenever they're out together), and he plans on keeping it that way. His GF on the other hand is a bit more modern/less traditional, so she intends to pay for their meals sometimes. I'm with his GF on this situation.
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