Posted 16 March 2009 - 08:59 AM
First incident: We were done watching a movie one weekend and he opened the door for me, I got in, he got in the driver’s seat and all of a sudden he goes, “Babe, look at me.” – so when I did, let’s just say that he grabs me in an inappropriate upper area and wouldn’t let go until I was basically yelling at him. When he did let go, he told me to kiss him and I wouldn’t so I just stared out the window and told him to drive me home and I didn’t want him to see me cry. He parks a few blocks from my house and I told him, “This isn’t where my house is, but I'll walk from here.” He turns off the car and asked me where I wanted to go, anywhere but going home. Clearly he did not understand that he violated me (and this guy has 4 sisters!) so I told him that I had nothing left to say to him but he wouldn’t let me get out of the car (he kept screwing around with the lock/unlock button) so then he suggest that we go out for dinner at this Korean restaurant downtown (I was asking him to take me there a few times before) so he drives us there, we didn’t even eat there, he basically just drove with me around downtown and trying to talk to me because I was just mute – I think he was mad because after just driving around for an hour or so, he takes me home and tells me he was sorry, but I told him, “Imagine if someone touched me the way you did to your own sisters, how would you feel?” He didn’t say anything, and I wasn’t expecting an answer either so I walked out. Later that night, he had the nerves to text me saying, "We should've f _ _ _."
Second incident: We’re in his car driving to the mall, his phone keeps on ringing so I told him to pick it up, but he told me to grab it for him since he was driving. My hands go out for the phone and then he grabs it first throwing it near his thigh. I don’t know what his intentions were but I was not going to grab his phone in that area... when he noticed I wouldn't grab it, he reaches for my left hand and places it there
I know this is a long post and we did break up a week after the first incident happened – he made up a lot of excuses about how I wouldn’t satisfy him, my weight gain, school was becoming stressful and he needed time to focus, wanted to be single, but the thing is, he was never like this for two years until the last 6 months that we were together and I don’t understand why he was like that, he was always the type of guy who was able to control his own hormones, the very committed type as well. Now he’s going around telling people that I’m easy, and I even called him up one day to tell him that I’m tired of all this “He said, she said” junk and child’s play. His only response was that he was tired and not in the mood to talk about it and says I'm overreacting about the incidents that has happened… however he ends up spamming all these bulletins about me on MySpace and talking about how I am not over him, and I won’t leave him alone. The thing is, I am not asking for him back, I just want him to know why he acted the way he did and I hope he doesn't treat another girl that way.
So my question to you guys are, what do you think led him this way? And what would YOU do? I was never the provocative/promiscuous girlfriend towards him and we were always around each other and talked to each other basically 24/7 so I know that there wouldn’t have been any other person on the side. There’s a fine line that is called respect and it’s totally down the drain because of him… he tells everyone that I’m just overreacting but he should be glad I didn’t tell his family or friends of how he was treating me for the last few months of our relationship.
EDIT: We were physical with each other to a point, but him forcing himself on me and making me do things just wasn't cool
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