[missduckie]

My boyfriend's family is wealthy but my family is average. We like each other a lot and get along well, but sometimes I feel like he has less fun with me than if he was going out with someone who was wealthy like him. For example, I can't travel all over the world with him or by a lot of luxury things like LV shoes if we go to the mall. He is also into cars, but even though I am know a little about cars, I don't really know what its like to own the cars that he has had.

His parents also make him hang out with a lot of girls who are daughters of their business partners whenever he goes home to visit them (we are in college) and he hates doing that a lot. But I feel kinda insecure anyways =(. His parents are going to retire soon, so he will have to rely on his own income after he graduates medical school, so if he was with one of those girls' family he would be really well provided for, and their parents like him because he is really polite.

Do you think love is affected by economics in this way? Or am I being unreasonable?? =( I wish life was like Boys Over Flowers hahah

[einna23]

Yes your being unreasonable. lol
Why should money matter? If he really did care about that stuff wouldn't he have dumped you by now?

But yeah i get what you mean by being insecure, like you could just be a little fling during college.

How long have you been with him? Do you think he is that type of person to leave you because he thinks money is more important?

[fuufuu]

well i really hope his parents dont think or say "shes not wealthy enough for you" cause that would be plain wrong and rude.
a childhood friend of mine, who has had a crush on me since i can remember is wealthy as hell too. But his parents are always trying to make me date him, to them money is the easy way in "come on sam, its the easy way to this life" thou they throw parties weekly with a bunch of other wealthy families and rich girls, they never say "phil date her, or think about her."

Money does change your attitude if its brought into your life, like you earn it; you get money high. But if your born rich, it doesn't change you
but if you really like him, deal with him first, care about the family if it becomes serious, love is love, if loves ya, family will learn to love it.

[xxiaoMEI]

Sounds like "BoF"
Of course it can.

EDIT: Oh woops, didnt read that last statement there xD

[RiderKamen]

I like this thread.

I still find it odd that people still date within their class.

[JASON;]

Your relationship sounds like a drama.
I think it is completely fine for you to be average...
He may find excitement in your life

[love]

Aww. You sound like a sweet girl. I'm glad you made this topic, it shows that you're not a gold digger.

Going to college made me notice something. Unlike in high school, people who are from rich families don't say claim that they are rich, but rather say their parents are. They don't say that they have a nice big house, but rather they say their parents house is. So what I'm trying to say is that they disassociate themselves from their parents wealth since after all, after graduation we can't be relying on daddy's money anymore. So moneywise, the parents wealth shouldn't come into play into the relationship, it's more of you're own wealth that you can accumulate from your job after graduation.

To answer your question, yes, a rich boy and average girl can go out. Sure, there will be a difference in spending habits, but that's something that can be compromised. Look at Paris Hilton and her new bff (haha yes bad example, but this reminded me of it although it's different relationships)

If his parents are against your relationship due to social status, I'm not sure what your major is, but if you'll be raking in big bucks after graduation then it shouldn't be a problem.

[veeeveeee]

Every relationship, there are pros and cons.
Thats your obstacle to overcome!
AJA!

[nubbie]

don't think that he doesn't have as much fun with you just because of money. Think of it this way: He's still with you even though he knows you're not as well-off as he is. If money was a problem, he wouldn't be with you in the first place. Its good to strive to have money like him because it motivates you to be better in school and such but don't let it get in the way of your relationship. So to him, money has nothing to do with how he feels about you so why does it have anything with how you feel about him??

[plegend2007]

Honestly, you are way over thinking this.....

I know from experience, unless his parents said something to you about not approving of you, it really isn't an issue. I am pretty sure that his parents want nothing but the best for him. If they trust him like my parents trust me, they will leave it up to him to make the best choice regarding who he is dating or not. The more you are worried about this, the more it will become a hindrance. Who cares if your family doesn't have that much money, you can always make money later on in your life. Isn't it every girls dream to find a man who is attractive with a good personality and a successful man. You might have found yourself a winner, don't blow it by over analyzing this.

Good luck.

[stwodahorty]

they sure can! i think that theres nothing wrong with a rich boy going out with an average girl as long as she isnt a gold digger who goes for his money! cuz that will suck!

[j00n]

If your bf really wanted to date a rich girl i'm sure he would have, but he's dating you. That's something. Stay true to yourself and keep being you, because that's probably what he liked about you in the first place.

If JanDi suddenly became a rich girl and acted all high and mighty you can bet GJP would change his feelings for her. Part of JanDi's charm is how she is.

[Hidd3nBeauty]

Do you think love is affected by economics in this way? Or am I being unreasonable??

Personally I think that you are being unreasonable. Why should money affect who we love? It's stupid
if it does. Relationships between someone who is more well off than their s/o work out perfectly fine.
And if money was really an issue in your relationship, he would've already left you.



Edit -- my boyfriends family are from upper class, where he is the heir to his parents company, whereas i'm from a middle-class family. But his family love me, and treat me like their own daughter, and my family adore my bf. so it can work out!

[faerie87]

well, it depends, how rich he is really.
there is a difference in socio-economic status. and it depends where you are.

it's sad, it really is. i'm about lower-middle income
my ex was lower income. i felt some sort of socio-economic difference, but not that much. but when it comes to something more serious, it might be difficult. but it's ok cause he's going to college, will make money.

however, if you're dating someone really really wealthy, their parents might not approve of you.
that happened to my friend, he was dating my friend who's lower middle income, he's upper income. and his parents didn't like her. and now he has a new gf who's ugly but rich, they travel to europe asia, east coast, norcal, every holiday they have. buy eachother really expensive gifts and stuff. in a way, it worked out better for him, but then he still flirts with my friend. so who knows?

it ALSO depends on how your bf is though, is he the type to always spend money? like to spend money, etc?


and also, for example, my best friend and i. we've been friends since we were 5, best friends since we were 12...
and now she went to london, she's become much more materialistic, and care more about money and stuff...and i just feel like we're drifting apart. like i won't be able to afford things she wants to do, places to eat. and we don't share the love for fashion and stuff...but i dunno, i mean, i'm in cali too so it's far and stuff, but we'll see.


i personally would feel the same way as you, but it doesn't mean it will break up a relationship, you just have to work with these differences.

and people are right that he picked you over a rich girl.
the bigger problem is more about his family i think.
but good luck, im sure things will work out!

[Deframer]

I agree that unless the topic becomes a point of contention for his parents, it won't be a huge issue. If it suddenly becomes a point of contention for himself personally, that might also be something you can talk to him with.

My parents don't approve of my current girlfriend, though I most wholeheartedly do, because she's of a lower socio-economic class. So what? It doesn't affect who she is - in fact, it might even make her a better person. I know I respect her a heck of a lot more than I respect myself; perhaps your boyfriend feels the same.

[thealmightyGOD]

now i aint sayin you a golddigga but you aint messin with no broke...

[chopstick^^]

some rich guy's don't like gold diggers... i have a rich friends, who alway's complains about gold diggers and the things they do just for money, which he find disgusting. You should like a guy for who he is, not his money. If he was poor, would u like him still?

[celinewalksin10]

i've dated someone who's pretty well-off, and everything went smoothly..
his dad liked me, but his mom had her bouts of making me feel that "i don't belong.."
and that her son deserves more.. i've tried being very polite back then
even if she always made me miserable.. i couldn't take it anymore, one
day i said, "ma'am. i'm not the one who ran after your son. he did."
she was in disbelief, but the dad was laughing...
she eventually liked me, but it was too late because my mom found out
i went through such thing and said, " i didn't raise you to receive such
maltreatment."
there..

[agnuque]

i think it's completely fine.
as cliche as it may seem, boys don't like girls for what they have like money & stuff, but for who they are. don't change into something you think he wants because he might end up not liking it. stay the same.
and i'm glad you're not with him for the money! YEY!
goodluck <3

[Apple.Mint]

awwe i think you're just thinking wayy ahead, probably afraid later on if you guys want to become something even more serious, his parents woudln't approves or the differences in class would clash or something huh?

me and my boyfriend is somewhat like that =O
his family is really wealthy " and i'm just normal avg class =]
but the thing is, even though his family is really rich, he doesn't ask them for money
like his parents give him a certain amount for about half a year and he has to live off that, so i guess he doesnt have that rich boy attitude
even though he buy freaking CRAZY ASS SHOES all the time ---" which i yelled at him for a lot hhahhaha
but no..the differences in class doesn't stop us
so dont worry too much!