[chinkboye22]

is it just me or do some ppl just want to be in relationship just so they could be in one??? like i know there's some lonely people who just hit on everyone even their friends even tho they don't really like them as a significant other

like i said before in old threads, i don't fall easily for people, im picky, and friends are friends despite them being the opposite sex
i mean i know what i want but my networking = fail b/c of being a commuter and other factors and i try to meet the kind of girls i want

i don't know,i do have self control and even tho that huge hole of loneliness needs to be filled it feels like only a few girls have to key that fits to the lock to my heart? hahhaha yea i know that was cheesy but on a serious note

it just bothers me how some ppl are like DUDE DATE HER and HER and HER! oh why not! you're so arrogant! blah blah well maybe i just don't like her like that and i don't want to force myself to like someone i don't like??? but at the same time sometimes i feel like giving in cuz yea i wanna snuggle w/ someone..sorta w/e

do u guys know ppl like that? desperate ppl like me but who just go for anyone just cuz their lonely

[GloomyPookie]

I know what you are going through. I am like you. I don't fall for people that easily. I'm picky.
And when guys liked me a friend of mine or some would be like. Why don't you just date him? Get some experience, see if you like him.
But I refused. I'm not like that. I don't just go into relationships to fill the loneliness. Or get some experience. That's not the way to treat other people. Love should be honest.

And so I had been single for 19 years. I enjoyed my single time, having fun with friends, flirt a bit. Waiting for the one I REALLY liked.

And then all of sudden I met my current bf. He approached me. And I'm glad he did. I met other guys too, before him. But I just didn't feel the click. I always needed to be sure. So I waited patiently. And I'm glad I waited! Next month we will be together for 2 years.

Don't just go into a relationship just because you just want to be in one. That's wrong. However, it's NOT WRONG, to give girls a chance even though at first you don't like like that person. By giving a chance I mean: getting to know them. See if there's something more. But don't rush it. It's just to see if it clicks etc. Don't kiss and stuff. I only mean getting to know each other without physical stuff. But when you just know there's nothing more then don't even try.

[hippiehop]

I knew people like that... in high school

but not anymore.

People get smarter eventually.

Just remember you won't be truly happy unless you're with someone you want to be with.

[Ls2G]

I know what you mean, I used to want to get into a relationship for the sake of it cause all around me people were getting into relationships (silly me ==)...but I never did..thank God ==
But then I found someone that I truly liked and wanted to be with, he makes me feel like I'm his whole world

So really it's worth waiting for the right one instead of just getting into just any relationship!

[heheimawesome]

just hug your friends. make sure their single though. if you start hugging your girls in that "snuggle" way because you want that physical feeling their boyfriend will get mad. if you hug them as a friend they wont care

but you seem to want to be really close. so yeah, you should only do that with single friends.

and wait for the one you like. when you find her put your focus on her but dont make your life about her.

[Metamorphosis]

a LOT of people just date for the sake of it, most of them are not sure and since they don't want to be single so just thought 'why not?'. and of course, those relationships usually don't last

[ShadowMax76]

you could hook up with chicks lookin' for a one nighter. but you'd feel like a hypocrite for the rest of your life. :/ sucks yeah?

_ don't think about it too much.
x_X' for experience? ahaha... if only we were all in it for that. then maybe it could be deemed as harmless and very educational.
experience is somewhat important.. but eh. i don't hear anyone backing that up.


_ dating is just dating. some people say it's commitment . others say you can date as many as you want at a time, as long as you're not intimate with all of them, and they all know you're dating others. that the purpose is just to get to know them. not necessarily break their heart.

maybe.. then. you should just 'get to know' some girls. haha. no euphemism meant by the ' ' . :]

[AzizOnDeck]

In my opinion, like you said... your just lonely. It's the way the single life is =) I say you find yourself a "girl" friend and become good friends to fill up that lonely gap. It helps me =D

[_aitherios]

you're right in your observation about how some ppl date just to have someone.
i personally don't think that's right. i mean, i know that person's lonely && all, but in a way they are just using the other person. which is very messed up (unless it's a mutual agreement.. in that case, what ever floats their boat.). i'm still adamant in my belief that my ex-friend's ex-gf was w/ him just to be in a relationship. she only wanted to see him when she wanted to go out (on date.. which he paid for mostly) and if she was feeling lonely. and that was plain messed up.

eh, some single people flirt w/ everyone just because it's fun. not always that they are lonely. just to get attention at times.

&& aw, you can snuggle with friends :] (in your case, female friends) just for fun, no sexual stuff. I do with a few of my friends (male && female lol). but i suppose if you're more conservative, then yeah that's not an option.

//edit//
oh, and i would definitely advise against hooking up w/ someone just because your friends pressure you. trust me, it's a BIG mistake.

[d00lie]

i think for some, it's b/c it's their senior year.

a lot of ppl in my year are currently doing that since ppl will probably break up anyway. and personally, i dont' believe in HS relationships. so i think for some it's also like, well why not? last year. do it for the "experience" and the heck of it? i guess you can call it a fling.

[AlongTheBoat]

i understand your situation because i was and am like that some of the time...i mean being by yourself while you see couples making out and holding hands every where you turn? of course you want someone there more than just friends to be with....but think about it deeply it is better than you hurting someone and in the same time, you might hurt yourself some time later on....i mean some people might be like what? i am not hurting nobody and i don't eveen feel a thing, i just want to be with someone you know and that they want to be with me, so why not? those kinds of thoughts. but i mean...if you don't take it seriously, well not exactly seriously..but at least you like that person than just going out and dating them...if you do then isn't that kinda like friends to f*** with? so why bother about thinking about it since you just want to fuge around with someone....but is your choice after all. so you should just think about how you define relationship there.

[thesisoflove]

: ) waiting for a relationship is really worth it.

[wonderfulyou]

teens are all about having fun while their young.. yeah.. nothing could be serious in the world of teens. that's just that you know.. it's how it is

[sixth.]

that was why i went out with my first boyfriend - i regret it a LOT now.
you should only go out with someone if you're actually interested in them; don't just go out with whichever random decides to walk by.

[Sympathetic]

Waiting for a relationship may be worth it, but then again - it may not be.

[Tiffa_xx]

that was why i went out with my first boyfriend - i regret it a LOT now.
you should only go out with someone if you're actually interested in them; don't just go out with whichever random decides to walk by.

Same here. He was my first and only boyfriend that I've had so far and turned out to be a pretty lousy boyfriend. I feel as if he just wanted a girlfriend to have a girlfriend and back then, I was so naive and I just wanted a boyfriend to know what it felt like. I regret getting with him but I don't regret what I've learned from it.

[Kira_Hyuu]

Hmmm well honestly i think it's better to have been in a relationship when ur younger whether is was serious or just for fun....like it's just go prep for like the future when u enter like colleges/universities....i know people that just date because they feel lonely and i do feel for them because having the bf/gf is kinda nice since you just get to interact with someone one on one...

[xmelody-love]

i know someone who's like that. they have to be in a relationship even if they dont like that person.
she used to date a guy, break up and then like 2-5 days later have a "crush" on a new guy and end up dating him in like 4 days? i think?

for me, it takes a lot longer. i dont want to be pressured into dating someone i have no feelings for.
like i have a crush on someone and 2 of my friends would say things like
"that guy is so cute/hott!! you should go for him"
"that other guy isnt right for you. you should date him"

in my opinion, find a girl who's your friend and become really good friends with them. but dont take it over board and stuff.
>_.

[viish_]

TOTALLY get you.
some just wants a gf/bf. sersli. like get over it.

but ppl will get mature n understand . bleh

[imhitomi]

I have a good friend like that. She's always dating a new guy but she's clearly not really into any of them. I feel a bit bad for her, but i figured this is something she needs to work out on her own.

Some people have a really difficult time being alone and this is personally beyond me. Going out with someone I don't really like seems like it'd be more of a burden than a good thing. There have been two instances where I have be asked out by guys I liked has friends but nothing more, but I agreed because I didn't really want to flat out reject them. In both situations, I ended up telling the guy in less than 2 days that it was going nowhere because I wasn't genuinely interested. I really don't see how people can fake their way through a relationship they aren't emotionally invested in.