[jvu]

I am currently in a situation where someone who I really like, doesn't like me back because I don't have 'big' eyes. He's a close friend, and I asked him why he doesn't like me back.. And it was JUST because I don't have big eyes... >.> Yes I know, I repeated it twice. BUT C'MON, over body features?

This got me thinking... What if I were a very attractive girl? Where would I be right now? What will I be and who will I be with 10 years from now..? Tons of questions pop into my mind. And now I learned that beauty plays a huge role in your life.. If I had big eyes, I'd be with someone who I like a lot.. But I don't, so I don't get the guy -.-"

Now and days I see pretty girls with pretty boys, ugly girls with ugly boys, average dating average, so on and so fourth... Rarely average and below average, pretty and average, so on. Why is it so common for the same people to date, and for the different status so uncommon to date?

So what are your thoughts on beauty when It comes to relationships? To me it seems as though it stands in the way of many things... You know what haha.

(btw don't give me lectures lol).

[Seraphyx]

Well people that are pretty have more options available to them. Life is easier for the beautiful in general, that's a fact. I'm not going to beat around the bush, but looks play a big role in a relationship. It's the looks that draw people in and then the personality trap people in.

I personally find that looks play a big role in life and in relationships. Life is all about appearances. (I don't mean that in a shallow way, just that appearances really do matter regardless of what people say.)

Life is too easy for me sadly =.=

[chopstick^^]

I see it as a good thing, at least u know what type of guy he is, and what he likes. Therefore if u didn't had big eyes, it means he doesn't like u.. but ur look. U deserve someone better who like u for u, not ur beauty. N what he don't find lovely, another guy would.

what if u accidently had an accident, hes the sorta guy who would leave u. See, why u want this kinda guy for?

[angels.disguise]

wow.
you dont want a guy like that anyways.
rejecting you because your eyes arent big??? =_=''

in my opinion people with the same level of beauty have the best relationships
because they are more compatible.

but you know, there's alot of couples out there
that break the norm.
you just have to find someone your compatible with.

[plegend2007]

BTW, WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO BE WITH A SHALLOW BOY TO BEGIN WITH. J/W

I DON'T KNOW WHERE YOU LIVE BUT IN MY AREA, I'VE SEEN PLENTY OF MIXTURES PERTAINING TO COUPLES DATING(NOT ALWAYS PRETTY TO PRETTY OR UGLY TO UGLY).

SO I WOULDN'T GIVE UP HOPE JUST YET.....

NOT EVERYONE WHO IS GOOD LOOKING IS SHALLOW AS YOU THINK.

[sus]

everyones got their list of wat they want in a gf bf
hes just superficial//
i guess everyone is to some extent
just try to be his friends.. n let him get to know u
n if he still dont like u then just forget it
cos not everone has to like everyone rite

[Twisted_fatE]

i've never heard that as being a reason as to why someone wouldn't date another person, sheesh i guess i learn something new everyday lol.....


anywho, not to lecture u or anything, but that is one of the stupidest reasons for him to reject u...some other guy might looooove small eyes, but it makes me wonder if there's a REAL reason he doesn't wanna date u, cause that seems like a BS excuse.

i think people who are similar attractive-wise just are more compatible with each other as they say like tends to attract like...although yeah there are those opposite couples...but opposite couples tend to face more obstacles...either they'll get made fun of cause their partner is ugly, fat, bald, or racially etc...it's usually more strenuous.

beauty kinda does stand in the way of some things. i think if i were thinner, i'd get more guys, nevermind the fact that i'm a bubbly and cheerful person and i can make people laugh and get along with me. but oh well, i'm working on the physical aspect to complement my personality.

[lightangel]

for me i think that this society is messed up...plainly as that...
all those books and ppl tell u that looks does not matter r just craps becuz this is reality its not fantasy where u meet ur dream guy reality is harsh as this
i personally think that those average looking guys go out with average looking girls or vice versa have one things in common , there must be something
about their looks that attracts the opposite sex.
even though others thinks that "ew ur bf/gf is ugly" but to urself when u notice that person there HAVE to be something about their looks that attracts u
even just a tiny features there MUST be something...and that will lead ur significant others learns more about ur personalities.
sooo what im trying to say is looks DOES matter one way or another ...even tho ppl said looks not matter but it DOES.

[Chanellas]

ok. just because you don't have big eyes doesn't mean your not beautiful.

but you can't make him accept you either.
I would say find someone who likes you the way you are.
vice versa, I would be SO INCREDIBLY offended if someone only liked me if I was ASIAN

i'm averageish but I never thought, "Oh if only I was thin/hot/sexy, I would get THIS guy!"
I deserve someone who appreciates who I am and less on how I look.

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

Fail.

There's heaps of ugly guys that are with Pretty or Hot girls.
But never Ugly girls with hot guys.

That's just how society works. Guys have the ability to do many things in relationships, while girls should just sit down.

Anyways, you can always circle eye lenses to make your eye looks bigger.
Guys are pretty lame and shallow. once you they see you become pretty, they will like you. Even if you take off those eye lenses, he'll still remember you as that pretty girl.

[NONE.LIKEYOU]

It's not like you can change it. Sure, plastic surgery is an option but it depends on what you believe and how far you would go.

I guess if I were in your shoes, I'd be pretty pissed and unhappy about my looks, but truth to be told...the guy is either immature or really really shallow. If his prioirty in a girlfriend/SO is looks, then he's at fault.

Of course, it's not wrong to want a good looking boy/girlfriend... If that's NOT his priority, maybe you're just nothing special (in terms of personality/compatibility/chemistry) and not "pretty" enough to catch his eye. Sorry if it sounds a bit blunt, but find comfort in the fact that relationships based on the "awe" of beauty (hey, you're hot, let's go out) tend not to last.

Okay, gramatically incorrect and I probably went around in circles. Please don't think too hard about it Looks matter somewhat, but what can you do? You are you, and you could change, but why go through all that trouble? Try to forget the guy. If you still feel bummed, improve yourself and that'll give you more confidence?

[bcm]

If he is dating with you right now, he's going out with your "big eyes". The way I see it, that guy is not worth worrying about.

I think beauty certainly does play a role in relationship but its role is what mostly keeps the relationship going, then it's apparently just a superficial relationship. *bleh, too many relationships.

[Apple.Mint]

Eff him
but that does sounds like a BS excuse

however..beauty matters to an extent
yes..we need to look decent enough to attract attention toward our self
then by expressing friendliness and good personalities traits we reels in the fish and fry it [lol that was weird..xD]

however i do see lots of like differences and varieties in couples when it come to outer appearance
but like someone stated up there, mostly ugly guys with pretty girls and rarely the other other way around

i have always dated guys with..somewhat equal in looks lol
to me..those really hot guys isn't my type, it's like..i admire their handsomness but never actually like them how i would like my boyfriend and exes
i just know their nature [i know..stereotyping..sowy]

and as a person, i have shallowness inside me therefore dating someone i cant look at without puking is just utterly repulsive, i want to look at him and smile in delight..not wonder what the eff am i doing with this guy lol

it's okay, be glad that he was honest and you save yourself a heartbreak
it's true that pretty people do get ahead in life
but imagine this, looks/skin/outer appearance dies with age
but your brain will last longer =]

[maharu.]

You should be happy he rejected you. Damn I would be SO pissed.
I mean I have relatively big eyes but if someone liked me or disliked me for that, I'll be pissed and wishes they could just fall of a cliff lol.

I like people who loves themselves or feel comfortable with themselves.
Like Onew from SHINee, yeah he's a guy but he doesn't have the 'conventional' pretty boy look.
But I like him regardless. He has a nice smile and he has really cute eyes imo.

It just means you just need to find a person who likes you, for you.
Appearance is yeah a factor but once you really like a person...I don't think it matters as much as people think it does.

[buzyb33]

One word: SHALLOW
People tend to become less shallow as they age b/c they gradually find out that it's really hard to find someone that has the entire package.
Although being physically attractive does have it's advantages, once you get to know someone really well, looks don't matter.
It's also a fact that relationships where the female is better looking than the male are more successful.

[nubbie]

Maybe theres another reason and he doesn't want to say it cause he's a pansy. IDK. But that's such a petty reason why he doesn't want to go out with you.

[mouse1]

eyes not big enough is just an excuse.it all comes down to he doesnt find you attractive enough to his gf.

I don't see many if not any couples where the guy is shorter than the girl. Girl don't go out with shorter guys, which is again just a "physical feature". Should i consider the girls as shallow? definitely not, cuz that's how the world works.
The guys, don't like girls they are not attracted to, and they shouldn't be treated as shallow people.

[mintcracker]

^ Shorter guy thing is kinda diff from what this guy is thinking don't you think

I mean a girl wants to feel protected, it's just strange to date somebody shorter.

[darae]

there will always be that one guy out there who is totally mesmerized by your 'beauty'

my ex considered me to be cute but he said i wasn't pretty

my current bf thinks i'm hot and cute and sexy and beautiful. he told me that i'm exactly what he wants (personality/looks)

beauty? yeah it gets in the way. but i would think that PERSONALITY comes before beauty. like if you meet a guy who thinks you are beautiful but you are a total pinkberry, it'll get you nowhere.

yeah it's important to take care of yourself, but don't rely too much on looks. you need to be confident about yourself. showing guys that you are comfortable in your own skin and accepting yourself makes you that much more appealing. once guys see that confidence (not cockiness) they start to overlook many things.

(oh and this doesnt apply to middle/high school unfortunately [maybe the rare case])

[Swtess]

I wouldn't really say he's shallow. He just has his own personal preferences.
The guy is just giving you a bs excuse.
Who knows, he may prefer girls with big eyes. You can't really say a guy is shallow.
It's like an example earlier about girls preferring guys that are shorter. Its not like the guy can change his height.