[and i sayd]

guy's and girl's cheat so what do you think the main reasons behind cheating is?

is it right in some cases? or is it wrong in all cases?

care to share a story? D:

[the sweetest prince]

Its wrong for all reasons. If you want to make out or have sex with someone else at least have the decency to dump your gf/bf first.

[moot11]

Boredom, to hurt him/her, relieve stress, carnal desire. There's honestly tons of reason why people cheat on each other.

I think if monogamy is agreed upon, I can't think of any reasons where cheating might be "right,"neutral, maybe.

^ Also, dumping someone just so you can "cheat" on someone else, can hardly be categorized as decent, IMO.

[l3oosh]

Boy, do I have a story for this one.

Didn't happen directly to me. Two of my best friends are a couple, and we are ALWAYS hanging out together (yeah, yeah, I'm a third wheel). They've been together for four years, I've been best friends with the guy for seven years, and I've been best friends with the girl for three. I'm comfortable talking to both people, and they're both comfortable talking to me. I've talked to each of them separately, and both of them say they definitely plan on getting married to each other one day (yeah, typical boyfriend-girlfriend speech, but I felt that it was true) Then one day, the girl turns to me and says, "I know I'm not pretty."

I reply, "What? What do you mean?"

She explains how she knows she's not as pretty as all her cousins, her sisters, or her friends but quickly adds that it doesn't bother her. She also remarks that she kind of want to see what it's like to date other people but that she can't because to break up with the guy would break his heart. I know it actually does bother her otherwise she wouldn't bring it up, but I tell her that I've always thought she was a beautiful person, inside and out. That's why her boyfriend loves her so much. She thanks me, hugs me, and drops the subject. I forget about the conversation too until...

Months later, on the day of his birthday, I was waiting at the mall for the two of them to show up so he could pick out a birthday present from me. It was two hours past the time we had scheduled to meet up and neither of them was answering their phone. When I finally reached my guy friend, he told me he couldn't come to the birthday party I had planned for him because "he felt sick". A very BS reason, but I didn't press the issue since he sounded a little strange on the phone. But I insisted that he come by to pick up his present anyway. When he arrived with the girlfriend, they told me that they've broken up. She was crying her eyes out, and the guy looked very indifferent to the whole thing. I felt really shocked but didn't ask why since it wasn't good timing. I called both of them later that night, and they tell me they made up and were together again. When I ask her about it the next day, she says that someone had told him something that was untrue about her so he broke up their relationship. Again, I didn't press for details, but I asked my guy friend, and he kind of supported the same story with a few more details

Then a few weeks later, I find out from other friends that someone had told him, on his birthday, that his girlfriend was cheating on him. Apparently EVERYONE knew this was going on for months except me and the guy. She started cheating on him about a week after I had that weird conversation with her. Finally, one of our friends couldn't take it anymore and told him the truth on his birthday. Being a best friend to both of them, all these friends started coming to me and gave me evidence (horrible photos and videos, I tell you. The guy she cheated on him with was a jerk).

But then I remembered that both of them had told me that someone had told him something that wasn't true, so I thought, "Oh God, what if she convinced him that everything he had been told on his birthday was a lie?" I tried to stay out of it and even hung out with the both of them a couple of times, but then I found myself completely unable to even look at them anymore. They noticed something odd about me every time we hung out and remarked how odd I looked when I smiled, laughed, etc. And half the time we were all together, they said I looked like I was about to cry. Finally, I decided to confront the girl about what I knew - but my friends told me that she was probably going to lie to me too and tell me that it wasn't true and pushed me to tell the guy first. So I did...and found out that she never told him it was untrue; the two of them just concocted a tale about how they had been wronged by a lie in order to save face. They didn't want me to think badly about her and had wanted me to be the only "pure" person to not know the truth about what happened. So now, due to this huge drama, the girl won't speak to me anymore. And the guy, ever supportive of his girlfriend, won't either.

So...that was the roundabout way of answering your question. Short answer: My opinion is, in this particular case, the girl cheated on her significant other because it was the only way she felt attractive to other people. It's sad, but I guess it happens.

[GOOMBA]

I don't believe in MY cheating on an S/O,
however I do feel that a person cheats on their S/O because they're lacking satisfaction in any one or more categories

[kerpao]

i think a person would cheat on their S.O because the got bored either of their s.o or of their current relationship and want to explore the world. like "what if i blah blah blah?" i've had thoughts like these, but at the ended of the day, i decided to stay true and loyal to my one.

[小甜密]

It's wrong in all cases. Sometimes you do it conciously, sometimes you don't.

[angels.disguise]

wrong in every situation.
some do it for stupid reasons
some do it because they feel they are lacking something in their current relationships
some do it because they cant keep it in their pants

in any case, for any reason, there is nothing to "justify" yourself.

[PhuongNguyen]

Wrong in all cases...

There's various reason to why a person will cheat; but all of those reason are rubbish, and it just comes down to the fact that they have no self control and have no respect for the person they're with.

[plegend2007]

NO EXCUSES, PERIOD!

EXCUSES ARE WHAT THEY ARE, JUST EXCUSES!

THEY DO IT BECAUSE THEY WANT TOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!

IF YOU ACCEPT IT FOR THE REASON OF LOVING THEM...YOU ARE A SUCKAAAAAAAAA!

[and i sayd]

Boredom, to hurt him/her, relieve stress, carnal desire. There's honestly tons of reason why people cheat on each other.

I think if monogamy is agreed upon, I can't think of any reasons where cheating might be "right,"neutral, maybe.

^ Also, dumping someone just so you can "cheat" on someone else, can hardly be categorized as decent, IMO.

what if you just wanted that spark like the beginning of the relationship again but going out on small dates?

[ellyphant]

we were sitting and chatting to my bf[now ex] over the net.
he turned and gave me a kiss, i didnt push him off, and kissed him back.
so i cheated .
the end.

that's not an excuse. so stop blaming everyone for excuses.

it depends on the case. i think it's just mean to not really know but to give crap to people for it. yes it is wrong but seriously don't bash.

[the sweetest prince]

we were sitting and chatting to my bf[now ex] over the net.
he turned and gave me a kiss, i didnt push him off, and kissed him back.
so i cheated .
the end.

that's not an excuse. so stop blaming everyone for excuses.

it depends on the case. i think it's just mean to not really know but to give crap to people for it. yes it is wrong but seriously don't bash.

Why shouldnt we bash? Its totally selfish to cheat on your spouse. We're not bashing you for betraying your bf, we're bashing the act.

[Untouchable_M]

we were sitting and chatting to my bf[now ex] over the net.
he turned and gave me a kiss, i didnt push him off, and kissed him back.
so i cheated .
the end.

that's not an excuse. so stop blaming everyone for excuses.

it depends on the case. i think it's just mean to not really know but to give crap to people for it. yes it is wrong but seriously don't bash.

Thats pretty selfish.

The only reason people cheat is to feel big about themselves. But at the end of the day, no one thinks big of a cheater.

[nubbie]

i think the main reason (no matter how you want to word it) is because they're not satisfied. Isn't it obvious when the someone has a s/o AND then someone else on the side? And the person who's cheating obviously isn't in love, or else they would've never even considered cheating.

i personally, have never.

[and i sayd]

i think the main reason (no matter how you want to word it) is because they're not satisfied. Isn't it obvious when the someone has a s/o AND then someone else on the side? And the person who's cheating obviously isn't in love, or else they would've never even considered cheating.

i personally, have never.

i know people who are satisfy but still continue to do it for the rush

[ShadowMax76]

evolutionary perspective, for reproductive purposes.

males were somewhat designed to cheat. the only thing stopping them was true love's loyalty_ the investment they put into trying to obtain the female's heart/body.. to take care of the child that came so that your genes could live on. and 'next'.

females not so much [9months]. but they still did. [hence kamikaze sperm, rofl. look it up] because
1. it doesn't matter who. the kid's always going to be her's anyways.
2. they thought they needed a 'back-up male' in case their man left them_ to death, to another female, etc.
_ that and if the man couldn't support her. obviously a stronger male would take his place easily _

but rules and all have been set down these days.

. what reasons i've heard:

"it's not like i'm the only one cheating." . she thought his bf was cheating on her.

"i'm not sure.. i love them both" ... john tesh off. just john tesh off. if you loved them both, you'd choose one or none so you wouldn't hurt both of them with the devastating thought of betrayal.

"things just lead from one thing to another" .. self-control? who knows how many people your s/o have said 'no' to. and for you to fold under just one hot guy/girl that says hi. =='

oh yeah. i've noticed those kinds of people always want to be 'in control' of people.

[nubbie]

i know people who are satisfy but still continue to do it for the rush

they want the rush because there's no rush in their relationship anymore. Therefore they're unsatisfied cause there's no longer any excitement there...if that makes any sense. it did in my head lol

[sweet/nothing]

I'm not one to promote cheating on one's s/o or spouse. But see you can't just categorize all cheating as black and white there are certain grey areas and yes certain things do drive someone to cheat. My reason for this is my 18 years spent with my parents and I've seen what an physical and emotional abusive relationship can lead to.

Long story short, dad=bubble gum - cheated on mom multiple times but were forgiven, had irrational reasons to believe my mom was the one cheating on him loooong before anything happened. Physically abused my mom, by beating her and sexually abusing her. One time it was so bad she couldn't go to work for 2 days.
Anyway, after that one big incident my mom finally had enough and was not purposely looking for a new relationship. The man was her friend and they bonded over being in the same situation. As a result my mother developed feelings for the man but nothing was too serious besides the fact that they had dinner a couple of times and would contact each other through email/phone.
Dad found out and got pissed, filed for divorce. Said mom was a lying cheating b-tch from the beginning. After being together for 25+years.

Moral of the story: dad is a Richard. mom is a forgiving softhearted pansy. marriage failed.

now I'd like people to tell me it was wrong for her to cheat. but again, consider what you would do under the same circumstances.

[Dreamer]

everyone i know says bad sex or no sex