[Judith]

Are you close to any guy that has a girlfriend?
When i say close, i mean like hugging eachother, thickle and give eachother massage. Alot of physical contact is what im saying.

Is this right to do so?
Don't you feel guilty?

[i_4got]

Are you close to any guy that has a girlfriend?
When i say close, i mean like hugging eachother, thickle and give eachother massage. Alot of physical contact is what im saying.

Is this right to do so?
Don't you feel guilty?

I think it's totally fine as long as their no sexual attraction going on. Of course, if the guy's girlfriend is the jealous type, there might be a little drama in store for you guys.

I'm a guy, and I'm close like that to a lot of girls. But I always make sure that their boyfriends are fine with it first. If they're not fine with it, I try not to get too touchy. But some people are just like that; they can be really physically close to a friend of the opposite sex without any sexual intention.

[NorMooNaMoo]

it's not guilty if you have no feelings for him.
but then again, it'll be better not to do it because of jealousy.
if his girlfriend is fine with it then it's ok.

[`faded]

haha I'm close with one of my guy friends like that..well not the tickling part o_O LOL..but we do give each other massages and his ex didn't seem to mind nor the gf he has now..LOL we're pretty close we talk to each other alot about things and stuff but to me I would NEVER date him ahahaha..and I think vice versa =P loll..so ya XD

[Meenuh]

No I don't have any relationships like that. I'd feel sorry for the gf and if I were the gf i'd feel extremely uncomfortable. I think it's common courtesy not to be that way towards guys that are taken. I'm not even like that with my single friends that i've known since elementary.

[CharlotteDarcy]

I think it's ok. But make sure to ask him to consider his girlfriend's feeling to see if she's ok with it first. It's just common courtesy.

[linuhhparkk]

well yeah, i guess it's fine.
unless the girlfriend's having issues or something.
then maybe you shouldn't be so physical and whatnot, and lay off a littke.

[小甜密]

Giving each other massages??? On the back or shoulders? O_O

If it's on the back, I say baaaaaack off from that guy.
If its on the shoulder, I suppose it's okay. Just don't let his hands go any lower.

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

er......... if your boyfriend did that, I think you'll get angry.
So I don't see how it's alright to do such stuff.

If it's just a hug for goodbyes and stuff, or bdays, or any occassions, I guess that's fine.

[smilesunshine]

If it's just a hug for goodbyes and stuff, or bdays, or any occassions, I guess that's fine.

These are certainly exceptions, but otherwise it's a bit unsettling. To a certain degree it may be harmless if there is no mutual attraction, but there should a line drawn somewhere. Not to mention, it doesn't help with your image by doing so in the first place. By the way, it's not solely about jealously but disrespect to the other partner.

[RYUUSEi]

No, not alot of physical contact. That would be kind of ... weird and disrespectful to their s/o's. I have two male friends that I'm quite close with, so we hug when we see each other but anything more than that and I would feel like I'm stepping on someone's (their girlfriends) toes. I'm quite cautious when it comes to physical contact with people in general, let alone people in relationships (again, in fear of stepping on somebody's toes). Rumours and misunderstandings can erupt over the slightest skin-contact, lol, and I hate getting dragged into drama especially when it's caused by insecure and jealous people in relationships.

I don't know, maybe it's just me.

[Apple.Mint]

lol my first rule when i have a boyfriend is
his bestfriend cannot be a girlfriend
i know so immature and whatever, but it's my way of ensuring no drama and unnecessary fight will happens.
I'm someone who has trust issue and is easily jealous xD therefore if avoidable, let's try to avoid all possible causes
life is tiring enough, we dont need the extra drama from relationships no?

and also, like other soompiers said, it is disrespectful, in my opinion, to be so physically close with a guy or girl who's taken. Even if their s/o doesn't mind, i still woudlnt like that, 'cause seriously that's just rude. Go find your own man to touch and massage..if he/she wants a massage, then why not go ask his/her gf/bf right? why ask a friend? if it's like once in awhile cuz his/her s/o is busy and no sexual touching involves it's fine, but more than a few times is wrong =]

[seafood]

No, not alot of physical contact. That would be kind of ... weird and disrespectful to their s/o's. I have two male friends that I'm quite close with, so we hug when we see each other but anything more than that and I would feel like I'm stepping on someone's (their girlfriends) toes. I'm quite cautious when it comes to physical contact with people in general, let alone people in relationships (again, in fear of stepping on somebody's toes). Rumours and misunderstandings can erupt over the slightest skin-contact, lol, and I hate getting dragged into drama especially when it's caused by insecure and jealous people in relationships.

I don't know, maybe it's just me.

i feel the same way

anyway IMO when their girlfriend say that they don't mind i'm
pretty sure they do. My ex boyfriend have a girl bestfriend & in front of me at time
they will mess around, touching & sometime i even feel left out & im not even the jealous type, (but then i guess it depend on the person?)
so yeah to me is like a totally no no i have guys friend i hang out with (who have girlfriend) but never do i have those physical contact w/ them (beside hugging when i see them or when i leave)

[myGLAMrocks]

Since he has has a girlfriend already, you should stop the physical contact. I find it quite disrespectful to the gf because I know for sure i don't want any woman massaging my man.

[hishari]

Please don't do that. It's unfair for the girlfriend.

[hippiehop]

I think that if you have respect for their relationship, you wouldn't act like that with a guy with a girlfriend. I'd feel uneasy if my boyfriend acted like that with a girl... and I'm sure my boyfriend would feel uneasy about it too.

[Terazu]

My rule is -- if I was friends for a long while before he met his current g.f.

I can still hug him and pinkberry at each other / tickling. If the girls gotta problem with it,
she can bring it up to me. But not one of them has so far, so we'll keep it at that.

...I dont think ive ever massaged my guy friends though x3 XD;;

If i met the guy when he's already got a girlfriend. then no physical contact if I can help it.

friends are friends. I guess I just dont allow any grey area here.

[thesisoflove]

I don't tickle them LOL,
I mean, if what I do to my close guy friends really piss his girlfriend off =/ I wouldn't do it so much considering I don't want to cause drama etc,

[iyseal]

Are you close to any guy that has a girlfriend?
When i say close, i mean like hugging eachother, thickle and give eachother massage. Alot of physical contact is what im saying.

Is this right to do so?
Don't you feel guilty?

I do not have a lot of physical contact with any of my close guy friends who has a girlfriend.
I mean, not that I am insecure, but if I saw my boyfriend tickling or giving some girl a massage I would be probably pissed. I trust my boyfriend. But then again, if they were acting like that, I think I would slowly get more and more paranoid.

[abviolinplayer]

No I don't have any relationships like that. I'd feel sorry for the gf and if I were the gf i'd feel extremely uncomfortable. I think it's common courtesy not to be that way towards guys that are taken. I'm not even like that with my single friends that i've known since elementary.

yeah, same here...I'm kinda the jealous type, so if a girl was getting all touchy with my bf I'd tell her to back off...and I wouldn't be very nice about it. haha