[hiphopislove21]

So..
I’ve been having a crush since early February. I noticed a fobby looking asian guy on the other side of my art class. Later on, I decided to move over to where he sits and yeah that’s how it all started.
There were some singing contests last week going on during lunch at our school. He asked me that we should watch it together so I’m like sure why not? He’d wait for near my class during lunch so we could walk over there together, etc. Remember, I have a huge crush on this guy and we’re now friends. After the competition was over, there was still some remaining lunch time left. I offered/suggested that he should spend some time with me and all.

I dunno though. Although I’m much attracted to him, I’m not sure if he feels the same way. Or possibly just as friends. Because even on msn, its usually me iming to him first and our chats eventually die. At school, we do talk and all but there’s been times when there are awkward silences in between. Note that he is a shy but a really nice guy who moved to USA during freshman year. (Btw I’m a junior. He’s a senior) He used to go to an art highschool but just moved to my school this year. I can understand he’s shy and trying to adjust, but I dunno what to do about this?

In short, I like a guy, but I’m not sure if he feels the same. He’s shy and I’m pretty shy myself, but I’m usually the one starting up conversations, etc. Should I move on or what should I do? Advices are welcome =]

Also: Not exactly related but knowing that there’s approximately 2-3 months of school left before summer, it is possible for a junior and a senior to be in a relationship? Do they last? Since the junior still has a year more of highschool and senior is going to graduate soon and be off to college.

[goook]

At this point, there isn't enough to say whether he likes you or not. But regarding his lack of approach, I can say there's still a possibility even if he doesn't show it. I don't want to get your hopes up, but there are a number of people like that. I, myself, take careful consideration into how I act to make sure I don't come off as needy. I use to be a pretty needy guy and upon realizing that, I opted to control myself and my actions towards girls I was into. This 'self-control' was commonly mistaken for lack of interest and many assumed I didn't care. Now, does this apply to him? I can't tell you. But, simply that it's a possibility. (Don't get hung up over a slight possibility though. Sometimes, it's healthier to let go and move on.)

As for the age and school year difference, it's really up to you guys - if you do get together. It works for some people and likewise, it doesn't for others. It's something you two should talk about. Come up with a plan or a way to work things out. If you two realize it won't work, then, that's that. Don't lie to yourselves thinking it'll work out when it's clear it won't, because that mentality will change along the road. It depends where he's attending school, how often he'll be around, how committed you two are, and mainly, whether or not you two are mature enough for a long distance relationship. I'm in a relationship with someone who's 3 years older than I am and she currently lives in California. I, at the moment, live in New York. But, it works and she'll be moving here within a few months. Such relationships are not for everyone and it definitely is difficult. We don't know if he likes you, but if he does and things move along, make sure to talk about it with him.

[_xJASEY]

im kind of in the same situation as you ..

its still too early to tell, since you guys have been just talking [right?]
i say ask him out if he wants to go hangout after school or something.
and if he says sure, then get to know him show you're interested in him a lil.
carpe diem yo [=

haha. as for me ima do the same thing thats if he doesnt have a game

[hiphopislove21]

Mhmm. I've known him since late January?
Yeah, once in a while i'd drop small hints here and there, but I'm not sure if he picked them up.

He's a lot different from most guys in my school as well. He's pretty sensitive, independent, shy, a bit of an introvert, and really nice? Kinda like those typical "nice guys" if you get what I mean.

[riceavocado]

It's so hard to keep a relationship when someone graduates, you guys would have to seriously be in love by summer. If you think that's possible then it could work out, but if nothing happens by graduation it may be hopeless.

[bonjour tristesse.]

well, maybe he likes you and maybe he doesnt. but thats if you guys have spent alot of time already with each other. a way you can find out if he does like you is if you tell him how you feel. you never know so you should just take the chance.

as for the age difference, im a freshman and my boyfriends a senior ; we dont worry about those kinda things because we don't want our future to be all planned.

if the guy and you ended up together and he actually liked you, you two can be miles apart and he'll still be faithfull to you. dont worry about it, the biggest struggle about your situation is confessing to him as you say your a pretty shy person

[Seraphyx]

Why would you move on? He hasn't given any clear signals that he does not like you. If he is shy, it's really up to you to take the role of the "chaser" and see how far you can get. Don't give up just yet. Fighting~~

[hiphopislove21]

It's so hard to keep a relationship when someone graduates, you guys would have to seriously be in love by summer. If you think that's possible then it could work out, but if nothing happens by graduation it may be hopeless.

Well, luckily his college is still in the same city. ^^ So he won't be moving out of town/state.

At this point, there isn't enough to say whether he likes you or not. But regarding his lack of approach, I can say there's still a possibility even if he doesn't show it. I don't want to get your hopes up, but there are a number of people like that. I, myself, take careful consideration into how I act to make sure I don't come off as needy. I use to be a pretty needy guy and upon realizing that, I opted to control myself and my actions towards girls I was into. This 'self-control' was commonly mistaken for lack of interest and many assumed I didn't care. Now, does this apply to him? I can't tell you. But, simply that it's a possibility. (Don't get hung up over a slight possibility though. Sometimes, it's healthier to let go and move on.)

Yeah, I guess so. That could be possible since I used to be shy and seem uninterested in crushes in the past, when I really did like them.
Thanks though! I'll definitely give this more time and see where it goes.

well, maybe he likes you and maybe he doesnt. but thats if you guys have spent alot of time already with each other. a way you can find out if he does like you is if you tell him how you feel. you never know so you should just take the chance.

as for the age difference, im a freshman and my boyfriends a senior ; we dont worry about those kinda things because we don't want our future to be all planned.

if the guy and you ended up together and he actually liked you, you two can be miles apart and he'll still be faithfull to you. dont worry about it, the biggest struggle about your situation is confessing to him as you say your a pretty shy person

Yeah recently, we've been not only spending time during art classes, but we have lunch together and walk around the campus. Just us two

Aw, yeah I hope so. I guess thinks can work out depending on the circumstances/situation. Thanks!