[starry_sushi]

so this is my first time posting here but i just needed advice.

so my mom and older sister fought today cause my older sister is pregnant..again..
my family had forgiven her at first w/ her first pregnancy because it is a joy to have a little baby.. well kid now.. in the family.
his a naughty (sometimes) and sweet little boy and i care about him so much since his the first ever boy in our family (excl. my dad)

so now my mom decided to take abroad my little nephew and let him stay there permanently w/ his great grandmothers.
i know they will take good care of him but i don't feel it's right....

btw the mom (old sis.) is currently unemployed and the mini cooperhole bf won't even help her out on anything.
i can't help her also since i'm paying my college tuition myself.
so my parents are taking care of all the the expenses for my nephew.

i'm devasted to hear the news of my nephew leaving us
and i know i won't be seeing him 'til he turn 10 (his one years old turning 2 in 6 months) cause that also happened to my sis and I.
they left me w/ my grandma and it's sad because i still feel distant w/ my parents and it's been about 9 years i'm living w/ them.

i'm crying my eyes out.. and his not even my child but i love my nephew so so much.
his leaving in 2 weeks and i'm devastated i don't want him to leave.

what if he don't recognize us? his mom?
his only 1 yrs old for goodness sake.

it's not fair for his mother and him.
but my older sis (his mom) has no option since she has no money
and now she's expecting another child.


please give me advice on not feeling so sad cause i think i cried more than my older sister did.
and pls also give me advice on how to make the mom (older sis) get through this.

i don't know how to handle this situation i feel so bad and sad for both of them.

i only know 2 positive side is to help her look for a job and look out for her.

pls don't post any negative comment i feel so devastated already.

[AHLEENA]

Try to tell yourself it's OK. You can send your nephew presents and pictures. You can ask to recieve pictures in return. You can use the phone, the internet, email, and various other ways to communicate.

But it's OK, you said you will see him again in ten years (it seems very long) however, remember, you can always visit!

[SHINEE_jonghyun<3]

well, there's nothing you can really do about this situation because i think your mom's mind is already set.
but theres alot of new ways of communication these days..if you're worried about him not recognizing you later..
there's webcamming (if your grandmother has), and theres a camera you can hook up to the television and you guys could talk through that. its like...a television phone....
i mean it won't be the same as having him around, but its better than not seeing him at all
hope that helps..

and don't feel too bad about it.
it probably is the best decision.

[Seraphyx]

It's for the nephew's best interests. Your sister has no income and you are not able to help her financially since you are paying your tuition. Who is going to take care of the little boy? You? Yeah right, you're in no position to help your sister, so you're also in no position to have any say where the little boy is to go. Think of it this way, it's for his best interests, he's not some little adorable play thing you can have around. Just tell her it's for the best and tell her to take birth control from now on.

[chocolate*]

Your sister can become more responsible.. Work hard and make some money so that she's in a position to financially support herself and her family...
The sooner she can do this she can get her son back and you can get your nephew back before he turns 10...

[Miki_miki]

All the responses are correct. It's for your nephew's sake and I'm sure he might be worse and worse if he still living with his mother who apparently has a lack of responsibility. And useless father. He will grow as good person with his grand parents. For you, just concentrate on your study so you could become a better person than your sister did.
Peace ^^v