[illumiinate]

Thank you everyone for all the comments and suggestions! It honestly gave me a better view of my friendship, I'm going to try and slowly end it. Saves me any future problems that'll most likely occur again, so thanks again!

[Mizuki168]

Well I say if she's a good friend then she's a good friend. We're girls >< we have mood swings and you should know that =P Maybe it's because it was her birthday and you are one of her close friends that she was a bit offended and if you kick in the hormonal imbalances... then you get the result of what you just experienced =] Odds are that you guys are probably going to be okay with each other after a few weeks and I guess that's when you can talk about the way you feel towards her. Ranting is a good thing it lets you vent out your feelings; now do this to your friend but in a more rational way so she doesn't go mutant on you ;]

[AngieK]

Well it seems like she's overreacting. But at the same time you have to see things the way she does too. It was her birthday and she probably felt really disappointed since she was only planning a dinner with four friends (in which case if two are absent that's like the whole party).

I know what it feels like because on my birthday I wanted a small dinner with my friends and half of them couldn't make it. It's been a month and I still haven't celebrated with them. And no, I don't blame my friends because I understand life can be busy but at the same time I feel very depressed/sad when I think about it. Why? Because all you ask for on that one day out of a year is to spend time with the ones you care about. And when it doesn't happen you can't help but feel let down (for whatever reason). I felt like I was always there when my friends needed me but they were never there when I needed them.

But..I don't blow a casket and start yelling at my friends either. So...she seems like a very emotional person...

but about ending your friendship..in the end that decision is up to you. You are the one who knows her good sides and her bad. You are the one with the memories of your friendship. And most importantly, you are the one who knows what you can handle.

My ex best friend in high school used to be exactly like your friend. The whole playful teasing and making me feel inferior. And I say ex because we don't talk much anymore. I decided to end our friendship and even after she apologized things were just never the same. There isn't one day that I don't regret my decision. Why? Because I realized I had lost so much more then I had gained. She may have had her faults but there were also loads of times where she was a great friend. I could've avoided all the pain and confronted her about our problems, worked it out and still maintained a good friendship.

You can confront her and try to work things out. If things don't change, move on. Or you can just move on. In the end, just make sure you look at it from all angles so you don't have to regret.

[cowsie]

It seems that she's been jealous of you all the time. And probably wanted you to go to her birthday because its her spotlight on her birthday day. She probably wanted to get you jealous but she failed. =x

[phoenix rise]

how can you miss your friends birthday party? and it was dumb of you to tell your coach that you were gonna miss a practice cause of a birthday party. in case you didn't know, coaches are like military drill instructors that do not accept any weakness whatsoever.

[han.yung]

I have a friend like that too. Sometimes she can be great and all, but a lot of times she's just really nasty.
She would call me fat and stupid in "subtle" ways, gloat when she got better grades, wouldn't speak to me when I did better,
got mad at me for not giving her enough attention, never apologizes, treats my friend (who is the absolutely sweetest and
most innocent girl in the world) like crap, invites herself to my own home even when I tell her I can't have guests because I'm busy.
I don't have any classes with her this year, which kinda makes me feel more relieved that I don't have to deal with the stress
and just general inferior feelings that she gives me. But I've learned to ignore her comments & be more firm against her
because she just isn't worth it. "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
In my opinion, I'm surprised you haven't blown up at her yet.
I think these kinds of people honestly cannot be changed by anyone but themselves. You're gonna have to wait
until she decides that she wants to grow up and start taking into consideration that everyone can't always be there
for her or do things the way she wants.
I think it's a whole "frenemy" thing. You're part of her life enough that she considers you a friend, but she
also subconsciously sees you as competition. Though I do agree with AngieK, she was probably really
disappointed that you guys couldn't make it to her birthday dinner, but just completely overreacted. Especially
since you offered to skip just because you saw how upset she was even though you would get cut.
Can't she reschedule? I think celebrating a belated birthday with all her friends should mean more than celebrating on the actual date.
In the end, it is you're decision on whether you want to be friends with her or not.
But maybe you should confront her about all of it. Be really firm about it, and let her know what she says and does
really bothers you. What she said about you and your car is very disrespectful.
And kinda towards what Mizuki168 wrote: sure, girls get mood swings, but so does everyone else. It shouldn't be
an excuse for irrational reactions, just like how people shouldn't blame everything a girl does on PMS. I don't see the
OP reacting towards her friend in the same way her friend reacted. And even though after a while, you might get
along again, but I'll say out of experience something will probably happen again. But, I do agree that you, the OP, should say the same things you did in you post, just be careful not to make it seem like you're cornering her and just loading this all out onto her or she'll
probably react irrationally to defend herself.
I hope this helps, and good luck working everything out.

[Babiebim]

post this on myspace. kill her before she kills you.

jk

just go tell her you do not believe it is up to your advantage to hang out with her, a healthy relationship should be somewhat compromising, all i see is some hormonal teenager who cries over everything. to be honest, i stopped talking to my best friend half a year ago too, its hard, but you know, she gotta go wen she gotta go.

the worst part is when she knows all of ur friends and have the power to make them think ur a pinkberry, but speaking from experience, most people probably think of her the same way you do, they're just not telling you...

[xxdis0riental]

Oh goodness, it seems like all of the problems your friend has are problems I've had with many people in the past. She's going to be the person she's going to be, and no matter how many times you complain or try to change it, she won't unless if she changes herself. I've had a HUGE problem with someone who would make me the butt of their jokes often--crudely nonetheless, and would smile in my face and turn the tables on me if I tried to talk about it maturely without any arguing or blaming.

This is pretty complex but to help the issue, I have a few questions: How irritated are you about this? What exactly would she do if you started ignoring her?

I have a feeling this is just going to end with her pissing you off to nothing and you'll end up not talking to her anymore. I've been in this situation before with people and that always ends up happening. How do your other friends feel about her? Are they irritated with her as much as you are or less?

[bonjour tristesse.]

this 'friend' of yours, i dont think she really supports you. being all dramatic all because you cant go to her birthday party or dinner what not isnt really supportive. but maybe she didn't know the reason why you guys couldnt go? if she does then just let things be. let her cool off and yeah maybe when she gets better you guys arent going to be bestfriends but its for the better. as for ending the friendship, i can definetly see why you'd want to do that and i think id do the same thing too

[&. crepuscular]

It seems that she's been jealous of you all the time. And probably wanted you to go to her birthday because its her spotlight on her birthday day. She probably wanted to get you jealous but she failed. =x

ditto.
i'm surprised you're still her friend. if it was me, i'd just tell her to fck off, not kidding. there are way better friends to hang out with. and i'd never be able to stand being used. = =

[illumiinate]

how can you miss your friends birthday party? and it was dumb of you to tell your coach that you were gonna miss a practice cause of a birthday party. in case you didn't know, coaches are like military drill instructors that do not accept any weakness whatsoever.

Have you read any part of what I posted?

This is pretty complex but to help the issue, I have a few questions: How irritated are you about this? What exactly would she do if you started ignoring her?

I'm actually extremely irritated over this... it's just the little things that have accumulated over time. And I've already begun ignoring her, and the first thing she did was tell other people about how I've stopped talking to her out of nowhere. I've had random people in my class asking me "What's wrong?" and "Why aren't you talking to _____?" And she complains about me to my friend Elaine

she probably felt really disappointed since she was only planning a dinner with four friends (in which case if two are absent that's like the whole party).

It was actually supposed to be only her and her family out celebrating but her mom asked her to invite four friends as an after though XD But yeah, I understand what you mean. I'm not a big fan of my birthday so I try to get the day over with as soon as possible. I guess everyone's different though.





And thanks everyone for all the comments/advices! Really helped