[norther]

I called this girl today and she didnt answer. So I call her after 20min using my home phone and she answered, probably not knowing it was gonna be me. (she didn't even call me back on my cell)

She told me to call her anytime but I guess she was just trying to be nice.

I asked her if she had time tomorrow and she said I'm busy tomorrow. I told her I was gonna buy her dinner and she told me to buy her on wed. (I said I wasn't gonna buy her that day)

On wed. me, my friend, the girl are going to the zoo.

Whenever I ask her in class she says yes to my invitation. This was my first time calling her and trying to do something nice. But she rejected my invitation to hang out.

This girl doesnt have interest in me right? because of the phone incident & for not accepting my invitation to hang out. right?


I think I'm gonna start ignoring her in class now and find a new girl

[AHLEENA]

Maybe you should try calling her on your cell once more... to double check if she really doesn't want to answer. o_o

And you don't need to ignore her -0- you can still be friends even if she might not like you that way ;;

But yeah, uhm, good luck

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

you've just proven to her how clingy you are.
So yes, she lose interest on you now.

Just act like nothing happened but do not call her again.
Talk in class okay, but not so much texting/call or whatever.

[chopstick^^]

best thing is to ask her, and also it depend how long u known each other. Some girl's ain't that easy to fall for someone, it takes time for some.

[norther]

ive known her for about 8 months now but we never hanged out.

she said things like

1. do you have a gf, (i said no) and she asked why.
2. ur sexy.
3. you never call me
4. do you not have interest in me.
and so on...

so i thought she was interested in me (but i was wrong XD)

(she said it in korean) I dont understand korean much

[AHLEENA]

^I still think you should call her at least 'once' more or go up and talk to her face-to-face.

Just ask her if she's interested in you. At least she might give you a straight answer. lol.

[chopstick^^]

oic, well it's normal for u to get the wrong message. Because it sound like she was flirting with u.

Maybe she just like's to flirt. Find someone better, if u dnt like her. It's wrong to lead ppl on.

But u mite wanna confirm that n ask her if she like u or not..

[bonjour tristesse.]

the way you describe it, constant calling and such, you sound a bit clingy. try not to show it as much that you have a little something something for her and she'll go your way if she likes you. you wouldn't want her to think of you as annoying would you?

[norther]

today was my first time calling her to ask her to hang out

i called her 2 times

once on my cell and once on my home phone.

she got my miss call but didnt call back She answered her phone when i used my home phone because she didnt know it was me.


if a girl likes me.. they usually call me first. this girl is different. she never calls me. I never called a girl (first), I always received calls.


(she might like me but find it difficult to communicate with me) who knows.. but i hate it when girls dont answer the phone

[bonjour tristesse.]

if a girl likes me.. they usually call me first. this girl is different. she never calls me. I never called a girl (first), I always received calls.

well, is she the shy types? cause if she is then of course she wouldn't call you at first. if not, its either her playing hard to get or shes not that into you.

[chopstick^^]

Maybe she is playing hard to get.

[norther]

well, is she the shy types? cause if she is then of course she wouldn't call you at first. if not, its either her playing hard to get or shes not that into you.

well.. its hard to tell if she is shy or not.
since she doesnt speak english much... she is always quiet. only person she talk to is my friend. which is her baking class partner and my best friend. I always have to initiate a convo with her. She rarely talks to me. When I talk to her she laughs a lot. She once told me that I was a funny person and that she likes it.

My friend is from korea and she is too so they got something in common. I'm from america and I don't like asian culture much. I'm into heavy metal, skating, playing guitar, game so... the girl and I have nothing in common.


Also she always ask my friend for help. When I try to help her she says its okay.
another thing is... even when I make rude comments she never yells at me. But when my friend doesn't something wrong.. she yells at him.

my friend likes her a lot so he tries to not let me hang out with her alone. in my mind the girl is using my friend because she needs ride to class and back home. the girl knows i don't like wasting my gas because i dont work.

[AHLEENA]

o.o...

well, you only called her twice.
and you said the time interval was 20 minutes between the calls.

maybe when you called on your cellphone, she was busy- washroom, shower, eating, out, not home?
and then after, when you called on home phone, she was available again? i dunno.

It seems that you don't even know her well even though you said you knew her for 8 months (or something)??? Just try to get to know her more... be her friend first?? How do you know you even like her if you don't even know her that well :S (you said she only talks to the friend and not to you o_o)

maybe you should go find another girl to like after all. o_o

(and it seems your friend likes her and you know it... and she talks to him more than you- so I don't know what you are trying to do. Haha. And I re-read what you wrote again so I am editting this, and.. uh. why do you want to go out with her if you believe she's using your friend??? do you want her to use you too and yell at you too???)

[Pandarah]

I think I'm gonna start ignoring her in class now and find a new girl

That's so so so UGHHHHH I HATE IT WHEN GUYS DO THAT.
It seems so .... rude. guys have done that otme before, talk to, ask me out, I say no, they cut off all connections.
Are they trying to defend their masculinity or something ? Or are girls only worth talking to unless you get to go out with them ?
It sounds like she's just flirting though
Or she finds it hard to talk to you .

My friend is from korea and she is too so they got something in common. I'm from america and I don't like asian culture much. I'm into heavy metal, skating, playing guitar, game so... the girl and I have nothing in common.

Ummmm, you kind of solved your own question . Most Asian girls aren't as attracted to American guys as they think we are....
And considering if she just came from Korea I doubt she likes ANY of the things you just said you like.
And if you don't like her culture.....then how ? Geez, guys

[xorgasmxmachinex]

if a girl likes me.. they usually call me first. this girl is different. she never calls me. I never called a girl (first), I always received calls.

Wow you serious? I never call guys. I mean I'll call my guy friends, but if its a guy that likes me...well its obvious he'll call me, right?

From the looks of it, she is either playing hard to get...or she really doesn't like you in that way. Yeah, move on.

[lil_azn_angel]

well... you can't really say that she doesn't like you. if she has said stufff like :

1. do you have a gf, (i said no) and she asked why.
2. ur sexy.
3. you never call me
4. do you not have interest in me.
and so on...

then i'm pretty sure the girl takes interest in you. Maybe she is trying to not give herself in too much, or in a bad saying she is playing hard to get. Like I know sometimes when a girl likes a guy, and finally that guy takes interest in her some girls will try not to show too much affection and let the guys do all the work because she doens't want to seem desparate. I'm not sure if thats the case here, but I'm just trying to point out a possibility.

Well I'd say you try to talk to her some more, but don't do it too much if you get the feeling of being rejected. But from what I've read you've only called her 2 times so its no biggie. Just wait a few days .. call her again, ask her to hang out again. and we'll see what happens

goodluck!

[norther]

o.o...

well, you only called her twice.
and you said the time interval was 20 minutes between the calls.

maybe when you called on your cellphone, she was busy- washroom, shower, eating, out, not home?
and then after, when you called on home phone, she was available again? i dunno.

It seems that you don't even know her well even though you said you knew her for 8 months (or something)??? Just try to get to know her more... be her friend first?? How do you know you even like her if you don't even know her that well :S (you said she only talks to the friend and not to you o_o)

maybe you should go find another girl to like after all. o_o

(and it seems your friend likes her and you know it... and she talks to him more than you- so I don't know what you are trying to do. Haha. And I re-read what you wrote again so I am editting this, and.. uh. why do you want to go out with her if you believe she's using your friend??? do you want her to use you too and yell at you too???)

i just wanna get to know her better and be her friend outside of school. Only time i see her is in class.

Should I call her next week friday and ask her if she wanna hang out on saturday? if she says she is busy than... shes definitely not interested in me.

but i dont know if i wanna hear another rejection LOL

[AHLEENA]

^I don't know. I'm sure you'll come up with a decision on what to do yourself!

Good luck!

[littleangel19]

You should maybe confront her. I know there are girls who are nice to guys, but show no interest to them. Like what you describe, girls can be nice to you, and show no interest. I have a male friend that is in a situation like yours. All the girls seem to like his friends, but anyways, you should confront her, not say you like her. But you should ask her why she doesn't pick up and why she doesn't hang out with you.

[norther]

Does it mean anything if a girl tells her birthday 2 times? especially when her birthday is not even close? (june 21)

1st time: This girl told me her birthday (outta the blue) when me, her, & my friend were walking to park lot after class.

2nd: on april 1st. I told her I was moving away as a joke. She copied my joke and said she was going back to korea and I said "well I guess this is good-bye then". She then mentioned her birthday.

I really wanna be nice to her and get to know her better, if she is interested in me. But I just can't tell what this girl is thinking.