[gwapeiimiintss]

All I ever want to do is spend time with my boyfriend. I have a lot to juggle: school, sport, girly problems with my crap friends, but i ALWAYS find time to just chill with him but it seems like every time I find time for him, he finds some excuse to just completely ruin everything. Each and every time I have planned a special date for a special day, he has to tell me, "Oohh, sorry, but yadadada happened" or "Ooohh, sorry, but my dad is really mad and won't let me go out." Fine. It was fine the first 9 months. It was perfectly fine. It bothered me but I still acted like it was fine and now, when I specifically told him that I wanted our 10th month to be special, I made a spontaneous suggestion that we go on an actual date. Just for once. Just for once in our relationship.

I told him 2 weeks before the actual date. Told him to start saving up. Told him to tell his parents beforehand. Told him to make sure nothing ruins our plans. And the day comes, I am here writing a topic about this issue instead of going on the date I planned. How pathetic is this, right? It's like he doesn't even cherish me or see me as of any importance. We only get to spend ONE day each week. ONE DAY. and all I am asking is that he find the time to spend that ONE day with me but it seems like he has soo much on his plate right now, he can't even fit me in. So is this even a relationship? Should an effort even be made anymore? So I know I am not the greatest girlfriend. I don't have the goodies he wants or the curves he's looking for, but is that really a good reason to ditch me?!

And here's the best part. The night before, exactly 10 hours from now, he tells me, "We can definitely go hang out tomorrow for our date. Like I am superpositive. Be ready by 12 or 1-ish." Okay, so I was happy and when 11am rolls around, he gives me a text, not even a call, that he can't go out. A TEXT?!? SERIOUSLY?! NOT EVEN A CALL?! and the reason for him not being able to go out is because his dad won't let him. Right. A real likely story. He's been using this excuse for the past 4 weeks. Is it soooo likely that every weekend his dad decides to get mad at that exact time just to screw him over? No. I don't think so.

Is this even a relationship anymore? The worst part is, he keeps telling me he loves me. BS. But I can't help but not put the blame on him. I just want to spend time with him and it seems like all I've been doing is live life according to his. I'm still young. I haven't even made the best out of my childhood and already this a-hole is making me push away all other plans to make room for him and having me find out at the end he can't make it. So I am forced to stay home. loner-style. no call. no IM. no text from him for the rest of the day. great.

[hippiehop]

If you can't stand the situation you are in then get out of it.

[joongielove]

It seems like you're more unhappy than not.

It seems like my old relationship, and honestly, the only thing I can say is get out of it. NOW. Before you regret it more. I stayed with my ex for over a year, and honestly, the last few months, all I wanted was out. But I kept thinking he would change. But he didn't. Get out now, you're only going to regret it.

PM me if you wanna talk. I know where you're coming from.

[and i sayd]

looks like her doesn't cherish your time and etc tell him str8 up how you feel. And tell him if he doesn't change thigns aorund its over because theres no need for you to be stressing off something so trivial.

[littleangel19]

If it really bothers you, you should just get out of it. But really maybe he really is busy? Maybe his dad really doesn't want him out of the house. You should try to first find out what he's been doing. And then confront to him, how you've been feeling. And see what he will tell you. Of course if he is with you, he must love you. Just see what he has to say first. And celebrating your 10th month, seems to be a bit too much. Maybe celebrate your 1st year, and just ask to hang out. If I was a guy, I would get annoy with celebrating every month, a year sounds nice . So in conclusion, just tell him how you feel.

[KimKTN]

mm depends - does his parents know that he is dating?

[ I went through something similar like your bf and i felt horrible - tho it is still possible to make time]

Each time he wasnt able to make it to the date - did he make it up to you in some way? or felt sincere of it.

Talk to him - but if nothing good comes out of it - why put up with this? you'd be fed up by the time 1 year comes around

[gwapeiimiintss]

looks like her doesn't cherish your time and etc tell him str8 up how you feel. And tell him if he doesn't change thigns aorund its over because theres no need for you to be stressing off something so trivial.

I've already talked to him about the problem. This isn't the first time. He stood me up on Valentine's Day because his dad was "mad" and didn't want him going out. He stood me up on my birthday because he had to do "stuff." He also ALMOST stood me up on New Year's but apparently something happened and it was all fine in the end...

mm depends - does his parents know that he is dating?

[ I went through something similar like your bf and i felt horrible - tho it is still possible to make time]

Each time he wasnt able to make it to the date - did he make it up to you in some way? or felt sincere of it.

Talk to him - but if nothing good comes out of it - why put up with this? you'd be fed up by the time 1 year comes around

His parents know we're dating. I've been over his house a couple of times and I've slept over before.
And I guess I wouldn't make such a big deal out of this if he just made it up. But it NEVER happens. The date was scheduled for Friday, but he decided that he couldn't make it because he had a videogame tournament to attend to. An event he decided to attend a week after our plans were made. FINE. I gave in and let him go to his videogame tournament.

All he ever does is say he's sorry and that it'll never happen again. I am sooo sick of hearing this because I know it's just an empty apology. And then he gives me an epic speech of how much he loves me and I give in again. and forget what how much of a jerk he is.

[fasionfreak321]

If I were u, I would definately be furious. the thing about boys is that they'll do anything...if they love u enough. Maybe u need to open his eyes and show him that if he can't love u right someone else can

[and i sayd]

I've already talked to him about the problem. This isn't the first time. He stood me up on Valentine's Day because his dad was "mad" and didn't want him going out. He stood me up on my birthday because he had to do "stuff." He also ALMOST stood me up on New Year's but apparently something happened and it was all fine in the end...

Well, you need to get him in check, raise your voice. Tell him if he don't grows some balls and treat you the way you should be just dump his ass. No point of continuing this relationship

[Hazy]

You should definitely confront him about it (again).

If you don't want to confront him about it, maybe you should ask his dad.
I totally agree that his dad not letting him go out 4 weeks in a row isn't just a coincidence.
If you're scared his dad might tell your bf, then just tell his dad not to tell him you asked.

If he actually wanted go spend time with you (and cared) he might've even just snuck out of the house even if his dad didn't let him. I mean, COME ON.
At least he even attemps to apologise..

I think he's just being selfish. Next time he apologises and says that it'll never happen again, DON'T GIVE IN. Tell him about how you feel or else - like you said, it'll just happen over and over again.

You deserve better.

[and i sayd]

You should definitely confront him about it (again).

If you don't want to confront him about it, maybe you should ask his dad.
I totally agree that his dad not letting him go out 4 weeks in a row isn't just a coincidence.
If you're scared his dad might tell your bf, then just tell his dad not to tell him you asked.

If he actually wanted go spend time with you (and cared) he might've even just snuck out of the house even if his dad didn't let him. I mean, COME ON.
At least he even attemps to apologise..

I think he's just being selfish. Next time he apologises and says that it'll never happen again, DON'T GIVE IN. Tell him about how you feel or else - like you said, it'll just happen over and over again.

You deserve better.

I agree, don't give in to the temptation of love D:

[ax1989]

Ugh. I think I know how you feel. Do you still love him very much despite this? Because I understand that - you hate the things he do, but you still like him too much to leave him.

But the thing is, leaving him COULD be the better way in a long-run, and for your reputation, and so he doesn't screw you over more in the future leaving you feeling betrayed.

[tsai_jolen]

You're unhappy and I can see why. If anything you deserve so much better. I mean you guys are almost at the 1 yr mark. Are you willing to continue this?

[Swtess]

Tell him one last time and give him some kind of ultimatum.
Don't be the one making the plans. Let him do that.
You're always there and the one making everything perfect.
Don't do that anymore and go make time for friends and other things in your life.
Make him anticipate down to the time that he gets to spend with you

[bonjour tristesse.]

If you can't stand the situation you are in then get out of it.

i agree. i mean in all honesty you DO have the choice to do that

[meilove]

if he doesn't make the effort and he doesn't make u as happy as you'd like, just end it

[llrbunny]

He sound like he could be cheating on you.