[blazinreaper]

Simply put, if your parents viewed your SO differently than you did in a negative way, would that influence your views in your SO.

[darae]

no. they are just judging him based on his exterior. i know my bf inside and out so whatever my parents say wouldn't affect me.

[and i sayd]

no. they are just judging him based on his exterior. i know my bf inside and out so whatever my parents say wouldn't affect me.

yeah if my parents didn't like her, I would'nt care can't stop the love baby

[xorgasmxmachinex]

Depends on what they see negative.

[Stolen_waters]

I guess not.

Just something to share: My aunt hates my cousin's bf so much because he's not in college. I think he's taking a break before going to college, so basically he's just working right now. Anyway, my aunt's okay towards him whenever he's around (which almost every family gathering! ), but when he and my cousin are gone, HAHAHA rant galore!

At least she's nice enough to control herself.

[chopstick^^]

If my parent's met my s.o .. they would be judging him from the first appearance. I know my s.o more than my parent's. so no it would not change my views. How can they, unless they are wise.... but it's un-wise to judge people by first time apperance. Because people can make mistake and if u get to know them, u will know the real them.

But my parent's normally judge a guy by his apperance, his clothes, manners and education.

& it's stupid to date a guy who u rarely know. So if ur parent's judge him, then your also judging ur own s.o coz u barely know him. which i dnt understand why ppl date someone they rarely know or even show to their parent's.

[The Pink Panda]

the parentals here was not so keen on my s/o ; dresses like a hippy skater, long hair, not asian... then he got into one of the best universities in the country and now they think he's ok, maybe... pphhttt parents.

[mrskimjinho]

It's so annoying how a lot of Korean parents look down on your s/o if he/she isn't freakishly tall.
I told my mom that my boyfriend is only an inch or so taller than me and she disapproved right off the bat. The only reason she isn't badgering me to find someone else is because she sympathizes him for being adopted and she likes that he's an engineering major.
Parental disapproval doesn't make me love my boyfriend any less. They don't know your s/o at the same intimate level as you do.

[xblush]

I HATE how my parents judges him just based on the outside...
and also, just because they don't like the idea of me having a bf,
they see him negatively too... >: [ I mean, if they want to think a certain way
then at least keep their thoughts to themselves... goshhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh...

[Hazy]

No, because I'm the one that knows him the best (well, definitely better than my parents know him anyway).

My parents think me and my bf have nothing in common just because he's filipino, and that there's a 'culture' difference and they ask me how they're going to communicate with him in the future because both their English skills aren't THAAAAT great.

[hippiehop]

It used to when I was younger.

My parents don't know him the same way I do.

First thing my mom asked me if how tall he is =_= and they always ask my sisters if he is good looking. And she'll ask me what he's studying in school and his job and stuff. * sigh * There is so much more to a person than that.

[gkacie]

my parents doesnt like my current s/o at all..so I dont even know what to do when he's around her...he comes in very cheerful and she hates that lol she's like "why is he so happy? is he on drugs or something?" wth nothing can please her...who doesnt like a cheerful guy? lol at least he's not all sad and gloomy all the time!!! hahah...sometime i do take what she says into consideration bt at the end..I have to make sure the reason why I am with him or not is because of my own reason not hers... hopefully things will go okay...

[maryx33]

i think it's because they think no one is good enough for their son or daughter. i mean, parents are just very judgmental to begin with.

my parents didn't like my ex or the idea of me having a boyfriend but as time went on and they saw that nothings going to change between him and i, so they started not to care as much.

[Acpronk]

my parents have always been critical about my girlfriends ^^
I guess they just really look out for me.
They're only critical about her personality, education and stuff though. Not appearance.

btw, what does s/o exactly mean? I know it's meant to mean something like: girlfriend/boyfriend right? But what does it exactly stand for? (^^' I know, stupid question, but I seriously don't know)

[mizz_J]

Ok, i used to tell myself that if my parents didn't accept my bf, or my bf didn't respect my parents or family or whatever, then i wouldn't be with them.

However, my current bf is really different and that was what attracted me to him in the first place. i really likes him a lot and we have a lot of plans together. I think and hope my parents will accept him. But i think the fact that he had to drop out of high school won't please them...

[damyoungji]

My parents point of view will definitely have an effect. After all, it never hurts to try to understand why someone sees him differently than I do.

I trust my mom a lot. She is really good at seeing through people and I know that she will tell me what's best for me.

However, in the end, I know that I am the one to make the choice.

[honeytee]

I know my parents would want what's best for me but they can be extremely nitpicky. I would say that their opinion matters alot but at the same time they're not the one dating him.

[sixth.]

my parents hated my ex
it did have an effect, but they also told me that whoever i chose, they'd support me no matter how much they hate the guy.

[l3oosh]

Having never brought a boyfriend home for their viewing pleasure, I wouldn't know. But my mom does set limitations. He has to be tall, Asian or white, rich, and smarter than me. She also likes to make comments on behavior of other boyfriends so I'm sure they apply to my future one too ("he acts so girly! he has to man up!" etc)

I know she's going to be very harsh about my boyfriend if I find him before medical school. But I understand that. If I ever become a mom, I'd do the same thing. It's just concern for me, even though it's annoying and unnecessary. Yeah, I would know much more about my boyfriend than what he shows in his appearance, but my parents don't. They're not the ones dating him. They are going to judge your significant other on appearances because that's all they know about him. You do the same thing (judge people by their appearances) so I don't see the point of condemning your parents when they do it too. I don't mind my parents criticizing my boyfriend, but that's all they'd be allowed to do - no forbidding dating or whatnot, unless they do have legitimate concerns about my safety.

If my parents' issues with the guy can't be resolved, then yeah, I'd think twice before marrying him. :/ That's how much my parents' opinions matter to me.

And I don't know if anyone has seen that episode in "How I Met Your Mother" where they were talking about how criticism of another person shatters your image of that person. Yeah, applies here for me xD

[Antz]

no, because i can see the real him and not them.
it was like that at the start, my mum would be negative about him but now she's not really anymore.
but in the end, i'm the one who's dating him.