[mrskimjinho]

So apparently, my dad is the only man my mom ever dated (they dated for about 10 years ) .... and she regrets not having dated other men before dating my dad and getting married. She was telling me to not get too attached to my first boyfriend (we just started dating a couple of weeks ago) and was encouraging me to not be afraid to date a variety of guys before getting married.

Me, I like my variety, and I do understand my mom's viewpoint that it's good to experience different types of guys to see what works and doesn't work. But I really, really love my boyfriend and both of us have every intention of making our relationship into a pretty serious and long-term one. Plus, he's 23 and not the type that likes relationships that don't have any sort of prospect. Who's to say that we don't have a chance that sometime in the future, we could end up getting married? In which case, both of us will only ever have dated each other before tying the knot. Maybe it's just me, but that doesn't sound bad at all. It seems so romantic, me being the romantic sap that I am.

But does anyone think that if you only ever date one person and then get married to that person, you'd have that occasional nagging curiosity of whether you would've met someone even better (if that's even possible)?

[xorgasmxmachinex]

Awwww marrying your first love, isn't that the sweetest thing ever?

Sadly, it doesn't always turn out that way.

If you think you are going to wonder how it is dating other people other than your s/o, then don't marry your first love. Go out and experience it yourself.

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

that will always be a continuous cycle.
there will always be someone better.

IF he suits you, then that's all you will need.

[kirra12]

both my parents dated only once, haha, with each other it is,
my parents keep saying its better to just have one, ^^
but.. >.< me n my brother are failures. T.T
hahaha both of us have dated several ppl,

imo, it always depends on the person,
if you have met the right person, why not.

if you really meet the wrong one, you can still get divorced..
iono, i might be still young, so my opinion is still simple and also the western influence is pretty bad,
but i seriously think, there will always be someone better than another..
so the regrets will come often..

From POV of someone who has dated more than once,
i always thought i just have my bf for that period, i wasnt thinking about marriage at all,
so i think if you are really sure about ur bf, go for it ^^

[Antz]

if it's meant to be, then it's meant to be.
if he treats you well and he's everything you've wanted, then why not?

[Swtess]

Your mom is like mine. She kept saying that to me as well.
I don't really care about all the what ifs.
I love him heaps and he loves me heaps and I'm satisfied with that.
I don't care about there's always someone out there thats better because there will be and its just a pointless and endless search.

[_aitherios]

if it's meant to be, then it's meant to be.
if he treats you well and he's everything you've wanted, then why not?

exactly. if one is supposedly love the person s/he's with.. why would wondering about anyone else even cross your mind? i would think a person would say that only if they were somehow not FULLY content w/ their S/O? i mean yeah, they love them, but not madly, truely, soul-mately love the person? (am i making sense? argh � .�'')

personally, if i found someone who was almost perfect by my standards, then i'd marry em in a heartbeat.

but i do understand where your mom is coming from, (it's the, "but what if someone else makes me happier/is a better match?" thought). however:

I don't really care about all the what ifs.
I love him heaps and he loves me heaps and I'm satisfied with that.
I don't care about there's always someone out there thats better because there will be and its just a pointless and endless search.

^like she said, idk if so&&so is my actual soulmate, but if it's darn close enough then it either must actually be the soulmate or as close as near perfection to it as you're gonna get.

[C4Y [[Crazy 4 YeongSaeng]]]

I agree with you, because I think marrying your first and only is very romantic.
I wouldn't mind it at all, but it's a little too late for me x]
Haha~

And you guys sound like you're at the age where you should be thinking and considering marriage.
So if you really love him, why not?

Also, I do a girl who dated and married her first love.
It's quite romantic, and I'm super jealous of her x]
So it's not a bad thing.

Of course, if you do break-up with this current bf,
Then yeah sure, why not try dating a variety to see what works and what doesn't?

I think either path you choose, there's both good positive sides to it.
:]

[mizz_J]

Me, I like my variety, and I do understand my mom's viewpoint that it's good to experience different types of guys to see what works and doesn't work. But I really, really love my boyfriend and both of us have every intention of making our relationship into a pretty serious and long-term one. Plus, he's 23 and not the type that likes relationships that don't have any sort of prospect. Who's to say that we don't have a chance that sometime in the future, we could end up getting married? In which case, both of us will only ever have dated each other before tying the knot. Maybe it's just me, but that doesn't sound bad at all. It seems so romantic, me being the romantic sap that I am.

I really like the way you think.
Honestly, i dont really like the idea of dating a variety of guys, but that's just me. I'd rather just have one seriously relationship with a guy and leave it at that. After getting with my bf, that's how i feel too. I realized that i would never find another guy like him, which helps me make my decision in being with him. Honestly, he's the guy for me and i know i won't regret it in the future. I can't even imagine myself being with another guy anymore. But we're both still young and we still have lots to learn about. Although the sad thing is, I'd been with another guy before i met him sooooo he's not my first love

[ny-sw / ny_sw.]

O___O Oh man. I guess I'll be the only one here to say that it's a good idea to try dating a variety of people.. 'cause you never know who you're going to click best with until you click with them, namean?
I'd be hella curious if I was in one serious relationship that lasted until marriage what other kinds of guys are out there.
My mom basically married the first guy she dated cause she thought men were all the same and.. she really regrets marrying my dad. :/

[hippiehop]

I'm someone who can't stay in a relationship if I don't see long term potential... however, it seems like not all the guys I date are like that. I've dated... 6 guys before? (Only 2 of them are serious... the other ones are like stupid high school ones where I didn't know how to say "NO" so I just thought I'd try it) I think only my current boyfriend has the same way of thinking as I do. If I married my boyfriend now, I wouldn't regret it. My mom is like yours though. She always tells me to date around and not to get a boyfriend... don't get married until I am much older... but it's my life.

[chilovesjj]

I'm engaged to my first We need to get more money together so that we can get our own place ^.^
He'd never had a serious relationship before either, nothing longer than like, a month xD
I waited longer than all of my friends to start dating and have finally found someone who I can really see myself spending forever with.
He really understands me, we have a lot in common, and we just connected in a way I didn't even realize was possible. ^o^
I have no desire to go and try thing with other guys. It feels so right with him, that with anyone else it would feel wrong. <33 :] I'm sucha sap XD

[Painterlyy]

Personally...I only plan on marrying one guy..so I need to experiment around to see which one is right for me. I wish I could marry my first love..(I don't have one yet) but...i'm not sure if life works like that.

[majorscales]

i do hope to marry my first love and i do hope that the marriage will last.. hha =D

[heheimawesome]

I know some people who wish they never met the people they love so early because they want to "date around"

but honestly, don't let it phase you. Just go with the flow. If you break up with your boyfriend now, and "date around" because you feel like you will regret not dating, then you might even screw up the chance of marrying that one guy. Then maybe you'll be thinking "what if i didnt.." and he'll become your "what if"

I mean I know if I had a girlfriend, and she dumped me because she wanted to get more experience with other guys I'd be like wtf? and NEVER get back with her no matter how much I loved her because thats just stupid.

just live for today. Who knows he might be one of those guys you "date around" with before you find your TRUE husband.

marrying your first love is a beautiful thing

[mintcracker]

I think it's too early for you to say that you really really love him, considering you've only dated him a few weeks.

Sure it'll be great if you could marry your first bf, but it's not really realistic nowadays.
Things change as time goes by.

[Emerald Snow]

Every relationship is different. While there's a very big chance that you won't be marrying the first person that you seriously date, I think the idea of dating around is overrated. Like what someone already mentioned earlier...what if the person you're dating right now is already perfect for you? It would be dumb to just break up with them now because "there are better matches out there." That could be true, but that could also not be true. Just live in the moment. If you're happy right now with your s/o, then there's no need to break up for a future someone who might not even exist.

Most people date around because they started dating when they were young, so of course they meet a lot of immature people. Whereas you have the people who don't start dating until they're older (late teens, twenties, etc.). These people usually have had more time by themselves to observe other couples and find out exactly what they want in a significant other without actually dating.

I'm still in my first relationship, and as of this point, I have no intentions of leaving him for anyone else. And if I do marry him, I know that I won't regret not dating anyone else.

[kimmyb07]

I don't think there's a right or a wrong, just what's right for you.

I'm with my first boyfriend right now and I love him very much. We're so compatible together its unbelievable and I definitely want to marry him. Of course life and marriage won't always be easy no matter how perfect you are for each other, but I feel like with him life will be as easy and as comfortable and as happy as it possibly could. He just makes me happy, every day.

Of course, even now there's a day every once in a while when he gets on my nerves, but that doesn't happen often and I still love him like crazy. So I'm sure that they'll be times when I wonder what another guy would be like, but I know that when it comes down to it, he's the one that treats me amazingly and I love him and I'm happy with him.

One of my biggest reasons actually though, and this may sound sort of strange, I've already given him my whole heart. I've really put everything I have into this relationship and I love him SO much. If we didn't work out, I know for a fact that a part of me would always love him and that I wouldn't be able to love another man with everything I have. I know, sounds weird. But I really just want to love one man with all my heart and not regret and not wonder "What if I was still with him?" I can only have that if I'm with my boyfriend now.

If he started treating me badly that reason would be void of course, but he treats me with so much respect that I can't see that ever happening

[kryiss]

everyone is different. i won't say that one way is better or preferred than the other because EVERYONE is different.

i have never been in a relationship before, but i personally just want to have only one relationship and have him end up as my husband. that is what i look for in a boyfriend: are they good husband material? if i start having too many relationships, then i'll always be picky and think oh i'll try to find a better guy and then after a few guys the expectations will become too high and you can never find the right guy. whoever is the first guy to make me feel that special feeling for him... then on it goes ^^

[diingdong]

i think it all depends on your situation, like i wouldn't want to give my heart out to so many guys and know that i opened my heart out for them and what if it doesn't turn out right? It's like the take a piece of your heart. I mean sure, the experience you get from the relationship will be good for you and all but i just don't like the idea of dating so many guys. Maybe 2 or 3 would be alright because it really tells you who you click with and all that stuff and when you do finally meet the one, you can actually say if he is the one because noone will make you feel that way except him .