[honeytee]

I've been friends with my boyfriend for a little over 2 years now (we were never that close of friends) and have been dating for 6 months. Now I have never hooked up with anyone I've established as friends before and I noticed that around him I don't get those tingly butterfly feeling. We lack that passion and romance in our relationship. We both have a similar sense of humor so we click well in that department, sometimes a little too well. We're always way too sarcastic with eachother that at times when I want to be serious, it's tough to be. Now you guys are probably thinking if it's missing such huge elements why am I still with him.... he has alot of qualities that I look for in a guy. But at the same time I want our relationship to progress, we're at our half year mark and I still don't know if I can fall in love.

[RYUUSEi]

Maybe you guys just don't have that kind of chemistry together. You said it yourself, you two lack romance and passion, so then what makes your relationship any different from a simply strong friendship?

[bbyBoss]

Sometimes you can't just sit around and wait for things to happen. I think you should maybe talk with him some more. My relationship WAS a friendship set on fire. But it wasn't a long friendship. We met each other, talked on the phone at first. Then met every single day for almost 2 weeks and the feelings were here and you can tell. You can really, really, reallyyy tell if you like someone at first. So if you're in doubt, maybe there are other options, or other..guys for the worst.

[hippiehop]

Did you never have that spark with him? It's usually present in the beginning of the relationship but it'll slowly diminish over time (but it shouldn't completely disappear) as you get to know each other more.

[chopstick^^]

well, why are u with him? .. he might have the quality ur looking for, but if u dont love him, then let him be with someone else who will love him. It's selfish to keep him to urself when u dnt even have a feeling for him. When another girl would n he can be with someone who would.

Anyways, u remind me of arrange couples. Who are forced to be together when they don't have a choice. Your not in that situation, u can choose to be with someone u love. But if u want to progress... thats ur choice.

[LUVSSOURCREAM]

take a break to test it.

goodluck

[MaryMagdalin]

no its not a bad thing...
i never had a honeymoon stage with my bf
cuz we um.... did things a little quickly.
but we`ve been together for 2 years so...........id say we`re still doing well.

[chilovesjj]

well, why are u with him? .. he might have the quality ur looking for, but if u dont love him, then let him be with someone else who will love him. It's selfish to keep him to urself when u dnt even have a feeling for him. When another girl would n he can be with someone who would.

Anyways, u remind me of arrange couples. Who are forced to be together when they don't have a choice. Your not in that situation, u can choose to be with someone u love. But if u want to progress... thats ur choice.

Agree with chopstick, it's unfair on him to string him along, when your heart isn't really in it, he could be looking for someone who really will love him. I was friends with my fiancé for a few months before we got together but there was always a spark there, from the beginning. And we still have that spark, that passion. The passion shouldn't die altogether, it is just that the 'novelty' of it kinda goes and is replaced by feelings of familiarity and security. But if there's absolutely no passion at all then.. there's something wrong I think ^^;

From the sound of it, you never felt that passion in the first place. Guy friends had asked me out before and they were really, really lovely guys. But if there's nothing there, then that's all he is- a friend, it doesn't matter how nice he is, you need more than just 'a nice guy'. So I waited until I found someone I really DID have feelings for, and it's so different- so much better than trying to force yourself to like someone who you don't really have feelings for. Not sure I agree with the 'friendship set on fire' thing either, because even excluding the physical side of the relationship, to me it's still very different from any friendship I've ever had.

[agnuque]

Your title caught my attention! That was really nice If things aren't too serious yet (like oy I wanna get married kind of stuff), let things take its natural course cos idk I think that love doesn't come in such a short amount of time. If you guys like each other, then that's good. If you want something deeper than that, you should wait. But if you know that nothing's happening and you know that you won't fall in love with him in the long run, I suggest you talk it out or stop while it's early.

Maybe this is just a really really close friendship between you guys, cos usually, that's being mistaken for love already (especially among people I personally know).

[honeytee]

Thanks for the opinion guys, alot of what you guys said makes sense and I agree.
I also think that his standard of passion is different then mine, he hasn't been in a relationship for a long long time.
I came out from a relationship where I was showered with love (a year ago) I am over my ex boyfriend if you guys are wondering.

To some of the poster, I never realized that I was being selfish for keeping him. Thanks for pointing that out, maybe he is the right guy just not the right guy for me. It's just I really like him and want it to work between us.

[aiyan]

If you like him, why do you need to worry about the tingly butterfly effects? You guys have been friends for a while, which means you're already used to him. He likes you and you like him. There's no element of mystery (which is probably why you don't feel the "passion.") Have you guys kissed yet? :x I think that might help you decide if yous truly like each other that way or just as friends. But then again, don't force it or you might regret it.

[Painterlyy]

Don't worry about it yet. It's not like you are going to marry him. But...I mean, I wouldn't really "waste" my time on someone that didn't make me feel the fire.

[Miss.Understood]

Don't worry about it yet. It's not like you are going to marry him. But...I mean, I wouldn't really "waste" my time on someone that didn't make me feel the fire.

agreed ^^ so true...but it wouldn't hurt if you tried to add more wood.

[kivvi]

^ LOL
xD
well, I agree with most of the people. if you continue to not feel any spark and you never did then it's more of a relationship of convenience than anything else. however, if you like him like you say you do, then make it work. try new things! relationships take work sometimes