[joongielove]

So those 3 little words...you hear them everywhere. Couples that have been dating a week are saying it to each other.

Best friends say it to each other.

What's your views on those words? Too common now? Starting to lose meaning?

Share!

[and i sayd]

It lost all meaning D: but my recent gf took her time i guess. It went from i like you 2 weeks I really like you 2 weeks later then i really really really like you 3 weeks later then I love you (:

as long as the meaning behind it is there

[hippiehop]

Say it if you really mean it.

If you love your best friend. Say it.

If you love your boyfriend/girlfriend. Say it.

Life is too short to not let those who mean something to you know how much you appreciate and love them.

[badtzmaruholidays]

I don't see anything wrong with saying it to your best friend. Platonic love. I love my best friend more than I've ever loved anyone.

But yea, a lot of people toss it around too easily. I never use it unless I mean it though.

[★★★]

I wouldn't say "i love you" unless i really meant it. If i'm talking to a friend or family member i go "love ya" if i'm getting off the phone or something. Because "love ya" is more casual. "I love you" has meaning. I've only said that to my really close family members. And my ex boyfriend. I didn't tell him that until we went out for like 2 years though.

[Gumball]

Hmm the three special words that every women watns to hear... Hmm...

To quote joey gladstone from the american sitcom full house...

"Honey you're right."

[diingdong]

So those 3 little words...you hear them everywhere. Couples that have been dating a week are saying it to each other.

Best friends say it to each other.

What's your views on those words? Too common now? Starting to lose meaning?

Share!

yeah can be too common and sometimes people say it without really meaning it, i

[mextaus.]

the three little words that make hearts skip beats
that every relationship is made of
it's definitely becoming not too common now ~
"oh i love this i love that"
but there's no stopping it, it's gonna keep going
still I think that when someone really wants to say, you can see the meaning
casually, people say "love ya" but when you mean it, it's "I LOVE YOU"
i think people see the meaning when you say it with feeling

[meiming8]

yeah i definitely think they're being used waaaay too commonly now

my bf and I have been going out for nearly 5 months and haven't really come close to saying it yet

but my friend's bf has been going out with her since last thursday and thinks he's 'in love'

personally I think it's a lot nicer when you wait to say it, because then you know you both really mean it

[Zerobang]

Yep! I think the words are too common.

"I think its time for a new phrase of love"

[and i sayd]

Hmm the three special words that every women watns to hear... Hmm...

To quote joey gladstone from the american sitcom full house...

"Honey you're right."

we all know guys would only say those 3 magic words to get out of a conversation

[littlejade]

Well, i dont think u have the right to judge how people use the word. I L Y. Because, you don't know them.

You don't know how deep their relationship is, how they met, what happen in their lifes. You have no right to say, that it's been used without meaning. Because u don't know them or how they feel. People can say it and not mean it, but people can also say it and mean it. You just don't know that.

That feeling of "Love" . Some people may only feel it 2 yr's later or whenever. Other's may feel it sooner. Doesn't make the word insignificant coz it wasn't said longggg time later in the relationship. How long do u need to tell, if u love someone or not in the relationship? .. Why on earth are u with someone who's u wary if u love them or not? .. Are they a "try out"?. Some people can love someone sooner because they just know them to well to know that they love them.

It's like there are certain people who u can meet, and when u chat to them.. it feel's like u've known them for yrss.. that's because ur personality clicked. Don't need to know about their background history, favorute colour etc.. you just know their personality enough to know u love someone who has this quality.

Some people can feel love at an earlier stage in a relationship and the love is only building and getting stronger. Rather than being in a relationship, getting to knw them more and more and then realizing u actually love him/her. <- for them Love is a gamble.

[ahyungx3]

yea it has no meaning to alot people anymore because its used to often..
its almost as abused as the word "sorry"

[aiyan]

It's used way too often, but I think ily online is different from "I love you" in real life (if that clarifies anything at all).

[joongielove]

Well, i dont think u have the right to judge how people use the word. I L Y. Because, you don't know them.

You don't know how deep their relationship is, how they met, what happen in their lifes. You have no right to say, that it's been used without meaning. Because u don't know them or how they feel. People can say it and not mean it, but people can also say it and mean it. You just don't know that.

That feeling of "Love" . Some people may only feel it 2 yr's later or whenever. Other's may feel it sooner. Doesn't make the word insignificant coz it wasn't said longggg time later in the relationship. How long do u need to tell, if u love someone or not in the relationship? .. Why on earth are u with someone who's u wary if u love them or not? .. Are they a "try out"?. Some people can love someone sooner because they just know them to well to know that they love them.

It's like there are certain people who u can meet, and when u chat to them.. it feel's like u've known them for yrss.. that's because ur personality clicked. Don't need to know about their background history, favorute colour etc.. you just know their personality enough to know u love someone who has this quality.

Some people can feel love at an earlier stage in a relationship and the love is only building and getting stronger. Rather than being in a relationship, getting to knw them more and more and then realizing u actually love him/her. <- for them Love is a gamble.

I'm not completely diagreeing with you, because you did make some very valid points in your response.

HOWEVER.

You can't tell me, those couples that you see that just met, and are only dating a month later, and are saying 'I love you' right off the bat, I'm sorry, I don't really know their background story, all I know is that you can't possibly determine if you are in 'love' with them after such a short time. You need time to know someone, to know what makes them tick, to know what makes them happy, sad, angry, etc. before you can determine that you love all the aspects of them.

Love is always a gamble, I just think that you should say those words when you mean it. Not to judge, but half of the time, it's puppy love.

[aiyan]

^But then again, people's perspectives of what "love" really is varies. It doesn't have to be all serious and binding.

[littlejade]

You need time to know someone, to know what makes them tick, to know what makes them happy, sad, angry, etc. before you can determine that you love all the aspects of them.

Well, yeah, i agree with that. Some people do think it's love, when it's actually infatuation. But then again, i dnt know who they are. So i can't judge their relationship. Unless i know them, then i can tell if it's love or puppy love.

[chilovesjj]

Yeah some kids say it after like, a few weeks or even within days. You don't even know them properly after that much time, it's just infatuation. It takes a different amount of time for different people. Someone might feel ready to say it after a few months, someone else might not feel they are really in love until they've been together for a few years. But that doesn't change the fact that it does take at least some time, it's not an instant thing. (Some random guy from Spain started talking to me once when I was about 13, and after around an hour of conversation he told me 'I think I'm in love of you' xDDD I found it hilarious~)

I had an instant connection with my fiancé when I first started talking to him, but I wasn't in love with him then. But before I did fall in love with him, I could see the potential for me to fall in love with him, if that makes sense? But yeah~ the feeling you have initially grows and becomes deeper as you bond and become closer, but some people can't tell the difference between actual love and just that initial attraction/infatuation (especially if they've never been in love- infatuation is all they have ever known). I think if 2 people take their time and say it only when they really mean it, that in that case it hasn't lost its meaning.

[prisonerzero]

I say "I love you" to loads (okay, few) of people. I'd even say it to a boyfriend, but I wouldn't be playing "I'm IN love with you" at three weeks, most likely, unless I knew him for a very long while.

And when people bring up "they've only been dating for a few days/weeks, they can't love each other," it's like they only knew each other from the first day they started dating when they say it like that. They could've had really strong feelings before dating, like they were really good friends. It happens. It just depends.

[ShadowMax76]

it's an expression. like art.

but some artists have different reasons for expressing themselves. eg. money[lol]. popularity [attention we love]. conformity [manners, as opposed to being rude] . sometimes there are artists that claim everything they breathe is art. _ but for some reason we keep thinking that the ones that spend months on artworks are real artists.

_ i don't have much against kids saying it. it's cute.
teenagers? eh. hormones. it's the spring time of their lives. haha_ bad to hold it in.
too much? eh..

i remember this girl i knew. she told me she loved me. i smiled and patted her on the head. then she told me to tell her i loved her. i held it off to tease her. and she said "it's only three words".
so i thought i'd not say it if she just wants to have another guy 'confess' to her.

she stole my phone as hostage. told me i won't get it back unless i said it.
i had my fun getting it back. i'm sure she did too.. putting it in odd places for me to get it.
so i got the phone back
and as she gave up and i had no reason to tell her , i did. as sincerely as i believe it should be said.
i hope she knows how much it's worth now. x_x' she definitely showed how much she loved me afterwards... Haha~ <3