[dahl gee]

Me and my boyfriend has been going out for 4 months now.. like how every relationship starts out.. everything went well.. he would txt me in the morning to say good mornin or just send me a txt whenever .. which always brought a smile to my face.... and since hes in the marines... i do not get to see him often, just on a weekend. Recently he confessed he loved me,,, and it was really sweet... But theres a problem thats been bugging me...

When we meet and were together everything is perfect.. but these days he seems to ignore me.. he never texts me anymore, and I always have to be the one to.. and if i do.. he would take time replying... Is it too much to ask for just a simple text? I dont wanna confront him cause i might sound clingy? To some ppl it might not be a big deal.. but if u think deeply about it.. if you love that person no matter what.. even just a simple txt, cant you take a min out of ur life just to txt a simple hello? or what so ever.. it seems hes like withdrawing.. but when were together in person its different.......................... its really bugging me.. and reaches to the point i wanna break up cause i cant take it.. i might sound like im exaggerating... but honestly it seems like hes feelings are not real..........

[Shau]

Maybe he's afraid to seem to clingy. =O

Or maybe he's afraid that you'll expect and need him to text you all the time so he's cutting back so that when he really can't text you, it won't be a big shock. Or maybe he doesn't have a texting plan.

[saintsnow]

i had a relationship just like that :/
until one day i sent him this notebook filled with letters and pictures and random things.
then he calls me saying sorry and all for not txting/calling/ignoring, and that he really loves me.
few weeks later i find out he has a kid $%#$%#@$&*$

But you know, talk to him about it first.
Maybe he's busy - marines are very busy. and the leader people dont like cellphones *smash onto the ground*

*hugs*

[ROCKETTOTHEMOON]

Go talk to him about it. Maybe he's busy with the marines and stuff or just feeling out of it.

[dahl gee]

ya, but he seems cold to me when we txt... and honestly he finished his classes cause hes getting stationed to another city.. so he has a lot of free time

[chocolate*]

Texting and being together in person is totally different.
Some people just don't like using the phone or don't want to waste time texting!
From my pov, I think as long as he's still treating you well in person that's all that matters.
It's your preference to communicate lovingly though text msgs, but it might not be his.
You can let him know that you like receiving messages from him, but I don't think it's a big deal...

[plegend2007]

Maybe.....He is too busy protecting our country!

It is pretty petty for wanting to break up with a guy just because he won't text back right away.

Also, he is in the damn Marines(Semper Fi)...Give the guy a break.

[RYUUSEi]

Keeping in touch when you can't be together IRL is really important, especially if you don't get to see each other that often. He used to text you alot in the past, it's not like he has a phone-phobia or anything, so it's quite weird that he just stopped and turned all cold on you. I agree with what you wrote, to just take a minute of your life and text the person you care about so much. Tell him it's bothering you and making you a little sad because it's tough having a long-distance relationship when the other person doesn't seem to make an effort in keeping in touch.

Although if he says that he's just been really busy and apologizes, then let it go and be understanding. He is in the marines, after all.

[Miss.Understood]

actions speak louder than words : )

[Meenuh]

Don't worry about sounding clingy. You should be honest and talk to him about it but in a non-clingy sounding way. Be calm and collected and don't go over the top drama queen-like. Lol. Have a mature conversation on what is bothering you without whining, pouting, crying and so forth.

[Ayuu~]

serisously, you should just talk to him about it..
if it botherz u, then let him know
itz not clingy

[chemistryandmetal]

I have been in a relationship like this. It sucks when you feel like you are more into a person they are into you. There could be many reasons why he may not text you just to be nice... perhaps he is busy, or perhaps he doesn't like to constantly "bother" you.

From my experience, it is best to keep busy and NOT let these things bring you down. They are details. What matters is if he treats you good when you are together. Try not to find faults, though it may be hard. Sometimes boys don't like to be as open as we girls are, I think!

[Painterlyy]

I think you should ask him and talk to him. Only he can really answer your questions.

[sus]

just talk to him
if u are unhappi
the worst things girls do is think and over analyze situations
making it 10 times worse
when u can just get a straight forward answer from him...
saves u from all the heartache

[Cin De]

u mentioned hes in the marine? i'm pretty sure thats a very busy life!
having to continuously texting someone "good morning" every day is eh..... wont happen for life.

[AHLEENA]

please be patient with him.
it's understandable you want to communicate with him more.
it's also reasonable that you miss him a lot.

and remember not to do anything hasty =)

[mintcracker]

I just think the honeymoon period is over and that he's also really busy.


If he doesn't contact you for like 5-7 days, then I would worry.

[tsai_jolen]

Military men are compilcated. I'm dating an army guy. Somtimes they have a alot of stuff on their plate. Trust me it's hard to not to get upset when they don't call or text. For that reason you just have to remember that this is their job. It's not a normal 9-5. Just be more understanding.

[tizzy1]

He's in the Marines so maybe there is some other stuff going on, even though he might have free time. He might be trying to enjoy that free time by doing stuff. That's what my friend says, that whenever a marine has his free time, he will take it and try to enjoy every minute of it. Maybe it's a case by case situation? Anyway! I think you should confront him about this. We can't tell you what he's really feeling, so the best thing is to confront him. Don't worry about sounding clingy because it's understandable that you're feeling like this since you're in a LDR. Just bring it up casually but on a serious note.

Good luck! Hope everything ends well

[SKINNY_GENES]

he's still your boyfriend for a reason. he's into you. just because he doesn't txt you as often as before doesn't mean that he's not into you anymore. that's so silly!

you're probably always in his thoughts... you shouldn't let his lack of txt messaging define his feelings for you.




cheer up!! something like this is really insignificant, but if it bothers you THAT much (well obviously it does) you should just talk to him.