[kissAndRUN]

Hey guys..
Well, I was just wondering...would you continue to talk to someone even if they didnt seem to make an effort to talk to you?

Cause everytime I talk to my crush, our conversations never last.
I really really try to make an effort to keep it going, but it ends up never lasting..
I dont know if maybe he just doesnt want to talk to me, but he always answers in like one or two words...and the thing is, he's the one that messages me first.

I mean, I dont know...maybe we just dont have that click in-between us?
Is that a sign that we arent meant to be, because our conversations are very boring and cant even last for like 5 minutes... ;x
Maybe I should just move on...

[ShadowMax76]

if the not-clicking happens that much
talk about the not-clicking.

o-0' it's fun when desperate topics are brought up though.. . flirty stuff too.

but. if even that fails. i guess it's up.

_ as a guy. i just screw up my eyes and wonder why girls think it's "not meant to be" just because the conversation doesn't work the first time. [but you've tried plenty, i'll give ya that]
there are few guys that can do that. and they're usually gay, already taken, or are guys you don't like -friends. >>'
i think it's just a matter of finding the right thing to talk about..

[StephyT]

^ I wouldn't try flirty stuff if I was you. Unless it's a definite 'we like each other' it's best to save it for later on.
Maybe he's just shy, so you should bring up topics to talk about.
By the way, are you talking over text/IM? Cus if you are, some people just talk more over the phone or in person.

[Sam Sik]

Before talking to him about 'anything', you have to build yourself a foundation first. I used to hit that 'not-clicking' wall a few times with some girls. But I tried the chase both in real life and MSN. Basically what I did was, subconsciously expose my personality to her. And then you build on from that.

Basically, if he didn't like your first impression, then just slowly keep trying cause eventually it will grow onto him.

Sometimes, you might never grow onto him at all, because he's just plain not interested in the way you talk or the way you act. Don't do the whole "Hey how's it going?" and "What's up?" crap cause as soon as you say that, I'm already bored and prepared to give you a weak reply. Don't talk to him about you guys not clicking, that's just creepy. How do I know this? My friend over MSN had a girl that asked him the same thing. And the first thing he said to me in a separate conversation was: "WTF?"

You know he's clicked with you once you don't need to say "What's up?". Although I'm saying this from my own point of view cause that's how I see things. NONE of my friends, or even when I had a crush on a girl or tried to make conversation with a girl, have I ever said those types of things. I jumped into unique conversations about anything from schoolwork to media to even my personal life. It's best if you try to get us involved someway or another.

Hope this helps.

[Zerobang]

My friend told me some males like simple convos.

Ex: I want to talk a lot when talking to certain guys.
my friend says: just say one or two simple things.

It helped me & the conversation

[hobobear]

what i find useful to keep conversations interesting is
to tell embarassing stories of myself. just something quirky and funny.
and maybe he'll laugh and have a similar experience and tell you about it.

idk.. i find i usually do that with my lab partners.

[kissAndRUN]

Before talking to him about 'anything', you have to build yourself a foundation first. I used to hit that 'not-clicking' wall a few times with some girls. But I tried the chase both in real life and MSN. Basically what I did was, subconsciously expose my personality to her. And then you build on from that.

Basically, if he didn't like your first impression, then just slowly keep trying cause eventually it will grow onto him.

Sometimes, you might never grow onto him at all, because he's just plain not interested in the way you talk or the way you act. Don't do the whole "Hey how's it going?" and "What's up?" crap cause as soon as you say that, I'm already bored and prepared to give you a weak reply. Don't talk to him about you guys not clicking, that's just creepy. How do I know this? My friend over MSN had a girl that asked him the same thing. And the first thing he said to me in a separate conversation was: "WTF?"

You know he's clicked with you once you don't need to say "What's up?". Although I'm saying this from my own point of view cause that's how I see things. NONE of my friends, or even when I had a crush on a girl or tried to make conversation with a girl, have I ever said those types of things. I jumped into unique conversations about anything from schoolwork to media to even my personal life. It's best if you try to get us involved someway or another.

Hope this helps.

Ugh thanks for the help but basically he always talks to me first saying "Hiiii, Whats Up?"
and yes I agree, that does bore the heck out of me already...thats why I try to spicen up the conversation but it never works, it just dies after a few minutes..
When I ask him about his life and stuff, he answers in like 3 words..
Is he just shy or something? I mean he messaged me first, shouldnt he be trying to talk to me instead D; Ugh.
I think its because we both really dont know what to talk to about each other, and I think he just doesnt want to open up to me... I dunno, it just gets awkward especially with the awkward silences.
Btw, he's 2 years older than me, so we dont reallly have any things to talk about cause we hardly know the same people, and cant talk about schoolwork either..


@hobobear, I tried that once..all he gave me was a "lol xD"
and then awkward silence again..

[JeSuisMoi]

I'm going through almost the same thing as you. Cept its a toss up b/w who msgs who first. Anyways, the times that he msgs me, he'll talk, but he takes such a long time to answer. Least he's giving me more to reply to though right? So my advice to you is to steer clear of the generic "whats up? how was your day? what are you doing?" type of openings. Just dive right into whatever it is thats on your mind. Sometimes being random helps a lot. Most of the time, it doesn't act as a close ended conversation piece. And try to make sure you say things that increases your chances of receiving a more responsive reply.

It's really hard sometimes though, cause it all depends on the guy, his mood and what he's doing. I can't really say anymore than I have already since I haven't exactly solved my problem either lol but I'm just sharing my experience with you, hoping that I've helped. Good luck!

[bbyBoss]

You might not like what i'm saying but my situation was the same when I liked him almost a year ago. There are just TINY things where we'd "click" but when he messages me, the conversation dies. I used to message him too at first and I thought I wasn't giving him enough space because I was being "annoying" but he seems to message me. It's hard for me to build interest with him ever since. He talks abit more when we see each other face to face {only cuz my current boyfriend is his co-worker and he drives him home along with me} but I dunno. Nothing can really happen that way :/ This situation might stay at it for as long as you can think. There are just these things that lets you know when someone "clicks". It's hard to generate if it isn't there after awhile.

[dafleur]

[mintcracker]

Why do you like him?
Is it cos he's hot?


You guys don't click, he's not into you, just move on hun.

[joogrlpekaun]

If your conversations are always boring, the guy barely talks, and the two of you have practically no common ground, then even if he's messaging you because he is sort of interested (but bad at showing it)...why do you like this guy again? If a guy can't hold his own and interest you then I really don't see the attraction there from your end, either, unless it's more a case of you being attracted to the physical aspects. Even if it did somehow lead to something, who's to say he'd get any more interesting if the two of you were in a relationship? He doesn't sound worth the effort you say you've been making. He's either not into you or not worth being into--or possibly both.

[bee_mused]

First thing you have to do: figure out if he's just not that into you.
Maybe he's just shy, or maybe he's waiting for you to show more interest.
But if he continually ignores you, then just try to talk to him as a friend.

[Miss.Understood]

Nahhhhhhhh
I wonder ... if you stop talking to him, would he miss your company?
lol anyway, try it, if he still acts the way he does already then move on. he's not worth your time

[chopstick^^]

If a guy is interested in a girl, he'll be always available and find at least something to say no matter how random or stupid it is if he is i think.

[__CHINA.DOLL]

SIGH*

I'm going through the EXACT same thing as you.. besides the fact that he CALLS me as well.. & we talk on the phone for like HOURS..
but im ALWAYS the one talking.. <___< its like he doesnt LIKE to talk or something.. but in real life hes more open & talkative?
does he talk a lot in real life?

[bonjour tristesse.]

well, if they dont last maybe hes not interested in you. but it could be that hes shy or just not open to others.