[Ch0xi]

Hi all!
I've been having boy trouble recently. Haha~
I am only 14 years old though, so you know.. young people. =P

Anyways, here's the situation:

Me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost 8 months now. He asked me to our first homecoming dance and I said yes. So... he never really asked me out, per se. But that's not a big deal. We mostly just hold hands in the hall ways and hug when we part. I sit with him at lunch every other day. We've been out on one date, to see a movie around our 6 month-aversary. And we've kissed once. I always ask him if he wants to go out some weekend but he always says he's busy. He's either hanging out with his friends or his parents have to take him along to do errands. Communication is a big part in relationships, right? But we don't really talk.. Well, we do, but not more than I do with other people. He really only talks about either band (rock) or band (school). I'm in none of these, so I don't really have anything to say. For example, I talk to one of my close friends way more than him. And I hang out with her more often too.
I don't know what to do? Should I break up with him? Or keep waiting it out?
He's the kind of guy who doesn't really take anything too seriously..

Please help! Thank you!

[jaked]

That doesn't really sound like a relationship to me, no offense. Y'all seem like strangers that labeled yourselves boyfriend/girlfriend.

[dafleur]

^
totally agree. you've been "together" for 8months, but only have "been out" once, don't really talk to each other, and don't show any type of affection but holding hands and hugging when parting? errr... doesn't sound like a "boyfriend/girlfriend" relationship to me. hell, it doesn't even sound like a FRIENDSHIP either since you guys don't even hang out.

[KimKTN]

I have a sister your age - and she tells me about the relationships at her school.

It's exactly the same as yours --- they just label each other gf/bf . Just hold hands
hug here and there.. and maybe dance a slow song at the school dance. rarely spend time with each other.

No emotional support, or bonding.

^^ guys mature later - don't really care what girls want right now .. more about sports and friends. Best bet is stick around be his friend and see where it goes. Unless you want to date someone older. That's my 2 cents

[h3ll4org3]

Maybe you should ask him what he thinks of the relationship? This way yo udont have to wait, or breakup immediately, and get things straight before taking action

[bonjour tristesse.]

well first off, you're still young. i mean usually relationships in highschool (since your 14 im suspecting you to be a freshman) are just puppy love. i mean what are the chances of you marrying this person? seriously? also, if you really liked him you wouldn't question how fast you two are taking your relationship.

[Painterlyy]

I mean...that doesn't even sound like a relationship. Does he even like you? 8 months is a long time and you guys are like at the 1st week phase.

[&. crepuscular]

That doesn't really sound like a relationship to me, no offense. Y'all seem like strangers that labeled yourselves boyfriend/girlfriend.

^ditto.

8 months is a long time. shouldn't you guys be in a ... deeper (?) stage by now?
i'm also 14 and my best friend who's 15 has a bf. they've been going out since january and they're wayyyyy ahead of you guys. not sleeping together but really open to e/o and TALKATIVE. and they live in diff towns.
mb you guys just weren't meant to be. o-o

[mutters]

from what i can see here, what you guys have is not even considered dating lol. it's more like a date. if you wanna look from that guys point of view, i'd say you, to him, really means nothing other than a high school experience. believe me i know it sounds bad. but guys often have great imagination on how their future is going to look, but it usually don't include high school sweet hearts, especially one that they don't take out to date and puts after friends. If I were you, I'd end this. What you have isn't a relationship and it would be best for you to go your separate ways and try to enjoy your high school experience to the fullest.

[moot11]

No need to label things and put pressure on yourselves.

[lKATl]

let him go. Your too young. REally 14. You still have a long way to find the right guy. When you do find the right one you'll know how beautiful it is.

[Ch0xi]

Thanks for the advice everyone! :] It was really helpful.
So I think the consensus is that I should break up with him?
I don't know how to do it.. :x I don't want to be mean? Haha~

[dafleur]

i don't understand. how can you "break up " with someone you're not even really with?

i'm betting if you told him you didn't think you guys should be "boyfriend/girlfriend" anymore, he wouldn't even care.

[xabstruse]

oh man this reminds me of my first 'relationship' except we were a bit closer than that and we could have serious conversations but yeah, didn't work out.

actually I've forgotten how I broke up with him =/ I think it was something along the lines of 'I don't think this is going to work, it's gotten really weird lately, how about we just be good friends?" and we're still friends so.. -shrug-

[bonjour tristesse.]

i dont know why you're breaking up with him .. because he wont move on to the next level? seriously...

[Ch0xi]

i dont know why you're breaking up with him .. because he wont move on to the next level? seriously...

It's not so much we're not moving on to the next level, more like, we don't hang out or anything.