[jshat4]

Do you get back at them or do you usually just let it slide?

Sometimes people seriously just say things without it crossing their mind what it means to other people. For example, I submitted this picture for a photo auction. And my picture got picked by the framer to put into a framer. The girl I'm working with who is organizing it goes to me and tells me that "Well, I just told the framer to pick one, and he happened to pick yours." So basically she thought it wasn't good enough. Alright, but like what did she exactly gain by telling me that? And then later on, I was saying how I wouldn't have picked that particular picture of mine over another. And she said "Yeah, if I was picking, I would not have picked your picture. I would've picked someone else's."

Like yes, I realize it's not the best picture, etc. I'm totally okay with that. I just think that if I was in her place, I wouldn't intentionally tell someone that because it seems a bit rude. Like if I asked her for a critique, then of course, she can go all out.

So yeah, basically, of course I'm a little bit annoyed, but I'm not going to do anything about it. Yes, it's very petty and small, but in general, when someone says things that are kind of mean to you, do you ever fight back and say something else? Or when someone makes a sarcastic statement that's evidently rude and uncalled for, do you usually let it go? I don't respond very quickly so often I'll get very mad after but by then, it'll be too late to really do anything about it.

[derrek]

You're better than that, and you're better than her. Rise above it! It's all good!

[nekkid]

I deal with people like that all the time, and it's damn frustrating. I just want to knock their head out!

Think of it this way - if that's her personality for communicating with people, she's not going to get very far. This type of personality will eventually get her.

[Meenuh]

I seriously can't stand people that have no "noon-chi". It's like they're socially retarded and oblivious of what to say and what not to say to people. I mean, if she's just trying to be a straight out pinkberry then that's one thing but being an idiot is another.

This type of personality will eventually get her.

I completely agree. When people say stupid things to me I just think to myself "ooookay... you're an idiot" and just forget it. Unless they continuously say the same thing over and over again then I put them in their place. It really depends on if it's intentional or not though. If it's intentional then I have no tolerance for it but if it's not, i'll let it slide or maybe tell them nicely that they shouldn't say things like that.

[be_mellow]

"Okay, that's nice." (haha, I think I annoy them back with that response). Sometimes when they do get on my nerve I start an argument......and if anyone ever said that to me in your situation, I would have said, "Why don't you look at yourself in the mirror first?" Ok I know.....that's even worst...I'm such a bad influence.

[Millou]

it depends, mostly I won't get back at them at the moment, but like some time afterwards...

[jshat4]

Haha sorry by picture I don't mean a picture of myself. I mean a picture I took of scenery. But even so, it was still kinda rude.

[squishybear]

Sometimes it's best to let it go.
If you had wanted to say something, you should have said it right then and there. Bringing it up now wouldn't do anything, and quite honestly, you would look like a baby by whining.
But I know your pain of not being quick to on your feet with a witty comment. It happens to all of us. But really, it's more trouble than it's worth.

[kpxkimcheexyoja]

dude, let it slide... it's too much work to get worked up over haters. i say, brush your shoulders off and go do something that makes you happy. because really, when you think about it: there's always going to be someone out there who will have to try to put you down, and there will be over a billion people in china who just couldn't care less. the way i see it, if you have to put ME down to make yourself feel better, that's pretty damn sad! talk all you want, i'm just gonna keep on keeping on!


... that and karma's a pinkberry!

[blue_shoe]

get sad and cry sometimes angry

[Cheri.B*]

That is a bit rude of her to say that...

If i was in this position I would feel a bit upset only because I am sensitive, but I wouldn't show that.
I might reply back with a calm voice and apologize, "Oh I'm sorry that you didn't like my picture. Sometimes people see something beautiful that others don't."
and don't let it bother me. Just leave it as that.

I do run into rude people once in a while too but they're not much of a deal so I let it go.
If it's something big, I might say something back but try to do it in rational matter.
In the business field and such, I just simply try to brush it off and think positive.

[JJM]

What a spazz!

I don't get angry or even unless it's about my cat... then the nails come out; hers and mine.

[MissLadyBunny]

get mad then let it go

Your allow to get mad in life and express that emotion. You must also learn how to let that go in a proper way and know your battles. Somethings are worth getting hot about but the little stuff let it go. Learn to walk away from issues that don't need lots of concern. Can't please the world so only focus on pleasing yourself.

[aF 1]

no one is intentionally mean
they are simply acting out of their present capabilities, limitations and conditioning
no one gets out of bed and says 'I must be a mean person today'
accept this and no one can ever bother you again

[gisbiz]

that was mean of her,

but in a situation like that

i'd usually giggle..

"hehehe.. like eww right?"

sarcastically nod and pretend to agree w/her.

make her feel like she's got an incredible eye for art.

anyways

i react to harsh comments very slow..

like really, .. it would take me 15-20 minutes to realize that i'm being poked and laughed at.

hmmph!

[cafe_addict]

I change topic like I wasn't even listening to them... but usually, I erase people outta my head when they begin to disrupt my chi.

[I_broke_a_nail!]

She'll have her bitter medicine one day.
Don't worry.

People who are mean to me -- I just kill them with kindness.
They eventually can't give me an attitude after that since I appear to be unfazed.

[hangook/korea]

Do you get back at them or do you usually just let it slide?

It depends. If they're just being mean because they're doing it to impress somebody or feel better about themselves, I let it slide. Today the big boss, the person I'm working under, an assistant, and me were all working on a project (well, I was really just observing). The assistant is hitting on my boss and is kissing up to the big boss like he's one of them. Finally he starts throwing around a few things and tells me "Sh1t man, don't stand around there, do something!" I let it slide because he's just an assistant who gets a lot of sh1t at work so these assistants tend to get big-headed and think they're the big boss around me. My boss who this @sshole is hitting on quietly says, "Chris, c'mon..." And he shuts his mouth for the rest of the time we're working. Yeah, I could keep it real and fight back, but then what? Doesn't accomplish anything. We'll just get into a pissing match for the rest of the time I'm there.

[tnn2000]

gone... 20 characters....

[naoto]

She'll have her bitter medicine one day.
Don't worry.

People who are mean to me -- I just kill them with kindness.
They eventually can't give me an attitude after that since I appear to be unfazed.

This is the best way. I've had people so rude even though I was being nice, but I need them to do something (school worker) so I just continue to splash them with kindness and eventually the tone of their voice becomes nice too. Nobody can stay mean at somebody who isn't.

People who used to be mean to me in elementary school all became idiots in high school, never graduated and while we moved on and became succesful individuals they stayed behind. Nobody has contact with them anymore even though they used to be the cool kids. It all comes back.