[diingdong]

ok guys, so how long does it take for you to get over someone that you've loved?

and is it easier for guys to get over girls than it is easier for girls to get over guys?

I have a best friend and she loved her bf, they had a mutual breakup but she still loves him and was a bit devastated after she broke up with him because the two still had feelings for each other yet the only implication was that one of them lived so far away so they both decided to end it, as it would not work out.

For her, she didn't get all emo or depressed about it and so it didn't take her long to get over him and move on. I mean she did cry and was a bit heartbroken for the first two days but after that she was all good again. In my opinion, she's quite a strong girl at heart and the type of girl who doesn't like wasting a moment being sad or depressed when she could be happy and smiling so i think that's why she didn't allow herself to get too emotional because i for one know that some girls get so depressed and I get annoyed just always seeing their glum faces and hating the world just because some guy stopped loving them.

I like the way she thinks ,what do you guys reckon?

[KanyeWEST]

is this "best friend" actually you?
i reckon it depends on the person. alcohol and drugs help a lot.

[Chanellas]

ok guys, so how long does it take for you to get over someone that you've loved?

and is it easier for guys to get over girls than it is easier for girls to get over guys?

For her, she didn't get all emo or depressed about it and so it didn't take her long to get over him and move on. I mean she did cry and was a bit heartbroken for the first two days but after that she was all good again. In my opinion, she's quite a strong girl at heart and the type of girl who doesn't like wasting a moment being sad or depressed when she could be happy and smiling so i think that's why she didn't allow herself to get too emotional because i for one know that some girls get so depressed and I get annoyed just always seeing their glum faces and hating the world just because some guy stopped loving them.

I like the way she thinks ,what do you guys reckon?

I like how she thinks too! I don't a man to make me happy.
But I don't think you should look down on those having trouble moving on and letting go.

Look at it this way,
how would you like it if someone you really cared about broke your heart?
It's not like those emo guys and girls LIKE being depressed and sh.t.
Things like this takes time, but eventually they get over it.

It took me a week, but it really depends on the person.
It's not easy for ANYONE to let go, just others make it look so easy like your example

[diingdong]

is this "best friend" actually you?
i reckon it depends on the person. alcohol and drugs help a lot.

no no it's not me

I like how she thinks too! I don't a man to make me happy.
But I don't think you should look down on those having trouble moving on and letting go.

Look at it this way,
how would you like it if someone you really cared about broke your heart?
It's not like those emo guys and girls LIKE being depressed and sh.t.
Things like this takes time, but eventually they get over it.

It took me a week, but it really depends on the person.
It's not easy for ANYONE to let go, just others make it look so easy like your example

yeah that's true. because love is a big thing and it does depend of each person but i really think that our lives shouldn't always be revolved around that one person because if we go in too deep then we fall in even deeper and getting back up is going to be extremely hard. gah why does love have to be so complicated and so beautiful at the same time.

[puzzlebox]

how long were they going out? and distance shouldn't be a big factor in the relationship if they "loved" each other a lot...

[Painterlyy]

If the guy love the girl just as much as the girl loves the guy, then obviously it's not easier for him to get over her. Time is the only medicine.

[aznch4mp]

i'm one of those people who take a while to fall for someone.. but once you do, you fall HARD. hahha~ it took me a good while to get over my first "boyfriend." infact, i dunno if i'm quite over everything that happened or not. funny thing is that it wasn't anything spectacular. it was only a couple of months.. but i guess it's the fact he was the first guy i ever reallly reallly reallllllly liked. and i think what determines how fast you get over someone just depends on the kind of person you are. not necessarily if you're a boy or a girl.

**i don't know if i LOVED them. i'm still trying to figure out what LOVE is. but i definitely know that i liked them a lot~ haha

[Pogichinoy]

13 days exactly.

No more, no less.

[puzzlebox]

Mine can last from 3 days to a month... But long periods of time rarely happens...
Wow this kinda happened to my friend too!

[MNLV27]

That remind so much of myself, just got out of a relationship recently, yea I cried and was sad for a day or two but then after that, I just decided to let it go and just move on with life. It just wasn't meant to be, I guess being in the relationship with him made me really emotionally strong so now I'm okay.

[JeSuisMoi]

Most of the time I bounce back pretty quick. A day or two max. Just goes to show how much I liked the person lol But currently, I'm kind of nursing a heartbreak. Its taking me much longer to bounce back than I did before. It's been almost over 10-ish days already. I'm still not completely over it. It's difficult, but your post about your friend is extremely inspiring.

she's quite a strong girl at heart and the type of girl who doesn't like wasting a moment being sad or depressed when she could be happy and smiling so i think that's why she didn't allow herself to get too emotional.

Thank you <3

But yeah, it really depends on the person and it really depends on the person that they liked. And the degree of how much like there was involved. In my case, I honestly have never felt like this about anyone before. And I've dated in the past and had my share of crushes, but nothing to this extent and it scares me. Maybe this is a learning experience for me, & I hope this depressing feeling to goes away soon lol

[JamiexAi]

I'm actually very weak at heart. I fall very hard when the right person comes along. I used to be awful at getting over a guy, but over the years, that's changed.

Your friend is awesome and has the right idea. A guy shouldn't have power over your life like that.

I find that the best way to get over a guy is to keep yourself busy. After my most recent breakup, I was devastated. For about 2 days. Yeah, I moped for those two days, but I knew that it was silly. I just kept myself busy by studying, exercising, everything and anything. Spend time with your closest friends and go out! During the weekends I would go out to parties and clubs and just dance with my best girl friends. I find that it's very helpful to dance your butt off

The best thing to do is find support in your friends and keep your mind off of the break up. There are many new prospects out there and many more guys in the world waiting to capture your heart.

[diingdong]

that's true, i would try to get it off my mind by talking and hanging out with my friends,

i think after a breakup , you tend to get emotionally stronger and you learn so much from that one relationship so don't be too upset or devastated, think of what you learned from them and how much you have grown as a person. It'll be a big stepping stone for you.

[wouldyoutapthat]

a year or two in my case...

[jennified88]

It's been 6 years and I am still not over my ex.. despite the fact I have dated other guys in this time frame. I always compare and reminisce about the past...

Am I foolish?

[spixder]

Sooner or later u will realize that its time to let go. When that happens the saddest thing happens; u forget abt him/her.

[bonjour tristesse.]

it depends on how deep the relationship was. i guess you can say that to me, time will heal me. but as for your bff sitation, let her have time to heal. she'll get over it sooner or later.

[vee.pee]

i'm one of those people who take a while to fall for someone.. but once you do, you fall HARD.

Same =.=

For me, It's been 3 years and I still can't let go and move on.
But when's he's not around, I'm all good - no daily thoughts on him.
Eventually one day I'll forget him..

[princessleenie]

Well it doesnt take me a really long time to get over them but im not over than after a week.

With my ex that was my bff before we dated, it took me 3-4 months to truely let go and not think about him all the time, that break up really hurt me even though it was mutal too but i dont think 3-4 months is a long time. From time to time i still think of him and occasionally miss him.

With my most recent ex, well i dont know we just broke up 2 days ago, even though i broke up with him i dont know why i seem like the one thats more hurt. I still love him but its an unhealthy relationship and im always crying. He seems all normal but i reallly wanna see him and talk to him but i stop myself everytime i try calling him.

[myxo]

It's been 6 years and I am still not over my ex.. despite the fact I have dated other guys in this time frame. I always compare and reminisce about the past...

Am I foolish?

No, you're not foolish. Dating guys who aren't your Mr. Right isn't going to help you move on. You just haven't met the right person after your ex, I suppose. My ex took 4+ years to get over his ex, and he met a few other girls in between, but they didn't affect the way he felt about his ex.


It takes me a really long time to move on. It's not as easy as it looks. I'm still trying, so I can't even tell you how long. I just know that it feels like it's been too long.