[lilvy1025]

For me im not that close with my parent, but im very close wit my grandmother (mom's side), i always stay @ her house before i move to the US 3 years ago
i do talk to my mom when i have issue and stuff but im seriously have a very bad relationship with my dad
i dont talk 2 him, when im at home i try to like avoid him as much as possible
i mean he not bad, he a very hard working person, but sometime he yell at me for no reason and sometime he being mean to me
when my mom ask me to clean the house he like "oh you cant do it just go away"
when i forgot to turn off the light he said im lazy
i admit i made mistake and do things wrong, when that happen he said im stupid like a cow
i do appreciate my dad but i dont like him, can you guy help me what should i do to make this better

*edit*
thanks guy 4 the your great response
i guess things turn out like this just because i never really spend time at my house since i was 4 until 11
but back then i talk to my dad too, he used to drive me to skool and bought snack 4 me when he came back from work
but when we move to the state idk what happen maybe because i used to live at my grandma's house but then suddenly i have to live with my parent
i gonna tell you guy this, i think this was the reason why i started a distance with my dad
the 1st morning in the US, we stay at my aunt house so we have to go somewhere, so i ask my dad to turn on the shower (in a calm voice) for me i didnt no how 2 turn it on when i first came. Then he was like raise his voice a little "you're so stupid, you don't know how to turn this thing on"
after he said that "im thinking 2 myself i should have ask my uncle"

[xstrawberry_bearx]

I can relate to you so much.
Im not close with neither of my parents. I'm close to my grandma (mom's side) and my auntie (mom's younger sister) more.
Yeah my parents arent together. My mom was a workaholic and well the other person was barely existing.
It just got to recently about a couple of years ago that my mom and I finally catch up on a lot of things.
We're on good relationships now but there are still gaps or an invisible wall.

In other words, my suggestion is for you to have a sit down and have a nice talk with your father.
Even though he might not want to hear it, I dont think he would push you aside if you tell him you want to talk to him.
When you get his attention: .. let it all out of what you want to tell him.

Hopefully that helps. Good luck to you and take cares<3 Hope everything gets better for you.

[HeulWan]

I think in general, Asians (especially Chinese people) don't tend to be as close to their parents. I mean, of course alot of people have good relationships with their families but normally just not as close and comfortable with each other as European people. Maybe its the formal/respectful/fearful mentally but there aren't many who can sit down and have a nice intimate conversation with their parents.

Depending on your dad's character, talking may or may not work. But I agree, talking is good and worth a try. Normally parents tend to act to their children how their parents acted towards them and they don't know any different (vicious cycle). So maybe you'll be suprised at their reaction when you talk to them?

Just be positive and if you've tried at least you won't have any regrets and "what if"'s

[april.berry]

with my mom, yes. but with my dad, normal because he works out of the country most of the time..

i'm close to my mom because we do stuff together. i'm also close to the sisters of my mom because i'm the only girl in the family. we shop together and we go to their house 3 to 4 times a week just to hang out..

[nowayin]

I am not close to neither of my parents.
I totally avoid talking to my mom, I don't know how it got to this point. But when I was young I would tell my mom lots of stuff.
I don't talk much to my Dad too. He is usually away, and busy, and there seems to be nothing to talk to him about. Well unless it's about buying a very important or expensive item; like a car or a house. I would go to him for advice, but that's about it.
They were on bad terms for a really long time, they are still together but I think during that period where by they were always arguing, I just kinda stop speaking to neither of them. I guess it stuck till to this day.

[yours.truly.]

i have a close relationship with my mom but i still can't tell her certain things. i love her a lot though.

[Rainity]

i guess im close to them but not so close like my brother is. he tells my mom everything.
but for me, i guess its hard to talk to my parents about stuff.
i feel uncomfortable.

[soulmate.]

yes, I'm very close to my parents.
we're really close and we share things that are runnign through our minds together

[rms13515]

Not a very great relationship between me and my parents ever. Never had the best child so it's hard to even talk to them about things even as growing up. Though, it was not the worst, I just can't see it getting much closer at all. It would just be awkward. The four letter words are hard to say, to anyone. I'm alive and that's what it is.

[WendiiE]

I'm Chinese and I'm really close to my parents. We are like friends. We joke and laugh together. I think it just varies for each family.

[Hazy]

I would say I'm pretty close to my parents.

But I don't think I make much of an effort sometimes to talk to them.. I know I should though. :/

[adoredior]

i'm close to my mum but do you get those days when your parents decide to gang up on you and give you lectures? I HATE THAT. my dad? hmm i ddnt grew up with him cos he left us to go overseas to work (for us ofcos) but before he left i was about 4/5 around that. and i dont remember being close to him but my mum tells me and shows me pictures. but now that i'm almost 18. i dunno we dont talk, i've never had 10 min convo with him while looking face to face. i cant stand him and him? i dont think he understands me. we just dont have that father-daughter relationship and it's a lil sad as the pictures proves that we once had the loving relationship. but when i was in my early teens, he'd pissed me offf so much. and i hated him. i shouldn't hate my father. i wanna understand him and sometime i think to myself 'oh his father passed away when he was little so i guess he didn't have a father figure maybe thats why he dosn't know how to show love'. but he's JUST. ugh. man HAHAHHA. i try to stay away from him cos we just dont see eye-to-eye. but a lil bit of me wants to be close to him.

[PDURRR]

my mom and i are alike so i would say we're close i guess, we think the same way
i'm against like most of the things my dad believes in, i would say the relationship between my dad and i are okay i guess, i can talk to him but i hate the things he does and etc

[LittleCabbage]

I'm close to both of my parents, but I'll have to say Im more closer to my mum than my dad!

[o0ochristieo0o]

yes very very close relationship hehe
im one of the lucky ones

[Twinny]

I am not close to neither of my parents, because we don't communicate with each other. My parents arguing all the time. They stay together because of money issue. When I was young my dad was really nice to me. He will always hug me when he see me and always bought toys for me. When I was in the teenage year he always nagging me and yell me that I'm dumb. So we don't talk to each other when we do talk we will argue. Now we don't argue anymore but we don't talk to each other only stuff about work. You know, because of this I feel very awkward to say ''dad'' to him.

[youngbaellaine]

I'm actually close to my parents, but not very.
With my dad, we joke around a lot..
And he always knows when something's up,
He always makes me feel better.

With my mom, I can tell her a few things.
I talk to her about friends and school,
And random stuff.
But usually, it's like.. I don't wanna speak to her.
'Cause I'm always in a bad mood after school.

[__XOXO]

i'm not sure. the daughter she knows me as is nothing like that in reality. i do what she expects & stuff, & i'm okay with her, but idek, we're just not CLOSE. we have our arguments that can last a week & we yell when it gets bad. but when it's okay, it could pass as close.

my dad totally babies. i love him lots, but we he's mad, he gets REALLY MAD. but it takes lots for him to get pissed. but lately he's been more pissy than usually. so i'm kinda avoiding him. :/

in general, i'm not close to my family at all, not even grandparents or aunts/uncles/cousins. i barely see them & talk to them because they don't live when i live. all across the world & stuff.

[wicked_]

WAS. When I decided to change my major things just went straight down the crapper. I'm dealing with it though, still hoping one day they'll realize I'm really happy doing what I love.

[joannieos]

I have a real close relationship with my mum . It's pretty cool, cause then I can talk to her about also anything =). With my dad, we're alright. I'm not fully close to him, but we do talk and hang out together sometimes so it's cool I love my family, cause everyone is so close with eachother.