[shimjaehwa]

I'm curious, what is it like to be a twin? I was born a twin, but was separated after a few days after our birth. I ended up being internationally adopted and grew up in the states, but my twin was kept by the biological family and remained in South Korea. We recently got in touch and i'm not sure what to expect, if I should expect anything. I'm also just plain curious. I always hear about twin telepathy or this strong bond that exists between twins. What do you think?

Thanks.

[ordinaRynne]

Aww.. I'm sorry to hear that..>_<
I'd like to have a twin, but sometimes it gets annoying when it comes to calling names. xD
my twin friends always got their name called like this: "Kelsie?umm, or Kelly?"
so ya.. i think there's always pros and cons for everything. =)

[gem2461]

OMG! Your life story is like a synopsis of a Korean drama<333333

[McCartney]

I don't know of any twin telepathy or strong bond, but I was also separated at birth. I don't really know what it's like to be a twin either, but I always envied these two kids at school who were twins. Even they weren't particularly fast at running, they appeared to have a bond which contributed a lot to team work. They'd be doing most of the work and score all of the points. It was really strange.

As for myself, I didn't have a strong bond with a person who looks like me and have no prior experience with, nor will I ever have a strong bond with any stranger. You may develop a strong bond, but that will take some time.

It's nice that you want to develop a relationship with your twin and I hope it all goes well. As for what to expect; how do you feel about being abandoned? If you haven't already met, please think about it before you meet face to face. I'm sure I don't have to tell you it's going to be mentally exhausting. I feel quite a lot of resentment toward my brother and my biological parents. I've never asked why I was abandoned and I do not want to know in case it's something that really upsets me.

[vip_gd]

i don't want a twin
i would always be compared with
i bet my parents would be like

"she's prettier"
"why are you so fat and she's so thin?"
"she has better grades than you"

[Painterlyy]

I probably wouldn't want a twin because you'll be constantly compared. Life would be a competitive contest.

[shimjaehwa]

It's nice that you want to develop a relationship with your twin and I hope it all goes well. As for what to expect; how do you feel about being abandoned? If you haven't already met, please think about it before you meet face to face. I'm sure I don't have to tell you it's going to be mentally exhausting. I feel quite a lot of resentment toward my brother and my biological parents. I've never asked why I was abandoned and I do not want to know in case it's something that really upsets me.

How do I feel about being abandoned? I understand the underlying reason, too many mouths to feed. In addition I was told that they were not expecting twins at all. I was born first and my father told me that he though everything was done, but 10 minutes later he heard my twin. He was shocked... I understand it, but I don't have to like it or agree with it. I'm still very much at a loss as to why my twin and I were separated. Why not just place her for internal adoption instead of overseas? I do have abandonment issues though. It's not entirely due to my adoption though. My adoptive parents divorced and my dad abandoned me multiple times before he left for good. I've also been abandoned by people I thought were my friends over the years as well. I've dealt with a lot of loss that can translate into abandonment.

Meeting face to face wasn't bad, it's trying to build a relationship or trying to figure out what we want from each other that's hard. The main reason I met with my family was to get medical documentation. Should I ever want to have children I want to know if I'm passing anything to them. Haha, I got partial information.

[shamrock_monkey02]

there's always bad and good things as being a twin, since i am one. haha, yeahh it is
annoying when it comes to calling names.. but sometimes its fun to see how they do it,
and their reactions and stuff, and the comparing, it happens often.. but who's doesn't
compare you with your siblings? i have to say i have a strong bond with my twin sister.
but i guess it just depends on you and your twin, because there can be twins .. with not
a strong bond at all...

[Chakra'ca]

I'm an identical twin. It has it's good points and bad but it's basically exactly the same as having a sister.
People always make a big deal about having a twin but I don't get it. People are honestly very annoying when it comes to being a twin, they always make you stand side by side to see if they can spot the differences, they play the guessing game to see if they know which one you are, they refer to you as "the twins", and they always call you by the other one's name. At this point I answer to both my name, Lauren, and Kristen. Also, since we're in high school people say hi to me in the halls, and I never know if they actually think it's me or my sister, and since I don't know all of my sisters friends, it's hard to tell when somebody is waving to "her" or one of the people around me. So often times we just won't wave back and then end up making the other one look bad.

It can be annoying because you're compared a lot too eachother, and I know me and my sister tried very hard to establish our own identity and be as different as we could, which often caused a little resentment on both sides because one of us would like something a lot and the other one would get into it. Looking back, it was a bad thing just because for me, it kind of pushed me into a corner where I'm afraid to completely be who I am because I'm afraid of changing and getting judged by her.

But at the same time, me and her are both very close and to be honest she's the only person in the world who is remotely similar to me, personality wise and how we think. We get along very well and we hardly ever actually fight. We did have the psychic bond thing going on with eachother and also with our mother, but that was only when we were young, it's over now. When we'd go to the doctor, one of us would get a shot and the other sister would feel the pain, or one of us would go out shopping and the other one would know everything that was bought.

Honestly, since you've been separated for so long, I wouldn't expect any telepathy or strong bond, that's mainly during childhood. But I hope everything goes well!

[miki_chan]

I'm an identical twin.
As the user above me posted, it has its good points and bad points.
You're constantly compared to each other by people. When people try to guess you're names, its funny to see them do it. Eventually they'll pick up the differences in you and your twin. Although my twin and I are close, we can get into big arguments and stuff but then we'll just resolve it like any other sibling. Everyone is constantly asking us how it feels to be a twin, how they wished they had one and stuff. Overall, I always found it kind of cool that I am one (:

[x-ly]

I'm curious, what is it like to be a twin? I was born a twin, but was separated after a few days after our birth. I ended up being internationally adopted and grew up in the states, but my twin was kept by the biological family and remained in South Korea. We recently got in touch and i'm not sure what to expect, if I should expect anything. I'm also just plain curious. I always hear about twin telepathy or this strong bond that exists between twins. What do you think?

Thanks.

Being a twin myself, it has its pros and cons. You get compared alot, and I guess you could say there's a little bit of competition between eachother, but in a good way though. =) I'm not too sure about the telepathy thing, but there is a strong bond that exists. Usually, twins are able to understand eachother very well too. I've also noticed that in most cases, one will be more feminine than the other twin. For example, Twin A might enjoy shopping, while Twin B enjoys sports more. That's just my opinion though.

I hope you and your twin the best.

[TheJokerFace]

They get compared a lot. Deep down, you're more alike than you know. At least that's what I think. GL!

[akira53]

I have an identical twin sister. It's really not that great...you're constantly being compared, getting called the wrong name all the time, but you get used to it.
Ironically, even though my sister and I do a lot of things together, we're not that close. I don't feel her (physical) pain and I don't know what she's thinking half the time. Our personalities are also quite different and we dress differently.
Bring in Japan this is the first time I've been away from her for a long time. It was really weird at first and she's probably the one thing I really miss from home, more than my parents.

[xl0v3juicy]

It's actually pretty neat being a twin. Twins are generally closer to eachother because they're the same age, and identical twins actually share the exact same DNA. I like being a twin because we can talk about anyone and anything, and we'll both understand. It's like we have our completely different personalities, but we can still understand what the other one is thinking or feeling. You're not afraid to tell them everything, because you know they will ultimately understand you. Even though we may fight, we'll still be there for eachother in the end cause we're family