[situponatree*]

So basically, to make things short, I told my friends something that I heard someone say about them that wasn't very nice. Both of them ended up getting hurt and things were blown out of proportion and I feel absolutely horrible because I feel like I should have kept my mouth shut. No one is blaming me though, because they said they want to know the truth and that I was right to have told them. I thought it over, and I still can't help but think that ignorance is bliss. This guilty feeling will not leave me.

So, what should I do? Everything is a mess.



tell me if you guys need the whole story in detail. a warning, it's really retarded high school drama. -__-

[Painterlyy]

IT's not ur fault. You did the rite thing. Just don't try to get involved anymore.

[Shui]

sorry,
basically they aren't blmaing you but if you told nasties to someone else and they told them would you be happy?
don't do it again, things friends tell ffriends are not supposed to be told, unless it's something different.

thats how i live, mellowww

and try not to talk behind your friends back again or vice versa nehh

[XxKhmerBoiXx]

Did u hear it or were u told it?

[Snowy_Angel]

It's not your fault, and basically if thats the way you want to live then just do it. We can' tell you how to live because we aren't you. You may feel guilt from telling them but if one thought bad of the other than they should've thought better than to talk behind the others back. You just did your role as the others friend by telling and you wouldn't want the other to later on say "if you knew why didnt you tell me!?"

The guilt will pass if you let yourself go free because your friends arent the ones making you feel guilty. You need to think outside the square. You did this because your good friends. Its not liek you were the one who said all that crap. And maybe that friend who said that bad crap about the other isn't a very nice person to begin with so its showng their true colors. Honestly I wouldn't and havent said anything bad about my close friends because to me they are like my sisters. True friends wouldn't say crap about each other only pinkberryes do.

[catheezy]

it's not your fault. i'd like to know if someone was talking about me behind my back. people will do things to hurt each other. you did the right thing by telling them.

[LoveStrangled]

Hmm. Well. I won't lie it's partially your fault.

If they wanted to the know the truth they could' have asked each other. There would have been no truth to know if you hadn't said anything.

Also did that someone say that "bad thing" directly to you or were you eases-dropping? I don't know enough detail to fully judge if the portion of your fault is big enough to worry about.

First if you were ease-dropping, that's disgusting I'm sorry I won't deny it--..

But I think that it would have been okay if you told them if she said it loud enough or in a place where other people can easily hear it that is... [Plus Depends on what they said though cause if it was just something small like "She's Ugly and Talks a lot" then you should have just left it alone].

If they told you directly I'm pretty sure the girl who was being mean did not want to directly tell your other friend or she would' have from the start.

I think that it was unnecessary to say anything. Usually when my friend talk behind each other backs I just change the subject. or smile and say "Uh Huh. I see that sometimes but she's really [Insert something positive here to change the subject]." Also pretend I didn't hear anything. Avoidance is Best.

Drama is over-rated. It' can be easily solved if you think Logically. I don't know how to give you advise on what to do cause I don't know what actually went on but maybe talking to both of them together will help. Otherwise leave it alone. Let time heal it.

[situponatree*]

Thanks for your input guys.
I didn't eavesdrop because she did say it loud enough for me to hear across the room.
but yeah, I agree with LoveStrangled, I should have just avoided it.
I was going to because that's what I usually do, but idk, it's because they were really close friends
of mine. and it felt like she insulted me by saying stuff about them.

I won't do it next time. Drama is reeeally over-rated, especially when it's over prom -__-
Hopefully, everything will blow over soon.

thanks again! (:

[shirotaka]

Oh wow, does everyone but the poster previously above me really think its not his/her fault? Of course its his/her fault because it was him/her who had said this and in everyone's best interest it was better not had been said.

So quit sugar coating and comforting him/her, but then again I'm only telling him the truth and ignorance truly is, a bliss.

[vintageballad]

I think you should think of the consequences before you decide telling them. Gossip and crap-talking are bound to happen between friends, you can't just tell your friends every single bad thing that was said targeted at them. Some things are just better left unsaid.
Maybe things might have turned out differently if your friends found it out themselves.

[xxsarahhoangerz]

Whenever you say something bad about another person, regardless as to whether you heard it from someone, you should know that people will get hurt. From saying this, it's not your fault because technically, you didn't say it. However, you did do some damage as to passing on the message. Nonetheless, don't take the blame entirely, I'm sure you had good intentions.

[5.mystline]

I'd say It was your fault but at the same time It Isn't your fault..but at least their friendship Isn't based on a lie anymore?

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

Oh wow, does everyone but the poster previously above me really think its not his/her fault? Of course its his/her fault because it was him/her who had said this and in everyone's best interest it was better not had been said.

you realise that most people only tend to try and "comfort" people instead of saying the truth


but yeah I think it's your fault.
You should just keep it to yourself next time.
but hey, look at the bright side, we learn from our mistakes.
You've learned something now, might save you from future troubles that might be more complicated.

[shirotaka]

you realise that most people only tend to try and "comfort" people instead of saying the truth


but yeah I think it's your fault.
You should just keep it to yourself next time.
but hey, look at the bright side, we learn from our mistakes.
You've learned something now, might save you from future troubles that might be more complicated.

Haha, of course I've realized that but you know he/she will never get anywhere if he/she can just put it off as "it wasn't my fault." Plus he/she learned a good lesson anyhow.

[Flicksityy]

If they wanted the truth, the truth hurts doesn't it?
Unless you like playing Chinese whispers, adding your own point of view into someone else's sentence, then it's your fault.