[diingdong]

i was on the bus the other day and couldn't help listen to this couples argument about how it is wrong for a guy/girl to just start dating again after coming out of a serious relationship. Like say the girl/guy started dating after a week or so after the breakup.

DO you guys think it's wrong and that they should have given it more time due to the fact that they just came out of a serious relationship? and DO any of you guys know someone who's in that situation and how they're dealing with it?

[Lie]

I think it's pretty disrespectful to the person they just got out of a relationship with. It essentially says, "You meant so little to me that I was able to replace you in a week."

That said, if the new person they meet is someone who they feel an incredibly strong connection with, I think they should go for it anyway.

[evans]

i guess it'll be too fast for me, and it might look to other people as 'perhaps there was something going on before they even broke up' due to the lack of time between the relationships. however if the previous r/s ended on a really bad note, then i feel that it's not as bad, cause imo he/she can be happy this way .

[joongielove]

*raises hand* Happened to me very recently. I got out of a year and some odd months long relationship mid-January, and by the 28th, I was dating my boyfriend.

Honestly, I don't think people should judge someone based on that. Me and my ex had a very rough last couple of months, to the extent where it didn't even feel like a relationship anymore for all of December and until I broke it off in January.

Also, there's the background story.You can't judge someone you don't know if you don't know the background. Me and my boyfriend had met before in September, and had been friends since. Feelings just developed.

And to the people who think "Oh, if they got together this fast, there MUST have been something going on." Not always true, at least not in my case. I didn't act on any of my emotions toward my now boyfriend when I was still with my ex, because I knew that he would've been hurt and I couldn't disrespect him like that.

So no, I don't think it's a bad thing, you just need to know the background story and not come to quick conclusions.

Sorry if I sound defensive. heh.

[cheerydumdum]

i agree with Lie and evans, but i don't think you can really say it's wrong or right because it kinda depends. you can't really control your feelings for other people. person A could be dating person B for a really long time, but then person A could lose their feelings for person B over time and fall for person C. people A and B could break up and then person A could start dating person C. it looks bad to other people, but you can't help how you feel.

[shirotaka]

*raises hand* Happened to me very recently. I got out of a year and some odd months long relationship mid-January, and by the 28th, I was dating my boyfriend.

Honestly, I don't think people should judge someone based on that. Me and my ex had a very rough last couple of months, to the extent where it didn't even feel like a relationship anymore for all of December and until I broke it off in January.

Also, there's the background story.You can't judge someone you don't know if you don't know the background. Me and my boyfriend had met before in September, and had been friends since. Feelings just developed.

And to the people who think "Oh, if they got together this fast, there MUST have been something going on." Not always true, at least not in my case. I didn't act on any of my emotions toward my now boyfriend when I was still with my ex, because I knew that he would've been hurt and I couldn't disrespect him like that.

So no, I don't think it's a bad thing, you just need to know the background story and not come to quick conclusions.

Sorry if I sound defensive. heh.

People are only defensive when it affects them neh?

I think its disrespectful just because I think they should be given a little time to break apart and like everyone else says, it means that it didn't mean too much to them. But people should do what makes them happy.

[Fly for Fun:D]

I don't think it's bad to get back into another relationship after a serious relationship as long as you're over your ex. I don't think it's fair to the new person if you still have feelings for your ex.

[superlove]

It's not wrong, but it's not cool to get into another one right away because it's pretty inconsiderate.
No matter the situation, at least sort out your feelings so you don't end up regretting it later.

[P a p e r_C l i p]

^ yeah what they said xD

Also it always seems kinda..reboundish to me for some reason

[musicpoplove]

its noting wrong with that
i thnk its fine.
a WEEK is a bit too fast
but maybe FEW week is fine. like 3 week or so

[Smelly Tofu]

i don't think it's wrong..its also not about replacing them...just simply I fall in love with someone else...simple...

i think this is sticking too much to that moral thing, like you have to take this much gap before another relationship..there was never a standard so i believe you should just go with your own pace...lol it's not like you and your ex are still responsible for each other...

[crazyko]

I think it's pretty disrespectful to the person they just got out of a relationship with. It essentially says, "You meant so little to me that I was able to replace you in a week."

That said, if the new person they meet is someone who they feel an incredibly strong connection with, I think they should go for it anyway.

i agreed with this..! It essentially says, "You meant so little to me that I was able to replace you in a week."

well i just found out a friend of mine got dump by his girlfriend 4 days ago..but their relationship was going fine.
but then 1 day * KABOOM* she says lets breakup ==''

then 2 days after the breakup, she dated another guy
and my guy friend broke down in tears


but then everyone is different....hard 2 decide if its wrong or right,but for me its kinda on da wrong side more ...
but then u just gotta hear da story behind everything

[shooting_starz]

eh..just seems like they're just using the new person to get over their long term boyfriend/girlfriend.

[honeytee]

Feelings do fade which leaves room for new feelings to blossom. Yes towards the current person you're with it's disrespectful that you've found someone else but at least you break it off before any cheating can occur.

[myxo]

It's not wrong if the new relationship is sincere. It may be disrespectful to the person you were with, but there really isn't a time limit to when you should or shouldn't get into a new relationship.
Most people I know who get in a relationship right after a break-up are doing it to ease the hurt/pain associated with post-breakup. Whatever helps them move on. I know this girl who got with another guy a day after she broke up with her ex. Her new guy was just a rebound, so their relationship didn't last more than 2 months. In the end, she was the one that got hurt, so she jumped to yet another guy. Getting all the attention and feeling as if you're still wanted helped her move on.

[joannieos]

Well to me, I think it would be a little fast to get into a relationship. Well, because I mean if you get back into a relationship in like 3 weeks or so, you've only had 3 weeks to know the other person? :/ unless you've known them before, during you were in a relationship. Iono. But, in my opinion, if you were really serious about the person previously then you wouldn't rush into a relationship THAT fast. It takes time for a heart to heal COMPLETELY.

[sixth.]

I think it's pretty disrespectful to the person they just got out of a relationship with. It essentially says, "You meant so little to me that I was able to replace you in a week."

That said, if the new person they meet is someone who they feel an incredibly strong connection with, I think they should go for it anyway.

100% agree. sometimes feelings just happen and you can't help it.
my ex started going out with his current gf 5 days after breaking up with me. but we'd broken up on good terms, and he'd known her longer than he knew me. i was iffy with it at first, but got over it soon enough.

[uchung89]

situations vary and everyone above has good points.

to me, people usually go out with someone after a break up
to forget about their previous realtionship aka rebound.

it must have not been too serious if one gets into
a relationship right after another a recent breakup.

[mrsjaejoong]

there shouldn't be a set time for it. yeah, it sucks for the ppl getting dumped to know that they've been replaced just after a short period, but then again, you should just do what you feel is right. every situation is different
it's not necessarily a rebound thing if your feelings are really strong
i mean, imagine you were in a really crapper relationship and then mr. perfect shows up out of nowhere and you dump the loser for the right guy. you're not going to want to give it time. if it's right, then it's just right

[sangkims]

there shouldn't be a set time for it. yeah, it sucks for the ppl getting dumped to know that they've been replaced just after a short period, but then again, you should just do what you feel is right. every situation is different
it's not necessarily a rebound thing if your feelings are really strong
i mean, imagine you were in a really crapper relationship and then mr. perfect shows up out of nowhere and you dump the loser for the right guy. you're not going to want to give it time. if it's right, then it's just right

I disagree...(no offense)

I guess men and women are just different.