[juicebox]

my bf and i have been dating for over 7 months but the past 4 weeks has been feeling a little distant.
4 weeks ago, we had a talk saying how im always hanging out with his friends and that im always around and he felt suffocated. so after that, i tried to back off a little, but situations where id get called out by his friends cant be helped. theyve become my good friends now as well and i didnt wanna just keep myself at home for the sake of my bf wanting space. and also because sometimes when i get upset about him, i just give him the cold attitude and i never let him know whats wrong and it makes him feel really annoyed because he doesnt know whats going on, so i guess we have a major communication problem as well.
but anyways, the last week felt really bad, i couldnt even eat anything at all. but his ex that he is still friends with came and visited and after that he felt so distant towards me, usually he'd act like that when he wants space, but it just didnt feel so good considering the circumstances. since my mum, who doesnt know about my bf, also yelled at me before saying something like how im so useless and no guys would ever be serious with me. it really got to me and i was really upset about that. and then 2 nights ago, i was at my friends apartment and we got really drunk and i witnessed a couple where the guy cheated on the girl and it just made me feel so disappointed and think of everything that had happened and i got really upset, which is really bad when im drunk. and i accidentally called my bf, and he got really angry and worried because he hates it when i drink.
so last night he came over to my house and we sat outside talking and he was saying that he was so sick of how we have this problem and that everyday he feels so bad how we tried to fix the problem before but we just ended up seeing each other so often again and that he feels a drift from me and he doesnt know what to do about it because he and his ex of 3 months had the same problem, but they dragged it on for another 2 and half months and they tried to give more space but he drifted even more from her. so if we stay together gave it more time but still saw each other, he feels very sure that all our problems are going to occur again, but maybe space might make him drift, but he doesnt want to break up as well and neither do i. because i really do love him and i want to do as much as i can to fix this, but is this a problem that can be fixed?

[bipolar{polarbear}]

I think it's only natural to drift apart. Fate makes it incredibly difficult for two people to find each other, and even more difficult for them to stay together. I remember I had the same problems with my last girlfriend except that relationship spanned a little over 2 years. But for my case, the issues only lied with me. She was perfect the way she was/is. If you find that you still have deep feelings for the other person, then you should try to work it out. Don't be like me and piss away your life, regretting what could have been. The last few years have been nothing but . . . "if only I . . . "It's pathetic. I know it. But I just can't forgive myself, so I continue to live in the past.

[MNLV27]

Well, you guys need to figure out exactly what the problem is and try to fix it together. Communication is the key thing to have in a relationship.

[juicebox]

Well, you guys need to figure out exactly what the problem is and try to fix it together. Communication is the key thing to have in a relationship.

yeah that is the problem. part of it anyways. we dont communicate enough because im always scared to express my feelings and it annoys him whenever he knows something is wrong but i wont talk.

[MNLV27]

yeah that is the problem. part of it anyways. we dont communicate enough because im always scared to express my feelings and it annoys him whenever he knows something is wrong but i wont talk.

Well, it seems like your afraid of talking to him about your feelings, do you know why?

I can relate to you, I was like you at first and my ex got really frustrated that I didn't express myself to him as much and that can cause a drift and a wall between us. Because I didn't tell him my feelings there were time's I'd just have a melt down on him because I just kept all my feelings to myself, I'd express everything that I've felt over the few months and all that, noticing that, that was when I started expressing myself a bit more when I felt like he needed to know how I felt.

[juicebox]

yeah i kinda do feel scared talking to him about my feelings.
but today i was having a chat with our friends and we came down to it, and i realised that nobody elses gf hangs out with their bf and their friends as much as i do. or at all for that matter. so yeah my friend explained to me that whole thing how guys have two worlds, the one he has with his guy friends and the one with the gf and when they both come together, the bf feels like he always has to make sure shes not too bored or being careful of saying insensitive things that guys normally say etc etc. so mix all that up with my cold attitude when i DO get mad makes everything all bleh. so in my eyes i feel like it can be fixed but i still feel unsure of what he wants.