[o1379]

Hi soompierss (:

so to get to the point, i will try to retell what happened as accurately as possible so that the story wont be too one sided.

so i came all the way to my bf's house which took me about 45 minutes. When i get there, hes sitting there playing his computer game. there was still at least 30 more minutes until his game end, so there he was playing awayy. He tells me to wait for him to finish his game but i say i don't want to wait another 30 minutes and that i had to leave in 30 min but i have a feeling he didn't take that seriously -____________-". He says, " well im gonna finish this game." so there i was sitting there, getting very impatient and quietly waiting for him to finish. about 15 minutes of me waiting, he decides to end his game and ask me what i wanted to do. i was already pissed of so i replied in a very uninterested tone of voice, " no, i don't know, whats there to do?" and he asks me why im being like that and mocking my tone of voice. so i said nothing more, and so he takes out a movie and starts watching it, as if i wasn't there. i sat there staring at nothing for at least 45 minutes. i got pretty fed up so i got up and said bye to him and went home. i didn't say bye in a biitchy way or anything. i was more sad and disappointed than angry =\

so now we haven't seen or spoken a word to each other for a week now. who's right? who's wrong..? what am i supposed to do. this guy.. hes my bf of over a year now but things aren't so great lately. i would really appreciate your comments (:

[YESUNGHWAITING!]

I'd say that he's just not very interested anymore.
It kinda looks like he's looking for a way out.
I hate to say that, but he doesn't look like he cares very much about you.

Move on?
:/

[o1379]

sigh. im sure its not that. i know hes probably mad at me right now.. but why????! i feel like i shouldn't have gotten upset and left.

[jesus.shuttlesworth]

you guys are doomed just break up already

sounds painful enough

[jenniferpark.]

no one is right or wrong but you should talk to him first.
guys will never understand girls.. when he asked you why he's like that you didn't say anything
so he doesn't know what you're thinking.
you just tell him straight on what you're thinking. then they will understand lol
my bf always says "i can't read your mind, you have to tell me what you're thinking or else i can't do anything"
so if you're mad, tell him why you're mad.

[NecraEx]

I think you both are wrong, cuz your bf shouldn't have ignored you for a video game although they are very addicting. As the user above stated you shouldve told him how you felt at the moment. You should talk to him if you want to make things work. Have a talk with him, tell him how you feel.

[colloquy]

You just pulled something that is highly annoying - expecting your boyfriend to read your mind and figure out what's wrong. Next time, just let him know.

[adoredior]

hmm first of all he should have acknowlege that it took you 45 mins to get to him and then he asked you to wait just cos he wants to finish his games?

i can understand why you're upset with him and said "no, i don't know, whats there to do?" cos he freakin made you wait ! it's like his games are more important then you. he shouldn't get angry at you and i think you could have told him how you felt.

[myxo]

It sounds like he's bored of you and is sick of your attitude. I've been there, so I understand how you feel. My ex acted the same way whenever he was peeved at me. For instance, he'll ask me what I wanted to eat for dinner, and I'll unenthusiastically reply with a "I don't know, I'm not hungry," and he'll get mad at that. You know there's a problem when everything triggers an argument. It doesn't help that he hasn't contacted you in a week now. If he's usually first to contact you before and isn't so willing to contact you now, he either wants time/space or he's busy. When my ex ignored me for a week, he was out partying almost every single night of the week. Also, another thing to note, your bf seems to be taking you for granted. You drove 45 minutes to see him, and he didn't appreciate the time you spent driving to and from his place just to see him.

[spixder]

You've been...Taken for Granted.

[jhealizzie]

^^ ditto~!

break up with him.
it's his Lost anyway.

[Swtess]

You were both wrong. Him for being a game addict and ignoring his gf and you for pulling that move.
Trust me, when guys are engrossed into their video games and then turn their attention to you, they will not know why you're mad and they wold have no idea that they were playing for ages. To them, it only feels like a few minutes. Next time, tell him how you feel instead of being moody like that. It'll get you no where and both will just end up getting frustrated with one another.

[HaplessChild]

Hi soompierss (:

so to get to the point, i will try to retell what happened as accurately as possible so that the story wont be too one sided.

so i came all the way to my bf's house which took me about 45 minutes. When i get there, hes sitting there playing his computer game. there was still at least 30 more minutes until his game end, so there he was playing awayy. He tells me to wait for him to finish his game but i say i don't want to wait another 30 minutes and that i had to leave in 30 min but i have a feeling he didn't take that seriously -____________-". He says, " well im gonna finish this game." so there i was sitting there, getting very impatient and quietly waiting for him to finish. about 15 minutes of me waiting, he decides to end his game and ask me what i wanted to do. i was already pissed of so i replied in a very uninterested tone of voice, " no, i don't know, whats there to do?" and he asks me why im being like that and mocking my tone of voice. so i said nothing more, and so he takes out a movie and starts watching it, as if i wasn't there. i sat there staring at nothing for at least 45 minutes. i got pretty fed up so i got up and said bye to him and went home. i didn't say bye in a biitchy way or anything. i was more sad and disappointed than angry =\

so now we haven't seen or spoken a word to each other for a week now. who's right? who's wrong..? what am i supposed to do. this guy.. hes my bf of over a year now but things aren't so great lately. i would really appreciate your comments (:

You over reacted. Should have just been patient. His world does not revolve around you and he's not expected to say "how high?" when you say "jump." You got an attitude and basically threw a tantrum. I wouldn't have called you back either until you apologize.

[o1379]

thanks for every one of your comments everyonee. (:

[imhitomi]

You both didn't handle the situation well but I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that he's bored with you.
The truth is boys loves their games. If girls took all their love for shoes/jewelry/bags/makeup/cute things/kitties/etc. and wadded it into a ball, that's how much some guys love their games. When any guy I know is playing video games, I generally leave them be. Yeah, guys should learn to just hit pause but I'm not going to hold my breath until they do.

First of all, did you make plans for you to go to his house? If you showed up without much warning, I wouldn't blame him too much. If you made plans to meet around that time, that's different. He should have paused the game rather than making you sit there. I would have said very clearly, "I have to leave at such-and-such time." Saying "I have to leave in 30 minutes" makes it sound flexible or as if you will leave in 30 minutes if he doesn't stop playing.

He should apologize but don't wait for him to. Boys are stubborn like we are. I'd go ahead and talk to him but make it clear that you aren't happy with what he did. Tell him that you wanted to spend some time with him and you felt like you weren't getting the attention you deserved. Besides, who's his girlfriend? You or the video game? Remind him of that.

[o1379]

You both didn't handle the situation well but I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that he's bored with you.
The truth is boys loves their games. If girls took all their love for shoes/jewelry/bags/makeup/cute things/kitties/etc. and wadded it into a ball, that's how much some guys love their games. When any guy I know is playing video games, I generally leave them be. Yeah, guys should learn to just hit pause but I'm not going to hold my breath until they do.

First of all, did you make plans for you to go to his house? If you showed up without much warning, I wouldn't blame him too much. If you made plans to meet around that time, that's different. He should have paused the game rather than making you sit there. I would have said very clearly, "I have to leave at such-and-such time." Saying "I have to leave in 30 minutes" makes it sound flexible or as if you will leave in 30 minutes if he doesn't stop playing.

He should apologize but don't wait for him to. Boys are stubborn like we are. I'd go ahead and talk to him but make it clear that you aren't happy with what he did. Tell him that you wanted to spend some time with him and you felt like you weren't getting the attention you deserved. Besides, who's his girlfriend? You or the video game? Remind him of that.

i completely agree with you. he asked me to come over and he knew when id arrive because i told him id be there at [time]. normally i would just let him be and finish his stupid games. he does this so often that i just let my anger get the best of me that day considering that he knew id be there at that time

[linguazn]

first of all, i agree with imhitomi... guys love their games :)

it doesnt mean he doesnt care about you.
i mean, if he truly didn't care, he wouldn't stop playing and would ignore you.
if he didn't care, he wouldn't ask you what's wrong.

you should talk things over with him, and ask him to try to listen to you when you're talking to him
if he can't do that... you should reconsider
but i bet he will try to change if you ask him to.
it might happen a few more times. don't worry, it will probably get better.
keep your cool, and everything will turn out okay!