this problems bothers me suddenly after a recent phone with one of my friends
situations was like this..
i'm studying abroad..leaving my friends behind but still contact them regularly
group of friends consisting 3 guy and 1 girls that usually sticks together and like to play in my home
so when i'm back for holiday, they sometimes play in my home
guy consist of me, tony, mike .. girl name vivi
from my point of view (i know all the details because they'll always come to me to tell their romance story)
back on our high school years vivi used to like tony..she took her chance to confess but
tony rejected her feelings with the reason of "we're not mature enough, i'll be study hard
on uni and maybe later i could take care of you etc"
all of our friends seemed disappointed cause they looked like
the best couple that we could pull out from our circle of friends
time goes by and in the end of our 3nd year (2007) of uni.. tony liked vivi back!!
between that time, tony had a gf but broke around 3/4 of 2007.. and vivi too had a bf that later broke around the beginning of 2008..
sometimes after broke up tony said to me that he still has feelings to vivi
and the high school rejection was his biggest mistake..being a good friend to both of them, i encourage both of them (after they were single again) to stick up again and made schemes etc trying to pair them up again but it wouldn't work cause their shy and not direct talking personality..
i didn't know around march 2008 that mike like vivi too..and now it became so complicated..
so when i went back around july.. i became their (3 of them) sort of love doctor
-- vivi said that she didn't have feeling to both of the boys..
-- mike and tony chased vivi with lots of effort but seemed to be ignored by vivi cause of reason above
-- i involved too much..hahaha encouraging tony and mike (i couldn't escape) to pair up with vivi but never said suggest them to give up..
even though all of the info flowing to me, only me and vivi knows all cause i told vivi their status and conditions but the boys could only guess their opponent move cause i wanted them to race fairly.. in my eyes, i wanted tony to be paired up with her because he seems better than mike and there were a love history on them back in high school
tony confess too much time and of course rejected, mike confess on october and rejected too..
now the problem was on vivi, because she wanted to save friendship and not hurting the boys, and because of her nature, she rejected it with not so strong rejection words and made the matter worse, the boys became delusional that they still had a chance to get vivi etc and tell their problems to me.. i'm rather mad to vivi because of that and suggest her to find a new boy so she could escape..and thank god she did recently last week
disturbance
this is rather shocking.. around 2 days ago..i called my other friends S (female) just to chat cause i'm hardly keep in touch with her.. S knew them all but not close but S has another female friend, Z which is close to vivi only
sometimes on february, Z had a chatter with S and Z spill the secret of vivi..and S reported all to me
when Z met vivi, around september 2008, Z told vivi that she had a relationship problem
Z : "i'm in distress now..the boy i liked never look up to me, even though i was at his side"..."eh vivi did you ever had a similar problem?"
V : long pause...."yeah i had the same problems"....(long pause)..."with (my name)"
i just laugh after S told me because i knew that would happen..vivi and me are close enough to be considered as "best friend" cause we know each other secrets and she became different if she talked on phone with me..(she usually calm and soft spoken but with me she turned totally different like shouting, too much giggling, etc) hahaha even her mom knew that it was me if i'm in phone with her by her actions..
ok.. i admit i had a feeling to her before but just a faint one..right after my feeling to one of vivi close friends crushed into dust...on that time, i felt that i just like vivi because it was an immediate recovery which i thought was bad so i stopped it..
S told me that the one that i didn't know was vivi used to like me since maybe around grade 10 and i don't know how it last cause there are lots of bizzare events (grade 12, vivi confessed to tony..2nd year she had a bf in her uni, early 4th year i had a big fight with her but i reconcile first for the sake of friendship, both my friends like her and i support all of them on the mid of 4th year)..
S told me that i wasted a lot of effort to search for other girls when one was right in front of my eye..
i told S that she maybe too good for me but i didn't have any feelings to her
and i thought if i paired up with vivi before last week, i'll stab both of my guy friends from behind and i'll be the one who'll be in a lot of trouble....
maybe it was my bad to be involve on their problems..and i ever jokingly asked vivi when i become her love doctor on a phone..
"what about if we suddenly become the one who paired up?"...hahaha she immediately said no and i just add not even a chance or maybe the chance will be -10000%
right now she already had a bf and we still chat often..as friends..vivi didn't know that i knew the secret of her convo with Z and still chat with me last night about celebrating her newly bf birthday..
should i avoid contact with her now?? because i afraid i could be the reason of disturbance on their newly relationship by looking from the history.. thank you for the replies
