[lemon-spice<3]

I've known this guy for about a month and I really like him. He's showed many signs of interest, since he's 'asked' if I wanted a flower, gives lots of eye contact, really nice, asked about my ex-boyfriends and stuff, just basically many signs that he's interested.

When I asked if he like anyone, he said yes. So, the next day, I asked what grade the girl was in, he said she went to another school and was the same age as him.

He's getting me so confused....why does he show so many signs of interest.......but claims he 'likes' another girl. I don't think he's the flirty type, since he's pretty shy and quiet....more of a 'nerd' boy...but a hot one. =] He's asked about me a lot....even his friend says that he acts or seems different around me than he usually is around his other friends.

I want to tell him I like him....but I'm not sure if he likes me back because of what he said. Should I? What does he mean by acting like this?

[muffinling]

Simply put, he might have been lying because he thought you caught him out.

As you have mentioned he's the shy type of guy, so he might not have the courage to come straight out to tell you that he likes you. But you said yourself that he's showing a lot of interest in you and I think you should know best if he likes you or not.

If you don't dare to tell him that you like him yet, why not do it like him and show it? Ask personal questions, hang out together etc, this way you'll also find out if you really like him or not .. in a sneaky way

[SUPER.NANA]

You can tell him if you are not scared of rejection.

He could be lying that the girl is from a different school.
He could also just want to be your friend that knows things about you.

Either or.

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

When I asked if he like anyone, he said yes. So, the next day, I asked what grade the girl was in, he said she went to another school and was the same age as him.

let me ask you something.
If he asked you who you like, will you tell him that it's him?
Probably not. Probably yes.
Most people will not tell who they like when asked by the crush.
I thought that's pretty self explanatory lol..........

so that person could still be you.

[rectitude*]

If he's shy & quiet, that may be the reason he wouldn't admit that he likes you. so if you're not afraid to confess your feelings, tell him you like him and if he doesn't like you, accept it. XD

[lemon-spice<3]

Simply put, he might have been lying because he thought you caught him out.

As you have mentioned he's the shy type of guy, so he might not have the courage to come straight out to tell you that he likes you. But you said yourself that he's showing a lot of interest in you and I think you should know best if he likes you or not.

If you don't dare to tell him that you like him yet, why not do it like him and show it? Ask personal questions, hang out together etc, this way you'll also find out if you really like him or not .. in a sneaky way

I do. Like....We've been talking to each other everyday between classes and at the bus ramp. Um.....I did think that he probably was lying....but....would he really lie about something like that? (ok...yeah...I'm pretty 'dumb' when it comes to love stuff...and...I normally don't catch on or anything since I think about things wayyy too much and it makes me question too much too)

He is showing at lot of interest....but....he could be just friendly....in a ...almost too friendly wayy...since there are some guys out there who are like that.

let me ask you something.
If he asked you who you like, will you tell him that it's him?
Probably not. Probably yes.
Most people will not tell who they like when asked by the crush.
I thought that's pretty self explanatory lol..........

so that person could still be you.

yes...I do know all about that 'confession' stuff like that. I'm not going to deny that I'm NOT naive...cause...I think I am. I believe people easily....a little too easily...so that's why I tend to question things or over think things a lot.

about that 'if he asks me who I like thing', most likely, I would give him hints that it's him.

[plegend2007]

You might be taking his signals way out of context, but at the same time, he can like multiple girls at once and he is just leaving his options open.

The reason imo why he told you about her, is to let you know that he isn't counting only on you for dates or a relationship. In other words, he might be asking you for a definite sign to let him know that you like him back. Since you said that he was shy, he might be wanting to make sure that you are definitely interested in him before he makes a move. Just in case you don't like him, he is leaving himself a back way out, so he doesn't feel awkward. A bit cowardly imo, but most guys like to play it safe.

So either you give him a definite signal or play this game back and forth until one of you finally gives in. If he really doesn't like you at all, isn't it better to find out now so you can move on.

[muffinling]

If you really dont want to confess, just get closer to him and give him signs too. If he realises that you like him too he might open up more and get the courage to tell you.

I agree there are friendly guys out there, but theres a limit for them too lol xD
Like he asked about your exes.. normally guys dont do that very often unless a girl brings that topic up .. and when they ask its mostly to find out if you have a boyfriend, or what kind of boys you liked to see if they fit that image.

Best of luck to you though!

[lemon-spice<3]

You might be taking his signals way out of context, but at the same time, he can like multiple girls at once and he is just leaving his options open.

The reason imo why he told you about her, is to let you know that he isn't counting only on you for dates or a relationship. In other words, he might be asking you for a definite sign to let him know that you like him back. Since you said that he was shy, he might be wanting to make sure that you are definitely interested in him before he makes a move. Just in case you don't like him, he is leaving himself a back way out, so he doesn't feel awkward. A bit cowardly imo, but most guys like to play it safe.

So either you give him a definite signal or play this game back and forth until one of you finally gives in. If he really doesn't like you at all, isn't it better to find out now so you can move on.

I could.....lol...but....does a guy ....well...normally does a guy just randomly call your name and asks if you want a flower? or.....when your looking straight ahead and you feel his eyes just staring at you? .....True about wanting to have a definate answer....but his friend had told me some time ago that he had said that he had a slight feeling that I liked him......

If you really dont want to confess, just get closer to him and give him signs too. If he realises that you like him too he might open up more and get the courage to tell you.

I agree there are friendly guys out there, but theres a limit for them too lol xD
Like he asked about your exes.. normally guys dont do that very often unless a girl brings that topic up .. and when they ask its mostly to find out if you have a boyfriend, or what kind of boys you liked to see if they fit that image.

Best of luck to you though!

That's probably true about the whole asking about exes things...since he just randomly said 'so...you've had three ex boyfriends?' and some other questions along the lines of 'why did you break up?' ........

It could just be me...but....the way he commented on one of my exes 'he seems to be with different girls a lot' made me think he wasn't really fond of him.......

thanks though. ^^ I'm planning to just tell him.....but....I'm posting here since I'm not sure of how I should tell him or if I should tell him at all....
he's a great friend.....and I don't want to lose that friendship if I tell him about my feelings and he doesn't feel the same way.

[lemon-spice<3]

If he's shy & quiet, that may be the reason he wouldn't admit that he likes you. so if you're not afraid to confess your feelings, tell him you like him and if he doesn't like you, accept it. XD

of course, I'd accept it if he doesn't like me back. ^^ Though....I also have to prepare myself for some awkwardness that comes along after that....but, right now...I just need to know if he might have some interest.....or something like that. ^^

[maverickrocker18]

That's so funny. I was in the same situation but instead he told me straight up that he was infatuated with me and still not over his ex. Unfortunately, things didn't turn out so well shortly after that and now we're just back to the whole "friends" thing. I'm sure he feels happy to go out to his frat events and try to find other girls now...

[x SaRaNg HaE x]

How do you know he's not lying? He might be doing that just because he's too shy or afraid to tell you himself.
My last ex-boyfriend showed me all the signs that he liked me yet when I asked him if he had anyone in mind, he named some random girl from another school. And then I end up finding out that it was me. -___-)a

So you never know! Don't lose hope!