[sb08]

Hi Ladies,

I already posted this on another thread, but thought I'd make my own topic. Here's the scenario

There's a girl I see all the time at the gym I go to Monday-Thursday. I've never really talked to her, but I think she's interested in me because every time I see her she stares at me, and alot of the times she will come next to me and work out, but I've never actually talked to her, this has been going on for a few months. Also when I walk by her she stops what shes doing and faces her body towards me but looks elsewhere, and if you still don't believe me, one time I walked by her and she literally followed me to the next machine and stared at me, which was kind of awkward.

Anyway, recently I started noticing her more and more and thought she was kind of cute so I started staring back at her, she always smiles back at me. So we trade stares here and there but still haven't talked. Then about 2 weeks ago, I didn't go for a whole week because I was on vacation. The next week I come back, I see her and she see's me, but once she see's me she quickly walks away upstairs or somewhere else where I can't see her. At first I didn't think much of it, but this whole week, when we see each other, she quickly walks away. I'm getting the drift that she's avoiding me, but what's the deal with that? Is she not interested in me no more?? I'm very confused, any opinions would be great girls. Thanks.

[Aloe]

You should have talked to her, make conversation somehow...she gave you the signals and you did not do anything about it.
Maybe she got tired and is trying to move on and doesnt want to do it all over again. Now if you want to you could
start talking to her..it won;t kill you, she'd probably like it... you never know.

[sb08]

I could, but it's kind of hard since once she see's me she literally walks away, it makes me feel kind of deflated, maybe I lost the opportunity. How do you think I should approach her since I wouldn't even know what to say to her?

[the_enigma]

gosh why was it so hard to just talk to her the first time. a simple "hi i'm (insert name)" would suffice. seriously, its not that hard to just talk to someone.

[jAe_eMeE]

hopefully you'll get a chance to stop her and say hey.. i always see you here.. wats your name? or something like that.
maybe she's avoiding you cause you havent gone in awhile so she might think you stopped going for awhile because of her or something.. be a man and talk to her! lol she avoids you... stop her... i dunno... hope things work out!

[whatdrosophila]

man guys need to grow some balls.
Do not expect a girl to do everything for you...
just be like hey...if you she doesnt run away and be like it is so crowded today, i tried that and this so busy.
something stupid might come of as nice but be wise.

[onewhite lie]

Maybe she's nervous? Or she thought something happened to you since you were gone for a week. It's possible she thinks you were avoiding her, or that you found out about her "stalking" you.

[Aloe]

Start a small simple conversation, depending on the situation and then it'll hit off well
if she doesnt feel comfortable just be nice and walk away and it'll be nice to know
that you tried and stop the what if's.....

[sb08]

Thanks for all the replies, after reading all the comments I think it's time for me to be a man and talk to her. Thanks for giving me the confidence you guys. I'll post an update if anything happens. I appreciate all the comments.

[mintcracker]

^ stop wondering and approach her. She might be avoiding you, she might be thinking you were avoiding her thus is doing this to spare herself embarassment.

My friend had this guy STARE at her ALL the time when she used to work at this place. (the guy works opp her stall) and they would have these staring contests LOL) even though they stared and stared and stared (to the point other workers on both sides knew and would talk about it HAHA...nothing went further than that. Eventually my frd avoided his gaze (but could still feel him staring) cos she thought 'hey it's been ages, if he was interested, he would come talk to me'...he never did. (though she ultimately handed her number on a piece of paper to him after like 8 months but that' s another story)

anyway, I think the girl is thinking how my frd thought. I would think like this too. Either the guy doesn't like me enough, is bored, or lacks balls hahaha, then I'D feel foolish and kinda desperate staring all the time haha.

So yah, stop wondering, go up to her. End of the day what have you got to lose?

Rejected, ok whatever.
Doing nothing=constantly wondering=getting nowhere.

[sb08]

Haha, love your story Mintcracker, thanks for sharing. I'm definitely going to talk to her if I see her tomorrow. I finally realize I have nothing to lose by talking to her. Wish me luck!

[Aloe]

Goood luck with it!
I've posted here a lot! lol
I mean it just sucks that some guys don't have the courage to talk
to girls sometimes. Do your thing and be suave. LoL

[shinhwaforever]

i need opiniions too.!!!!!
In love woth a guy..
he already has a gf..
im a guy..
die situation rite?
no hopes at all?

[junsujunsu]

i need opiniions too.!!!!!
In love woth a guy..
he already has a gf..
im a guy..
die situation rite?
no hopes at all?

If you're a cute guy then heck yea there's a chance, i think boys who are pretty are better looking than girls who are pretty but if you're going to be the third party then.....that's not nice

[g0bananas]

she was probably interested in you, but since you didn't come for a while, it's awkward now. that's how i would see it. this sort of thing happened to me a while ago XDD you kind of missed your chance to talk to her without awkwardness a while ago. you should have just introduced yourself maybe a week or two after smiling and making eye contact with her.

[Heart<3]

Just approach her or do what she did to you - follow her XD
She could be playing hard to get?

[KeHAEa]

I agree with mintcracker.

Approach her so she knows you're interested in her and not just playing with her mind.

[sb08]

Thanks for the comments, I was going to approach her today, but she didn't show up =(...

[Mystaerie]

Thanks for the comments, I was going to approach her today, but she didn't show up =(...

that really sucks...
well, i wish you all the best [like everyone else]
i'm a really shy person, so it would take me forever to be able to talk to someone for the first time.
anyway, i'm sure she was interested in you even if for a while, so you just have to talk to her. then maybe something will come of it. =)

[xxdis0riental]

I'm guessing you were too late in making a move. Sorry, buddy. That, or she probably thinks you simply don't like her so now she's embarrassed/ashamed for doing all of those subtle moves and avoiding you. I mean, it's the only thing in my head that makes sense. She probably also thinks since you were gone for a week that you were trying to avoid her as well. Just find her again and tell her the whole situation. If she's nice enough (which I think she is, considering she smiled at you numerous times), she'll understand and you can ask her out on a date. It doesn't hurt to take a shot, right? Better than asking us. It's the only way you'll really find out.

I wish you the best of luck, OP. If it doesn't work, take this as a lesson to not wait so long.