I used to think that love conquered all. But there is so much more that can complicate a relationship that could bring it to its knees. Now, I don't think love is all one needs. I've been through hardships with my significant others that my love just could not endure...but I often wonder, was I wrong? Should love go above?
What hardships have your relationships and your love survived?
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Does Love Conquer All? What hardships have your relationship survived through?
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Posted 23 April 2009 - 07:29 PM
Love is not the only factor a relationship needs to function. There's also trust, respect, and a mutual understanding of one another. This "love" we speak of can only go so far.
Trust is a HUGE factor/issue for me. (And i would imagine it to be for 98% of the people out there). Once i found my ex cheating on me.. I couldn't get over it. After awhile I forgave him, I still loved him very much regardless, but there was no way I could ever trust him again. As time went on, it kept running through my head and my love for him just didn't cut it. I realized that our relationship just could not suffice with each other loving each other and having all my trust for him dissipate.
To me, love is so contingent. That's why it does not persevere through the thickest thick for me. But I would like to think that one day, I'll be able to find that once-in-a-lifetime-love that no-matter-what will sustain through any weather. :]
Trust is a HUGE factor/issue for me. (And i would imagine it to be for 98% of the people out there). Once i found my ex cheating on me.. I couldn't get over it. After awhile I forgave him, I still loved him very much regardless, but there was no way I could ever trust him again. As time went on, it kept running through my head and my love for him just didn't cut it. I realized that our relationship just could not suffice with each other loving each other and having all my trust for him dissipate.
To me, love is so contingent. That's why it does not persevere through the thickest thick for me. But I would like to think that one day, I'll be able to find that once-in-a-lifetime-love that no-matter-what will sustain through any weather. :]
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Posted 23 April 2009 - 08:50 PM
Ppl that think love conquers all are naive. Many factors contribute to ultimate success.
Sure there might be love, but sometimes cultural, religious, economic and age differences do matter =(
Sure there might be love, but sometimes cultural, religious, economic and age differences do matter =(
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Posted 23 April 2009 - 09:15 PM
i think that the more hardships you're relationship goes through the more you will cherish it
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Posted 23 April 2009 - 09:31 PM
Love certainly doesn't not conquer all. Those who believe it- well congrats to you cause real love only goes so far. there's much more to a relationship than love; if the ideals of both parties are not compatible no matter how much you love one another, the relationship will not survive.
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Posted 23 April 2009 - 09:34 PM
love conquers humans.
and humans love themselves more than anything.
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there will always be a time when you'll think about only yourself, your happiness, what's good for you, etc..
and that's not a bad thing. it's reasonable . otherwise, sometimes, it'd make the other person selfish to make you sacrifice something to love them more.
relationships seem to be a bit of work[compromise], and a bit more than a little luck.
some people can let things slide, others can't. humans do hold morals pretty high. but i guess it's a little pride, judgment and vulnerability.
o0' with that ramble said.
love of yourself conquers most relationships.
we'll want out when it doesn't feel good/right for us anymore.
not many of us are naive to put love of another above our pride, well-being, ambitions, etc.
if we learn from our mistakes, of course.
and humans love themselves more than anything.
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there will always be a time when you'll think about only yourself, your happiness, what's good for you, etc..
and that's not a bad thing. it's reasonable . otherwise, sometimes, it'd make the other person selfish to make you sacrifice something to love them more.
relationships seem to be a bit of work[compromise], and a bit more than a little luck.
some people can let things slide, others can't. humans do hold morals pretty high. but i guess it's a little pride, judgment and vulnerability.
o0' with that ramble said.
love of yourself conquers most relationships.
we'll want out when it doesn't feel good/right for us anymore.
not many of us are naive to put love of another above our pride, well-being, ambitions, etc.
if we learn from our mistakes, of course.
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Posted 23 April 2009 - 09:46 PM
I wish that was true, but unfortunately, it doesn't work that way.
Maybe, when you are younger, you may think that way, but as you get older, reality sets in and you realize that it is way more complicated. It shouldn't be that way, but it usually is.
With all that said, I still hope that in the end, love will conquer all.
Maybe, when you are younger, you may think that way, but as you get older, reality sets in and you realize that it is way more complicated. It shouldn't be that way, but it usually is.
With all that said, I still hope that in the end, love will conquer all.
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Posted 24 April 2009 - 10:47 PM
i hate saying this, but whenever people argue with me that love conquers all, i literally begin to wait for reality to bite them in the ass. there's so much more to life and relationships than the fairy tales of 'happily ever after' fed to us by disney when we were children.
i don't believe that love is all that one needs. if there's any one thing that we all need, it's money. you won't have food, clothes, and a home without it unless you live in a homeless shelter and off of others' charity.
i don't believe that love is all that one needs. if there's any one thing that we all need, it's money. you won't have food, clothes, and a home without it unless you live in a homeless shelter and off of others' charity.
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Posted 24 April 2009 - 10:58 PM
true love will conqueror all
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Posted 25 April 2009 - 12:04 PM
heh...i used to be like you who thought love conquered all...but u know...that's all a lie...things happen...life happens...
In truth love is the weakest bond, or in other words, it's the bond that can break the easiest.
Thinking that love conquers all can hurt you a lot.....
In truth love is the weakest bond, or in other words, it's the bond that can break the easiest.
Thinking that love conquers all can hurt you a lot.....
....BeLievE....
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Posted 30 April 2009 - 04:51 PM
People with big hearts believe that love will conquer all. I am one of those people. But with caution, I dread for "reality" to sink in. I hope my love is enough. 
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Posted 30 April 2009 - 10:27 PM
I don't have any stories to share, but there is one really adorable story between one of my house mates and her boyfriend.
I'm not sure which part of China she is from, but her school did not allow dating. She met her boyfriend when they were both playing the leading roles of Little Mermaid for a play. They started falling for each other and they eventually started dating. Word got around and not only did their parents get involved, but the school, too. Their parents and the teachers will try everything they could to break up the two of them. My house mate didn't go into detail about what others did to them, but until this day, they are still together (and they just finished their third year of University).
It sounds like a drama, but it's true. Even his ex-girlfriend couldn't do anything about it. All I know is that it is a small world. His ex-girlfriend studies at the same University - so from China all the way to Canada, she is still around. She stalks my house mate's web pages and still updates about her ex-boyfriend (my house mate's boyfriend). Kind of creepy, but I'm glad that he changed for the better. I have only met him like once, but I remember my house mate telling me how he used to be in gangs (all thanks to his ex-girlfriend). But once he met my house mate, he changed and has the ambition to do well to study here permanently (and not temporary).
Even though I am so negative about relationships and love, a true story like this about my house mate makes me feel that love is something that cannot be obtained easily. Even no matter how hard you try, if both people are not willing to sacrifice things and put their minds to it (truly put their mind to it), it won't work out.
I'm not sure which part of China she is from, but her school did not allow dating. She met her boyfriend when they were both playing the leading roles of Little Mermaid for a play. They started falling for each other and they eventually started dating. Word got around and not only did their parents get involved, but the school, too. Their parents and the teachers will try everything they could to break up the two of them. My house mate didn't go into detail about what others did to them, but until this day, they are still together (and they just finished their third year of University).
It sounds like a drama, but it's true. Even his ex-girlfriend couldn't do anything about it. All I know is that it is a small world. His ex-girlfriend studies at the same University - so from China all the way to Canada, she is still around. She stalks my house mate's web pages and still updates about her ex-boyfriend (my house mate's boyfriend). Kind of creepy, but I'm glad that he changed for the better. I have only met him like once, but I remember my house mate telling me how he used to be in gangs (all thanks to his ex-girlfriend). But once he met my house mate, he changed and has the ambition to do well to study here permanently (and not temporary).
Even though I am so negative about relationships and love, a true story like this about my house mate makes me feel that love is something that cannot be obtained easily. Even no matter how hard you try, if both people are not willing to sacrifice things and put their minds to it (truly put their mind to it), it won't work out.
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