[littleaznmunkie]

So just last week I lost my virginity. And I'm 15.
Yes I know that that's a bad decision to make, but it happened.

Kinda shocking, I know, but I lost it to someone I truly care for except . . . we got caught.
I know, even more shocking.

We were done and we're showering to clean up and then someone knocked on the door and yeah, pretty much got beat up.
We basically got a lecture from both our families about why it's bad to do these things at this age and blah blah.

He saw me get beat up by my mom.
I saw him get beat up by his.

His mom blamed everything on him and I personally think that she is really unsure about what decision we made. And my mom even blames him too.
I wish I could tell them that it was both our idea to lose it but none of us will believe us.
I told my brother about it and he said that it can't be both of us choosing to do it.

But yeah, it's been a week and I'm still thinking about it.
I wonder if he too, is thinking about the situation.

There's no way I can contact him anymore cuz we both have no phone and no instant messaging allowed.
And that means myspace/facebook/etc.

But I was just wondering if I should somehow talk to him?
Or ask him how he feels?

Or should I just let it go . . .

Give me your opinions please.
Thanks!

[MaryMagdalin]

well as you both are underage...
there isnt much you can do.
just see what happens and ride it out.

[littleaznmunkie]

well as you both are underage...
there isnt much you can do.
just see what happens and ride it out.

Define ride it out.
As in just forget about the whole situation and if he comes back to me later on in life, talk it out then?

[MNLV27]

Well, do you guys still want to be together, even through all this?
Since there's nothing you guys can do, since both your parents are being like that, just wait for a while and when your able to talk again, talk it out and see what happens then.

[truexskills]

personally, i don't see it as a big deal
i understand your families are conservative about sexuality, but you chose to have sex with your boyfriend because you like him didn't you? so id' see it as a definite yes to keep seeing him, but talk to him to see what his thoughts are..he might be having similar thoughts as you
and i go to a boarding school, so kids are essentially free to do whatever they want in terms of relationships without parents bothering them and hence its common that kids lose their virginity as a freshman/soph (whichever you are)..no biggie so don't worry about it

[Lovin' you]

15? Mind me asking; did you guys use protection?!!?! o_o!
(You don't want to have a baby at a young age; you get no freedom after! *About 5 of my friends had babies at the ages of 14-16)

Just wait a while and let everything calm down. Your parent and his parents are just probably very upset, probably because they know you guys are very young -- thinking they had thought you better and to wait? lol ><

But I was just wondering if I should somehow talk to him?
Or ask him how he feels?

When you're able to see/talk to him, just talk to him normally like usual?Or ask how badly he got lectured when he was at home with his parents. -- Later ask him what's his thoughts-feelings are for you since you are curious.

[hishari]

You two are underage so you should have been more careful, but I agree with MaryMagdalin. All you can do is wait for all this to pass. There's nothing you can really do.

I've had a few close calls with parents myself ...wait a few weeks and then contact him. Give your parents and his some time to cool down.

[chimerical.]

wait a couple weeks, or until your parents cool down, and then talk to him about it.
see what he says and what his parents have told him.

[littleaznmunkie]

Lol, most of you guys are saying that I should just wait and talk to him but the thing is there is no way I can contact him.

And I have noooo idea if he wants to talk with me.
(btw, we aren't bf and gf, we just happen to be friends and yes I know that's even a worse case, but yeah we had this situation set up for a while)


@Lovin' you: Yes we did use protection -__-'

[honey.2kiss@hotmail.com]

if you guys are "just friends" this situation isn't even a big deal. it'll pass.

[Kanhlaya]

You asked us if there was some way you can talk to him, but then you said there is no way you can contact him. Stop contradicting yourself.

[cherii2007]

Well if there's no way to contact him, then there's no way to contact him. =|

Do you guys go to the same school?
Anyway, your parents kind of have the right to be concerned/angry, because you're underage. What with all the underage mothers/fathers around these days, I'm sure your parents don't want you to have that happen to you.

Umm...how did you two come about this, if you don't mind me asking? Was it a spur of the moment kind of thing, or do you two really like each other? I would call you irresponsible, but you used protection at least. If the guy is good, then he'll be willing to keep in contact with you (after all the heat cools over). If not, then he never really cared at all.

Best case scenario: He really does like you and you become bf/gf. Lucky you.
It doesn't seem to happen too often.

OOT: Oh, and last year (Year 10--guessing you're year 10?) there were like 2 people who got pregnant...and this year we have 4 people getting engaged to some dudes. I never even imagined that those things actually happened in real life. xD

[metallicbunny]

id just wait it out and not make a big hard deal on talking to him,,, wait for like 3 days to 1 week and then talk to him in school/ or tell someone

who knows him to pass on a message sayin u wana have a chat

understand that ur parents are just doing their job and try to put urself in their position.

and overall,, just dont think about it. its part of growing up and being a teen, ^.^

[CatGoesMeow]

Peter Griffin says you are what they call a "practice girl"

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xuJ8uYGQk2g

[squishybear]

Peter Griffin says you are what they call a "practice girl"

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xuJ8uYGQk2g

Haha, I love family guy

[xhoshiii]

I think you should get a friend to talk to him .
If he's going to break up with you for this, it's gonna hurt alot cuz this is your first time .
I lost mine when I was 15 too, and it hurt so bad when it was over .
Just have your friend ask him how he feels (texting, calls, IM facebook whatever)
As long as you know what's up with the situation .
It's really hard not knowing, kinda kills you inside .

I hope I helped !

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

You asked us if there was some way you can talk to him, but then you said there is no way you can contact him. Stop contradicting yourself.

I agree with this person.........
Don't know what you want.

But it's also funny how you say 18+ and you're only 15.

If he's going to break up with you for this

fyi they're just friends

[colloquy]

Just go with the flow with this one. I wouldn't actively seek him out. You two are both underage, and therefore are under your parent's wing, basically. Just wait for things to die down.

Also, don't listen to the people that will tell you that what you did was a mistake, and/or that you were too young for this. These are the same people that would probably say that age is no factor in love, so how is sex any different? In any case, it's probably a good thing that you weren't head-over-heels in love with him, because this would be a hundred times worse.

[mintcracker]

You're frds....



um LOL ok, don't worry then.

Frds with benefits =X
one night stand??

[rectitude*]

you two are only friends? well, I think I'll get angry, too, if I caught my underage daughter/son but not to the point I beat them. Well, I really don't know what to say except just wait & see what happens. XD