[bonjour tristesse.]

some might find it funny that im actually asking this but believe it or not, there some people that will rather put their s/o before their friends? what do you think? would you put your relationship before your friends?

for me, i guess it would be something id want him to do. yeah id be bother if my s/o ditched me or something like that for them but i mean if it was me, id probably do the same thing.

[ddqqww]

I think that sometimes, s/o before friends.
In reality, friends are better; but you want the s/o though
Friends - longer relations
S/o - shorter relations

Which one would you break?
Of course, You don't wanna break the longer relations ^^
anyways, your s/o would understand I believe..

[forgottenmemories]

I try to balance both out. I mean, its hard when you're with someone.... you always wanna be with them. But sometimes you just have to pull yourself away and be with your friends. Just gotta find the right balance

[heylove]

I haven't been in a relationship serious enough to place s/o over friends yet, though the ones I have been in, he's always placed me over friends which does make me feel a bit guilty. Perhaps there will be a day where I will have to put the s/o over my friends, but as of now, I'm still enjoying my youth.

[angels.disguise]

^ditto.
it always have been friends before s/o.
maybe when i find a relationship thats important enough
i'll have to rethink.

not that im going to drop my friends.

[supa'Wanki]

I would put my S/O before my friends and my friends before my S/O depending on the occasion and event. It's not something I would think about. I'm sure my girl would understand and I would understand her. But if we made plans and one of us decides to change plans, then that's not good, considering we both have a schedule to keep.

Friend's aren't going to be there for you like butt buddies all your life.

[ssulja]

I haven't been in a relationship serious enough to place s/o over friends yet, though the ones I have been in, he's always placed me over friends which does make me feel a bit guilty. Perhaps there will be a day where I will have to put the s/o over my friends, but as of now, I'm still enjoying my youth.

I just want to say WOOO ANN ARBOR!!! Michigan '10 here!

And s/o over friends, but it's only cause my friends will do the same thing.

[Hazy]

Mm, I would try to balance both out as well but if I really had to pick I'd pick the s/o over friends.

Only because I know he would do the same <3

[badstar]

FRIENDS...
I wouldn't be like this if not because of my friends, they are my main influence.
My friends accept me for who I am and I've known them longer.

I'm really close to my friends, fortunately, this hasn't happened to me yet.
But some of my friends have bfs who let them choose over him or us, unfortunately, my friends value friendship more so goodbye to the bf.

[<3 Kim]

It's hard to say. I like to keep it balanced, though lately I've been spending more time with friends than s/o. I don't mind if my friends choose their s/o over friends, but when they do it all the time and constantly talk about them, then it gets annoying :/

[Melegant]

Heh, to answer Your question, dear xHerlyn, I need to know what do You mean with "relationship" and "friendship". I really despise these "common relationship"; kissing on the public, going to the cinema, et cetera just because "this is a definition of a relationship". "Relationship" is bad and calculating, "relationship" drains life energy from subtle people. "Relationship" is feelingless, cruel and very ordinary. "Relationship" is a gun of greyness.

So, this is my view of "common relationship" and in that case You should never give "relationship" on the first place. However, if Your "relationship" is full of Love (yes, with big "L" - Love must be a big thing, unfortunately, generality has sense only for "lovegames"), You must live and love this Love, because Love is beautiful and great. And nothing else can fulfill You (when You are loving).

Friends are important part of "mental evolution", but against Love they are less than nothing.

Of course, this is only my non-humble and non-convenience opinion, but I have always protect my inside Love against ugliness of the world. And from that reason I think: Love > friends > "relationship"

[Swtess]

I would choose my s/o over friends, simply because I consider him more important.
My friends understands and knows how I feel. The ones that don't are being drama queens.

[SweetsLove]

I think it really depends. For me, I have one really close girlfriend and then the rest are friends I hang out with from school so to be honest, unless my girlfriend absolutely needs me - like she's feeling down or what not, I normally put my s/o in front.

[可愛い]

relationship trumps friends, and family trumps relationships.

[Melegant]

relationship trumps friends, and family trumps relationships.

Oh, my non-God Shaitan! Forgive me my bitterness and grievance - but could You tell, what "family" means? Except well-known social and genetic dogma.

[可愛い]

Oh, my non-God Shaitan! Forgive me my bitterness and grievance - but could You tell, what "family" means? Except well-known social and genetic dogma.

immediate family. parents & siblings. i guess all that will change when i have kids of my own.

[Melegant]

relationship trumps friends, and family trumps relationships.

You just repeat law of family tree, but You can not explain how value family has.

True is that nobody can explain it - because family is gimcrack.

[your--HEROine]

I honestly think it should be both, equally.
And it really depends on the situation too.

I mean such as you can't just ditch your friends all of sudden once you are in a relationship.
Or you can't just ditch your boyfriend and keep hanging out with your friends all the time.
So I think you should just try to balance everything out.

HOWEVER, I would have to say your relationship may be a little bit more, just a little bit.
BECAUSE he is the one who will be there with you till you are old and gray.
He's going to be closer to you in so many ways.

But both, relationships and friendships come and go so yeah.
At the moment, whichever seems more important, then that one is first.

[MNLV27]

For me, I like to try and balance it out.
At the moment, with my s/o in the military, when he's here, it's all about him, I'd spend as much time with him as I can before he leaves, but when he's not here, I'd hang out with my friends whenever we want to, they totally understand that I would spend time with my s/o more than them when he's around, partially because they would do the same too.

[screamxlove]

I think both should be balanced - especially if you are in a serious relationship. Otherwise, they come and go, but real friends stick with you.