[grumpybutt]

My friends and I started college on Fall of 2008 and I noticed that we have not been keeping in touch with each other that much. Many of my friends all went out of state, but I still have some that goes to college like an hour away. Whenever they come back on weekends or on break, we never seem to hang out. Its either they have other plans or I'm busy. I understand if they are busy and have other things to do, but its like we dont talk on the phone anymore. Even when we chat online, I feel like we have nothing to say. And whenever I text or call them, they never reply back to me.
I dont know what to do. I know tha we are still friends and all, but I keep on having a feeling that we are distant.
Any suggestions?

Sorry, if I am not making any sense!

[JeSuisMoi]

It sucks to drift, but honestly, it happens. I've been guilty of being the party that is crap at keeping in touch. I highly doubt they're not replying to you, or not having time to hang out with you due to spiteful reasons. They're probably genuinely busy or completely forgot to reply back to your messages. Or worst case scenerio, they've found a new group of friends that they relate to more and don't feel the need/motivation to keep in touch with old friends. Sometimes, people grow up, they change. It sucks, but it happens.

Once you finish highschool, drifting will most likely happen. Not all the time, but in most cases. You just have to kind of deal with it and go on with your life. If you still really care for that (those) friend(s), then definitely keep putting in that effort to try and talk to them, but I know, it sucks to always feel like the one putting in the effort and not getting any response back. At that point, its your call if its still worth being the only one trying to maintain contact.

Best of luck to you <3

[l3oosh]

^--I agree wholly with JeSuisMoi. Once you go to different schools, things just...change, for better or for worse. I used to have three extremely close friends. We did everything together - including competitions - but two of us went to different colleges. Now none of us, even the two who went to the same university, keep in touch anymore :/ We've all changed and found closer friends with whom we can relate to. I found that when one or two of my old best friends contact me, I kind of wonder, "Why are you still talking to me?" and I just can't relate to what she wants to talk to me about anymore :/

To me, it doesn't really suck. We had some great times together and then we moved on. I would, from time to time, miss someone, but then I think about all the friends that I have right now and don't feel as bad xD

[MISS-xaxa]

This is the time when you ultimately decide who is worth your time and who isn't. As for me, I wrote a letter to the friends who I still cared for. I just told them how I felt and that we should make more efforts on maintaining our friendship and etc etc.

[~Tropical.Mists]

Don't worry, it seriously happens to everyone and I don't really have a solution either since it happened to me too =(
I went to a university that was about 1.5 hours away from home and I don't see a lot of my friends often either.
I go home only about once a month or twice a month and it sucks since we never talk on MSN or call each other. This is when you realize how close you are to your friends tho >_>
For all my close friends, I actually make an attempt to keep in touch and they do the same for me...everytime I invite them out, they never say no (unless it's a REALLY good reason) and we always make time for parties and get-togethers.
If you feel like you're the only one trying to keep in touch, maybe just things aren't meant to be? And you should concentrate on getting close to friends in uni.

--xoxo.
TM