[Maos]

That's what i heard from someone. My friend was saying how when guys are younger, like when they're under 22, he'll want to make female friends, regardless of whether they're attractive, etc. But when the guy gets older, as when he's 23 and gets into the "real" world after college/uni, he's not into making female friends anymore. He doesn't really try anymore to make female friends; he thinks female friends and male friends are the same thing. The only time he'll want befriend a female is only when she is at least somewhat pleasing to the eye OR that friend has attractive friends OR who he can get benefits from. By benefits, i mean that perhaps the friend has a good job, such as nursing, doctor, or lawyer, so when the guy has trouble with something, he can run to this high occupation level female friends and get help from them.

what do you guys think?

[i_4got]

That's what i heard from someone. My friend was saying how when guys are younger, like when they're under 22, he'll want to make female friends, regardless of whether they're attractive, etc. But when the guy gets older, as when he's 23 and gets into the "real" world after college/uni, he's not into making female friends anymore. He doesn't really try anymore to make female friends; he thinks female friends and male friends are the same thing. The only time he'll want befriend a female is only when she is at least somewhat pleasing to the eye OR that friend has attractive friends OR who he can get benefits from. By benefits, i mean that perhaps the friend has a good job, such as nursing, doctor, or lawyer, so when the guy has trouble with something, he can run to this high occupation level female friends and get help from them.

what do you guys think?

I think that kind of attitude really depends on the individual.

[Lie]

I would say that my personal experience has been the opposite. When I was younger (like middle school - high school aged), I saw female friends being pretty much the same as male friends, except it seemed like we had less in common. As I've gotten older though, I've begun to value female friends MUCH more. There's such an important, alternative perspective you often get from having female friends, as opposed to male ones. I think it's helpful to have both, though.

For example, I'm sort of generalizing here (because not all women look at things a certain way, behave a certain way, etc., and not all men look at things a certain way, behave a certain way, etc.), the female friends I have tend to be MUCH better at empathizing. They're much better at listening. They're much better at knowing how to make you feel better about any particular situation. The guys I know (including myself at times) are more solution-oriented (i.e. if you tell them your problem, they'll just give you an answer, they tend not to understand that sometimes you don't want an answer, or there isn't an answer, you just want someone to listen). They tend to be less emotionally-inclined. So essentially I feel that different gendered friends can be helpful in different situations. And they just make life more interesting. I like hearing vastly different opinions, stories, etc. which is why I have a lot of different types of friends, not just gender-based but with different backgrounds and interests as well.

[angels.disguise]

nah it really depends on the person.

[MISS-xaxa]

It REALLY depends on the person. Most people I know are more accepting of who they become with, whereas in HS they were very particular.

[naoto]

I don't feel that way, I'm right around that age and I value friendship (female and male) much more. Sometimes I look at how I have female friends who I'm so close with and can talk to about anything, and yet not have any kind of feelings or flirting going on with amazement. In high school that wasn't really possible because we were so immature. People would tease you if you had girl friends.

[heheman]

making friends is about quality, not quantity. guy friends and female friends aren't really different, as long as they are good friends.

i personally like to make female friends just as much as making male friends.

[ShadowMax76]

x_X' whoever is telling you that stuff has no idea.. LOl

_ there's some shy lonely guys in highschool that only see girls as lovers,
other sociable, possibly gay, guys see them as really good friends,
and other healthy guys see 'em as potentially both.

o_O' it's an odd, yet popular, thought: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fuUhwFXM6Gg

_ but eh. i'm just sayin' what the rest are saying. it depends on the guy.
personally, i'm sick of socializing with guys. girls are better.