[CHOCmiint]

nevermind

i already 'solved' my problem, no need to reply anymore... thanks everyone ;D

[Lie]

I would tell him. At worst you tell him and it'll make things really awkward, but aren't they already? You secretly want him, and perhaps he still wants you to. At best you get back together.

That said, I think people usually break up for a reason, and there's a chance that he'll only want to get back together because right now he wants you because he feels like he can't have you. That tends to be the reason most relationships that get back together do so. And they ordinarily don't last long after that.

[AS1AND0LL]

I wouldn't tell him imo because it would seem a bit like you are clingy to him and right now I think he just wants his space to fully think everything over. But yeah if it was meant to be then he'll come back to you, and it seems like you two just recently broke up so give it time, it's normal to still have feelings for him.. another reason why it's not good to stay friends with an ex, it takes longer to get over him.

[Meenuh]

I would tell him. At worst you tell him and it'll make things really awkward, but aren't they already? You secretly want him, and perhaps he still wants you to. At best you get back together.

That said, I think people usually break up for a reason, and there's a chance that he'll only want to get back together because right now he wants you because he feels like he can't have you. That tends to be the reason most relationships that get back together do so. And they ordinarily don't last long after that.

I agree with the first part but I don't fully agree with the 2nd. Everyone is different. Depends on how badly you two want it to work. In any case, what have you got to lose? Well, aside from your pride. Even then, losing your pride when it comes to relationships is a good thing. (usually)

[Lie]

I agree with the first part but I don't fully agree with the 2nd. Everyone is different. Depends on how badly you two want it to work. In any case, what have you got to lose? Well, aside from your pride. Even then, losing your pride when it comes to relationships is a good thing. (usually)

Not to belabor the point, but I should clarify that I didn't say that's the case for everyone (i.e. "tends"). If everyone was entirely different trends wouldn't exist, generalizations wouldn't be fairly applicable (but rude). Most of our motivations tend to be the same, regardless of individual differences.

[Meenuh]

Not to belabor the point, but I should clarify that I didn't say that's the case for everyone (i.e. "tends"). If everyone was entirely different trends wouldn't exist, generalizations wouldn't be fairly applicable (but rude). Most of our motivations tend to be the same, regardless of individual differences.

No need to correct it. I clearly read what you wrote. The way everyone handles and deals with certain situations is different. There are basically only a couple outcomes that are plausible. It's what you do to get there is what i'm pointing out.

[CHOCmiint]

thank you for your responses

i know i should do him go for a while.. give him space. not try to suffocate him/be clingy.. I don't want to drive him insane
"If something's yours and you let it go.. if it comes back to you it was yours all along", if it's meant to be he'll come back

BUT

I don't just want to sit and wait for some sort of sign. And i don't like giving up... If i don't tell him i'll never know.. and i might regret it later
if i do give him space, act like i don't care.. he might think i moved on and he will too

ughh this is so confusing -__-

[Ugly/Beautiful Me]

But that's the thing. You DON'T sit and wait for a sign. Keep moving forward and and whatever he becomes to you (albeit a friend or whatever) then that's what he's going to be. Everyone always says time heals blah blah blahh but its true. Further down the road if you guys aren't together, you might miss him and he might pass your mind every once in awhile, but you won't really feel sad about it.


I say you tell him how you feel and then just leave the rest to fate. After you speak your peace, leave it alone.

[CHOCmiint]

^ wow that's very true..
i haven't looked at it like that yet, what's left to lose..
i'm just going to tell him, see how he feels about it. if he doesn't want it then fine, atleast i got it off my chest..

thanks! why didn't i think of this before

[smilezxd]

i kno how it feels to be all miserable nd stuff after a break up. if u really do want to try again, u should tell him because i dont see how expressing yourself would hurt. like if he knos how u feel, u allow both of u to have more choices? do u get wut u mean? but dont force on it, if he feels the same, he will eventually come back to u. nd if u decide to move on, its better not to TRY to move on, cuz dat'll just make things worse. just live life doing wut u normally do nd dont try to lie to urself dat you're over him nd stuff because it does take some time to move on.

[x SaRaNg HaE x]

It being awkward is better than never knowing what might have happened if you gave it another try.

[justanothergirl]

its called a break up because it's broken. there was something wrong with your relationship (here being that he didn't feel the same way). Some things just don't work out no matter how much you wish would they would. It's normal to want the person back after you break up, but I think it's best for you two just continue going your separate ways and move on instead of trying to get back something that probably won't work out given the circumstances.

[xwinnie_lovex]

ya i agree with most people
you should def tell him how you feel
do it soon so it wont be too late and he falls for another girl

[Ugly/Beautiful Me]

^ wow that's very true..
i haven't looked at it like that yet, what's left to lose..
i'm just going to tell him, see how he feels about it. if he doesn't want it then fine, atleast i got it off my chest..

thanks! why didn't i think of this before

good luck girl =] tell him how you feel. at least he'll know that you still really care for him and that somewhere down the line, if things end up working out then you'll be there. But remember, don't force things to work. The time you guys spend apart is time for you both to change and grow so that later, you guys might be able click. Anticipate it, but don't hope for it. Now is the time to work on the relationship you have with yourself.

[missenour]

i don' think you should tell him, imo you should just move on, there's always better guys out there for you. It's hard, yes, but eventually you'll get over it. Let go of the past, and focus on your present. If he doesn't have feeling for you like before, telling him you still likes him wouldn't make any diff.

WELL, I HOPE YOU'LL FIND THE SOLUTION TO YOUR PROBLEM

[CHOCmiint]

i just told him, i kinda regret it now but ohwell.. what's done is done
he said he's going to think about what i said...
i'm just glad i got that off my chest =)
thankssss everyone!!

[RE.]

DOH. i don't get to chance chime in on this? hahah

hope things don't get awkward