[MiHwink2]

hi, i made this thread because i need immediately help.

err. i'm sixteen this year. there is one guy that i had crush in silent just because of his looks. he is kind and he has many secret admired(not to hoping). we are friends can joking around and we are classmate since three year ago. we never talk personally and know each other personally(always have friends behind).

untill we started IM around a three months ago, he said he like me (i never tell him that i like him). that time i thought he was just joking but its seem not a joke because after that he start contact me everyday. meet at school oftenly and i have meet him personally at school (maybe just three times before he went to other school). i'd hang-out with him twice (with other friends).

until oneday he text to me, he like to be friends with me and i said the same to him. anyhow when he said that, i thought there could be others girl he like but he still contact me everyday. still texting and calling me. even now, we in different school.

that time, i slowly gave up on him because when he keep calling, texting, he never being serious and always said something meaningless but i still replying because he is my friend (erhh.stupid me!). futhermore, he never know if i cry that time. when we meet we always 'speechless' and 'nothing to say' to each other and its make me bored. he always keep me to talk new topic. sometimes it could be awkward. my friends said we are so sweet together but its seem not for me (maybe they said that because of his kindness). reality, he is so bored! plus, he never make me feel comfortable when we outing together.

i confused on him. if he just like me as a friend, why should he keep contact me everyday? its make me confused and its annoying too. currently, its make me feelling that i got control by him but we are not in special relationship or what. reality, we are still friends. its make me felt bad too. now, i really gave up on him. how i want to make he stop contact me everyday, i want my own space too. moreover, he is nothing to do with me, he just a friend. i don't want to hurt him because i make mistake too(maybe the way i act i care him to much for him and make he feel like he is the only one who i care!) he make me hurt inside. but i don't want to hurt him. so, what should i say to him without hurting him?

i hope soompier help me! i need an advice ASAP.


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please help me

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its done, thankss for your help. exspecially xwinnie_lovex. thank you!

[xwinnie_lovex]

okay so i dont really get this

you used to like him
but you dont like him anymore
and hes always wanting to hang out with you but you dont want to?

if thats it
then i think you should just ask him whats up

why did he tell you he liked you
and ask if he really meant it
and if he does then tell him how you feel (if you like him or not)

and if he doesnt like you
then just act casual and be like "oh okays i was just wondering" or something like that

hope your situation gets worked out soon

[Daikirai]

hi, i made this thread because i need immediately help.

i hope soompier help me! i need an advice ASAP.

What an exaggeration.. I thought you actually needed some serious help.

Advice: Turn off your phone. Tada~
Stop meeting up with him. Stop replying.

Or you could tell him to stop.

[cicisaurr___]

probably you still like him cause of his looks.

If you really think he's a friend, treat him as you would treat a friend.
He's just texting you and stuff... doesnt really mean anything o.o
My friends text me all the time.
It doesnt mean they like me.

& if you are gonna cut the tie, just tell him watever you said up there.

[MiHwink2]

okay so i dont really get this

you used to like him
but you dont like him anymore
and hes always wanting to hang out with you but you dont want to?

if thats it
then i think you should just ask him whats up

why did he tell you he liked you
and ask if he really meant it
and if he does then tell him how you feel (if you like him or not)

and if he doesnt like you
then just act casual and be like "oh okays i was just wondering" or something like that

hope your situation gets worked out soon

yes, i like him before but when he started contacting me everyday,
he's really not my type. so, i treat him like a friend (same as like i treat my other friends).
okey then, i'll try your method to settle this up. thanks a lot for helping.

What an exaggeration.. I thought you actually needed some serious help.

Advice: Turn off your phone. Tada~
Stop meeting up with him. Stop replying.

Or you could tell him to stop.

auhh. sorry for that!

err. i did turn off my cellphone before (exspecially, when he trying to call me.)
then when i turn on my cellphone, its like a thousand message came out! x(
erhhh! if i tell him to stop right away, he will think i don't want to be friend with him.
++my friend is his friend too. so, its quite hard to stop contact him.

btw, thanks for trying to help me!

probably you still like him cause of his looks.

If you really think he's a friend, treat him as you would treat a friend.
He's just texting you and stuff... doesnt really mean anything o.o
My friends text me all the time.
It doesnt mean they like me.

& if you are gonna cut the tie, just tell him watever you said up there.

MAYBE. it could be too. okey than, thank you

[mintcracker]

huh? I don't really get your english.

So this guy, whom you liked cos of his looks tells you he likes you. Continues to show interest...You don't respond clearly and don't tell him your feelings so it lead to him wanting to stay frds.
Then he continues to contact you and??

You don't want him to cos you aren't interested in being more than frds?
You don't want him to cos you think he's playing you after saying he wants to just stay frds?


is it the first or the second?