[_eunsole_]

I'm a senior in high school. He is a junior. I asked him to Prom because I liked him and he accepted my invitation. We weren't great friends...we weren't "friends" technically, just another classmate. Before I asked him, we talked and make jokes and stuff, but after I asked him everything became AWKWARD. I tried talking to him and he responded with one word answers and short phrases. He tried advoiding me (but of course this is my perspective). I invited him to eat lunch with a couple of my senior friends and we were alone in the car and I told him how AWKWARD it was between us and that I was sorry I asked him. He said it was okay cause he really wanted to go to after Prom. Then I knew he didn't want to go with me, but he just wanted to go. I felt used. My friends told me that he could tell I liked him so he tried to make me NOT like him or something, but I don't want to go to Prom with anyone AWKWARD. I want to be comfortable.

So... (sorry it's so long)

I told my other guy friend about the problem breifly and asked him to Prom and he accpeted. (This is a month away from prom) Then the day after (today), I told the junior (nicely) that I just happened to talk to an old friend and we decided to go with each other. He got really mad saying that he already bought his tux (Who BUYS them anyways?) and that I should have told him sooner. The thing was that I was trying to not make it AWKWARD until that week I gave up. AND in the beginning I told him to rent a tux instead of buying one but he said that he needed one anyways, AND he should have told me that he already bought it instead of ignoring me. I can see that he's mad that every one already knows we are going with each other but I feel as if it's his fault for making things AWKWARD. I have to face him in school tomorrow and I'm really scared. He was SOOOO mad today that it was SCARY.

AND...

his best "girl" friend is going aroung saying s*** about me and how I could do that to him and stuff....


But truthfully I'm not going to give up my ONLY Prom to please him when I'm not going to have a good time. He always has next year.

LASTLY...

Should I be mad or should he be mad? I want to apologize (which I already did today) but I also want him to forgive me. I also want things to be okay between us so what do I say to him?




Thank you for reading everything here and for responding. =]

[Ch33s3]

That's quite a situation you're in.

But like... who avoids/ignores their prom date? That's just really... weird/inconsiderate. Imagine how awkward it would be at prom if you've been ignoring your prom date for the past month. And a month is still enough to get a date, so maybe if you have a single friend or acquaintance that wants a date, you can hook her up with the junior. It's good that you apologized because I'm pretty sure he feels hurt being ditched. And he probably knows that it's awkward, so you can explain to him that if it's really awkward, neither of you will enjoy prom.

So yeah, what I suggest is: apologize, explain your actions, offer to hook him up with someone else if he really wants to go.

[plegend2007]

You should have told him first before asking your other friend, but it is your prom, and you should take someone that you are going to have fun with.

I feel sorry for that guy, but I feel like you have sincerely apologized to him, so he should be more understanding.

I say don't worry about it, and just enjoy yourself at that prom of yours

[aymei]

I personally think you should've told him that you weren't going to go with him BEFORE you asked your guy friend out.
Plus you asked him to prom right? Even if he was making things awkward. So I think he has more rights to be mad. But not too mad, just a little. lol.

Although it's also his fault for making it awkward, he should at least talk to you etc.

[KAITOU KID.]

Your fault.
Before you asked your other guy friend, you should've told him. No matter what, it leaves him in a pretty crappy situation.

That said, his ignoring etc is pretty dodgy too lol.
Buuut as far as asking your other guy friend goes, I think you should've told the first guy first.

[OMGitzYOU]

It is totally you're fault for not telling him before you blew him off. I understand that you want to take someone that you'll have a great time with but you already asked him first no matter the situation you should have informed him or talk to him about the awkwardness. I don't see why you're complaining that he bought a tux instead of renting it although you told him to rent it since he might go to prom again next year. He probably thought of going just senior year but since you ask ...

If you were in his situation, a guy asked you to prom, you accept it, buy your dress and such and then have him tell you "oh btw I found another date b/c I feel awkward with you now"

You would be furious. Sure can find another date but it's just the fact that that person did that to you..

You disregarded his feelings, disrespect him and that's just wrong.

[I Wonder]

girl......ur screwed....

really disrespectful and selfish...

I hope you have a "nice" prom

[adaytodiefor]

Wow...
I'm a senior and my bf's a junior.
What you did maybe wasn't the best thing but then again it is senior year and it's prom.

[ramenhero]

i really dont see why everyone is so pissed at this girl and flaming her... its really the guys fault...

so tell u what... Fcuk it... its your senior prom and you should enjoy it. its his fault he bought a tux.. who buys one?

also what other people aren't seeing is that he's the one making it awkward not her. so i dont know why all the post before mine couldn't point out that fact. and plus there still a MONTH left before prom... so its not like its a couple days or something.

SO GO AND HAVE FUN... don't let what other people say discourage you.

[izawa]

oh wells after prom u wont see him again!! =D
hopefully...

[Tuxedomask]

Well I'm going to start off by saying you shouldn't be mad, but you did the right thing by doing what's best for you. Albeit a little rough that you asked someone else without telling him.

I can't believe the amount of hate in this thread. It's the girls prom let her enjoy it, she said it herself this guy was becoming awkward and she just felt that he just wanted to go to after prom. If it's awkward BEFORE prom how do you guys think it will be DURING PROM? This is her only prom so she should feel comfortable, so what the guy spent money on his tux that's fine. If he rented one and they took his deposit then yeah he should be pissed but he said it himself he needed one. EVERY GUY NEEDS AT LEAST ONE TUXEDO so now he has one so good for him.

OP just try your best to apologize to him sincerely and if he can't take it then forget about him. Just enjoy your prom because it is your prom. He can stuff his tux in the closet and save it for next year.

[mintcracker]

Hmm...Can't say it's your fault completely. Both are at fault actually.

He shouldn't have ignored you and made it seem he was 'using' you.
You shouldn't have asked sb before getting everything cleared up. Blowing him off and telling him you're going with sb else without discussing it is really inconsiderate (though i understand your sentiments)

[SweetsLove]

Uhmmm lets just say you were both at fault in certain parts of your actions but neither of you should really be mad at each other. I can see why he's upset but at the same time, it is your prom and you only get it once as "your own" so seriously, just enjoy. You can apologize to him and what not about the suit and blowing him off without telling him first but at the same time, if he flares up again, just ignore him. Seriously, it's his problem that he made it all of a sudden so uncomfortable to be around each other.

[KoMi]

It was both your faults. I don't understand why this thing can happen.
You shouldn't have asked someone else without telling him , but since it has already happened, try to make up for it?
Lol, your junior is kinda rude too.
He said he needed a tux, so he shouldn't be scolding you when he already needed it himself.
Plus, his best girl friend should cool it off.
Let things get settled between the two of you, she shouldn't have butted in. She's plain mean >.>

[Swtess]

Most of it is your fault imo.
You're the one that asked him and you're the one that ditched him.
After you talked to him did he change? Or did you even have time to see the change before you went to your guy friend and later asking him to prom?

[hong863]

uhmm i read it and it's pretty long but uhmm yeah ITS NOT YOUR FAULT!!! im a senior and i feel that its your prom and you only have one chance at it so you should go with someone you want! that junior has next year to go so don't worry about it. blow him off. senior doesnt go with juniors that just werid when your a girl (im assuming you are one) and yeahhh

PROMM is next next week for me!!

wheeeee

i hope i can dance...

[gisbiz]

He got really mad saying that he already bought his tux (Who BUYS them anyways?)

yuup, i agree. lol
tux are rentals, unless he's gonna wear it again for next year?

don't feel bad.. cause you're right, he's a junior, he'll still have next year.

[jaeka]

Your fault for him being annoyed at you.
His fault for you ending up asking someone else.

Both of you are in the wrong, he shouldn't of ignored you, you shouldn't of left it so late to tell him. :D

[I Wonder]

Um He bought his tux maybe because he really wanted this to be a memorable night. Thus putting alot of money and effort into it? You can't blame him for buying it.

[and i sayd]

tell him to refund it? you should be mad because he's only trying to use you