[diingdong]

hey i was watching this video off wong fu and an issue that their video talked about was the whole idea about how girls categorizes males. If they are a really nice guy and the girl only see's them as a nice guy, then he will usually be placed in the friends only category whereas the bad boys: one's who are cocky or they are a bit more gangsterish and aren't quiet and gentle, girls tend to fall head over heels for them and sometimes end up getting hurt because those type of guys only want one thing at this age and that is sex and the girl can't give it to them but they get immediately drawn in by their good looks or something.

So guys, are you a nice guy? and do girls usually only classify you as a friend only?

How do you feel?

And girls why do you only classify nice guys as friends only? Are they too shy or too gentle or quiet?

[supa'Wanki]

So guys, are you a nice guy?
Yes. My personality is kind, nice, shy, and quiet. I grew up that way as a child, and I'm proud of it. You have to understand that when it comes to problems that are sprung up, I take responsibility for it. When it comes to stuff I want, I get it, and when it's something that I hate, I get rid of it. As much as people classify me as a nice guy, people classify me as a badass just as much. That's how people naturally are right?


and do girls usually only classify you as a friend only?
No not usually. I only get classified as a friend when I purposely befriend them to be friends with them. Even close friends of mine have never said "I only think of him as a friend" now that I think about it =/


How do you feel?
I don't care. I was interested in psychology, but I find it tiring to critically think about every technicalities of one self. I've learned a lot about myself in the past and it was fun, but I lost interest in it. I just believe that I am who I am.

[xxiaoMEI]

Well actually, I like a "nice guy" right now..
The only problem is hes pretty quiet so our conversation's become a little awkward cause of random silences..

[plegend2007]

Dude...You are just obsessed with wanting know what girls think about nice guys, and all that goes with it

So guys, are you a nice guy? and do girls usually only classify you as a friend only?

I am a nice guy in every sense of the word, but I am not a pushover either, so I don't take crap from anyone.
Girls never classify me as a friend when they meet me at first, but I guess it can all change depending on the situation.

How do you feel?

I don't even think about it one way or the other. If they like me or not, I won't lose any sleep over it by over thinking about it. I might sound conceited, but I always have the belief that they are lucky to have me, and be with me, but at the same time, they should also feel that way about themselves as well.

And girls why do you only classify nice guys as friends only? Are they too shy or too gentle or quiet?

I don't think they ONLY classify nice guys as friends. They will consider any guys as a friend if they don't mesh, and not just b/c they are nice.

[ddqqww]

darn, this topic interested me the most. Yet my dinner's getting cold & this question relates to my problem.
I'm probably some nice guy that probably says yes to everything. I never back down an offer from a friend, typical nice guy.
They need rides? I got them covered. Food? Eh, sometimes they pay for me, sometimes they don't. But I feel guilty, not freeloader. come & go.

My view/rant on nice guys like me

Problem with me & probably most nice guys,
We want to change bad, cause we can't stand it.
Nice guys are jerked around by girls like owners to dogs.
Most nice guys probably aren't in a relationship, probably just seen as a typical friend you know?
But sometimes we truly miss a chance sometimes & you probably never knew it.
Cause you know why? Think about it. IF you did find out a girl did like you, say IF
what would you do? You be too scared right?
IT's cause we lack confidence. Well if you're the other type of nice guy, then forget what I just said.

This friend of mine.. back in 8th?
Like this one time, I hacked this girl's myspace ( yes, with permission) to write alittle something on her myspace.
Then I found out I was #1? I was shocked, but same time happy, because I had the same feelings.
I acted like I didn't know anything about it, wrote my little something and acted like the same nice-ness as before.
THEN... idk what happened lol, some nice guys do miss chances cause they're too afraid to act.

Confidence is a key, you have it. Then you're set
No confidence is like living on the streets, don't know what to do, afraid to act, embarrassed of your public view from other people.
It's like money to the real world. You can't live without money.

So now I'll answer your questions

So guys, are you a nice guy?
Yes, im considered as a nice guy throughout everyone I know. When they write their WHOS THE SMARTEST/CUTEST/HOTTEST, they always put me as the NICEST friend. Everyone viewed me as the nice guy. I never really thought about it right now, but yeah.
BEing nice ain't bad, it's just about your confidence level.

Do girls usually only classify you as a friend only?
Who knows, guys never been girls before. They classify me as friends, but you never know if they classify you as more as a friend.
Like the example I showed above, you lacking confidence
either A) you deny the fact and bring negative thoughts to yourself
pretend that you didn't know, but feel all happy inside not knowing what to do next
C) You kick your self-esteem like the scene from 300.

How do you feel?
HOW DO I FEEL? pretty bad , my crush thinks I'm nice & funny.
At first, I thought it was a compliment, but now the nice part killed my self-esteem, but the funny part saved it, so it's a balence
BUt she probably considers me at a friend level.

And girls why do you only classify nice guys as friends only? Are they too shy or too gentle or quiet?
I can't answer this, but I'll guess.
Girls classify nice guys cause they ain't boyfriend material. IF you think about it, relationships. If you guys are in a relationship for example,
Who dominates? Obviously the girl if you're the nice guy. Girls don't wanna dominate, cause they're girls. Girl's would rather just be the sidekick like Batman & Robin. Nice guys like me, I'm shy, gentle, and quiet. They want me to talk, it's weird. Why would they be-friend me & ask to hang out if i'm boring & nice guy? Either that or you're going to the worst word every nice guy dreads to hear...

Pity & Burden - When you're just dragged along just for space. Unless you're good looking, then they wanna look good
You suck? Oh, I'm sorry. Hang out with me, I'll help you feel better. (Sorry ##$%($^($, you're making it worse).

So there's my rant?

[StephyT]

Geez guys, there's nothing wrong with being nice. I like nice guys.

[xangie]

im sorry to say this, however girls try to deny it.
girls are shallow. they look - at looks and height
then again, so do guys, but guys don't find much of a problem, cos most girls, once they like someone they try to look their best.
whereas guys, don't really have that cinderella makeover option.

so firstly, its probably looks and height. try to tone up and wear nice clothes and always look CLEAN.

secondly, and this one is more sincere, are you sure you are not getting ANY attention, or is it that you are not getting attention from the girls you like? Because honestly, from all the guyfriends who told me the same things about "girls don't like me cos im a nice guy" - they all had girls who liked him, except he didn't notice cos he was too busy going for the girl with the nicest legs and the biggest lustproblem. So maybe open your eyes a bit?

Thirdly, Anyone who loves someone, becomes a nice person. Sorry to say that so matterinfactly but its true. So what do you mean by 'nice' anyways? Do you mean, less flirty and less SLEEPWITHMELAWLS?

and lastly, don't worry. even if those bad boys find lots of girls to break hearts, eventually the one who is most happy, loved and satisfied with life in the end is the nice guy. Girls go through trials of bad boys, but eventually they find the perfect person : ) aka, a person who loves them.

[derrek]

You suck? Oh, I'm sorry.

This made me lol