[bonjour tristesse.]

I have a question to everyone ; how do you grow up when the only thing that grows is your sentimentalism? i mean, relationship wise how do you grow up as a person?

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my boyfriend asked me this and it really made me wonder. since theres a bit of an age difference between me and him, i was afraid that he wouldnt understand my answer which was to let go ; me & him are basically on and off and when he asked me this i think he knew that id say to let go. then we got to vulnerability. im not a very vulnerable person but im not as strong as others think i am either. i mean, im a teenager of course i have worries. right now, me and him are 'on a break' and basically im waiting for him. hes graduating this year and ill still be on highschool. i do understand that he wants to spend his time with his friends and i guess thats where the problems between me & him started. he felt as if he needed to put me before his friends and i tell him i never asked him to do that.

the other night when we talked about this statement, i asked him 'why are you making me wait' and he said because i wanna see you grow up as a person. i want you to let go of all your worries.

but now here i am confused : how do i let go of my sentimentalism when they grow with me? how do i
let go of my worries' .. honestly .. i dont get it T_T

[MrPower]

Thanks for being specific... I was afraid this topic would be vague... lol

Feelings of nostalgia welling up inside you?
My advice: stop living in the past. Don't feel sorry for yourself. face the present. face reality.

Experience new things, whatever they may be.
It worked wonders for me =]

Perhaps if you elaborated on your current situation, more forum members will be able to answer this question more effectively..
(Maybe some context would help =] )

[StephyT]

I have a question to everyone ; how do you grow up when the only thing that grows is your sentimentalism? i mean, relationship wise how do you grow up as a person?

Super confusing. I had to really think. I don't think "sentimentalism" is the right word. I'll assume that you're trying to ask "How do you move on from what happened in the past?"

To answer that, I think you just need time. Everyone has a past, and everyone grows from it. When people get older, they start to look back and realize that what happened when they were younger doesn't matter so much anymore. Like if a 30 year old is looking back on high school relationships, they'll probably be like "wow. I can't believe i cried over that loser when i was 14." I get over some things easily, and other things I'll hold onto forever.

[LGG]

You should know.. You can grow as a person without letting go of your sentiments..
You just have to know how to not let your sentiments/emotions get the better hand of you.
Keep them in control when you have to think clear and make decisions.
Your sentiments are the ones that separates you from being a robot..
And if your sentiments are a part of you, you should let him know that.
If he loves you for you, then he would totally respect your answer.

"People call me feminist whenever I express sentiments that differentiate me from a doormat or a prostitute" - Rebecca West