[HOTbass]

soooo...
two scenarios (one that's been happening to me for......ever? and the other, happening right now)

#1
i like guy
thinks that he likes me back.
then, he asks out some other girl
it's happened like every time i've had a crush
and believe me, it's not just me. i'm not stupid, i know when they like me, but always, always they ask out another girl
i asked all my friens, they tell me the same thing: "i totally thought he liked you" (and i have some pretty blunt friends too)
WTF.
has anything like that happened to you before?

and the second one:
i'm two years younger...
he's really mature, smart, athletic. all that you usually hear.
plays instruments (big plus for me), dedicated to school work.
we're kinda close, we talk and poke fun of each other
but at the same time, keeping our distance, lol
and i don't really care about the age diff, but this other really pretty girl (that's only one year younger) likes him.
she's also very mature, cheerful, nice, and funny.
should i give up on him?
i'm not asking for sympathy, i just want to know... b/c my bff keeps switching back and forth between "go for it!" and "idk if your guys would last very long..."
i'm really confused.

as for the first part, maybe it's cuz i don't act girly and cute, and i have a bit of an aggressive personality... not so much aggresive, but... i won't take crap from people type of person... does that make sense?
and my friend told me that he WAS going to ask me out but he chickened out (i know, WTF grow a pair, will ya??)

oh, and btw, the two scenarios r seperate.

thank you to whoever actually reads all this... if you need more details or whatever, ask away....and like i said, i don't like making long posts, but i couldn't help myself... and i know it may seem like i'm apathetic to the whole thing, but really, i care.

[StephyT]

#1: I don't think anything like that has happened to me. But I do tend to block out a lot of things that I don't like remembering. It's good cus I already have a bad memory.

#2: Age shouldn't matter that much. If you're both mature and of legal age, then go for it.

[plegend2007]

First of all...I just wanted to say that...I like your style!!!

I always tell my gf not to take crap from anyone, not even me

Your first scenario...You don't want those guys to begin with b/c they lack the "pair" you deserve. It is a good thing b/c you would have gotten bored of those guys. They wanted to be safe, and they went toward that route. You need a strong male that is confident about himself. So, I would just chuck it up as weak minded men who got scared. If I were you, I wouldn't change for any guy at all, and I am sure you will find a guy with a "pair"

Second scenario...If you like him, and if he has a "pair", I wouldn't give up on him. Who care if the other girl is pretty or whatnot. I am sure you are a spit fire and a hottie of your own. You seem like a confident girl, so I don't see why he wouldn't like you at all. I say go for it...The worse thing he can say is "no", but at least you will know. If he is smart, he would go for you.

*FYI...There are guys out there who prefer girls like you.

Good luck...I am really pulling for you

[JeSuisMoi]

First scenerio: Good lord I hate it when that happens. And then I start blaming myself thinking "maybe I should've stepped up my game"; its such a crappy feeling and I totally feel ya.

As for the 2nd scenerio, I don't see any reason why you shouldn't keep pursuing him. Let him choose who he wants to be with. Who knows, maybe it's you he wants to be with. And relationships aren't guarenteed, no one will know the outcome of it, so your bff could have her opinions and predictions, but at the end of the day, what do you want to do? Do you see yourself being with him and being happy? Definitely take your bff's advice into consideration, but don't let it be the be-all-end-all type of advice lol

[HaplessChild]

#1 You're probably taking too long and not letting on that you like them, waiting for them to make a move on you when there are plenty of other girls that are willing to make the first move. They're more likely to get the guy because they take out the guess work.

#2 Don't let it turn into #1. If you like him, tell him and let him make the decision.

[_ambrosia]

#1: It's never happened to me, but it has happened to my friends. This is what I tell them: He clearly isn't worth your time since he isn't able to ask you out, and since you guys both know the feelings are mutual then there isn't nothing to stop him, except his inability to stay with a girl that can be strong with or without the guy. So just forget those guys, and when it happens next time just know that the girl that he chooses over you is nothing compared to you, because honestly think of it like this: She's his second pick He settled, that's not a guy that is worthy of being called YOUR boyfriend.

#2: Age is not a factor at all. It's competition that you see, but to be honest you shouldn't compete, if you be yourself and be true, if he is smart then he will choose you, if he doesn't that's okay there's tons of guys out there that prefers girls that are strong, and don't take bull from anyone.

I'm just like you, but my boyfriend was smart and chose me =); haha, he knows I can stand my own grounds, and such, and my friend she's just like us and she has a boyfriend too, so there's a bunch of guys that prefer independent girls; it's more attractive then the really weak ones, that are incapable of living without a man (in my opinion)

[Lie]

as for the first part, maybe it's cuz i don't act girly and cute, and i have a bit of an aggressive personality... not so much aggresive, but... i won't take crap from people type of person... does that make sense?
and my friend told me that he WAS going to ask me out but he chickened out (i know, WTF grow a pair, will ya??)

You're aggressive, but not aggressive enough to take the initiative to ask them out yourself? Why wait around for them to ask you out when you're reasonably sure that you both like each other if this keeps happening?

[hellokitty24]

okay girlofrend sounds like you dun know what you wanting. go get a makeupova and boys will fly to u. plz work on ur cofindence kthnxbye.

[AzizOnDeck]

#1: Is there something you're doing that's not making them think you like them back or something?

#2: Do you feel as if this guy likes you back?

[junsujunsu]

#1, maybe u dont act like u like him/ them, and they cant confess to you because they dont want to be turned down. I never show any likes towards people i like cus im scared they wouldnt like me. so its probably the same way with them

[AngelsWhisper]

do you want to go against her over this guy? If you don't wanna, then pull yourself out of this.
do you have a vibe he somewhat likes you? If you do and you do like him, then just tell him, I guess...

[repeat_on_echo]

#1, that's happened to me with the same guy twice last year. I was so beat up about it but thinking back on it, it's not worth it, you know? If a guy liked you and he's too much of a chicken to admit it, then where will you both go in that relationship? Especially if he asks another girl out. Plain and simple, I don't think it's worth all that trouble. You'll find someone who will like you, tell you, and be happy with you without involving some other girl.

#2, if you don't know for sure who he likes, I wouldn't say give up just yet. Just wait it out, talk to him about it, or straight out ask him if he likes you... now, that will take some practice and confidence but once you do and once he tells you the answer, you'll feel better knowing if, in the end, he likes YOU. If he doesn't, you might be upset, but then many other guys will walk through your life and when someone you really like comes, grab a hold of him. You can't give up so easily, trust me, haha.

[Evinus]

For #1 guys might be intimidated by you which is why they go for someone else. Or they think you would never like them. Maybe once you're sure they like you, you should ask them out.