[iheartcandy4ever]

I'm sorry if this is a double post or if this is too 'mature' for putting up on this topic area in case of the younger ones. Please delete this post if it is in any way in violation of the rules.

So I want to know what people nowadays are thinking about people losing their virginities at a younger and younger age.
What are your opinions on having sex before marriage?
& this is an optional question; I'm sorry if it is offending to anybody, but at what age did you lose your virginity?

I'll start.
I am a Christian, and my beliefs are that your virginity should be saved for marriage. However, even though I do have these set of morals, I do feel that I will end up losing my virginity to my boyfriend and love, who is not a virgin at the moment.

[Amaranthine Memories]

If you feel like your going to have sex with him, whats the point of believing in your morals?
I think young people losing their virginities at a young age is disgusting and stupid. I think virginities are really important, and just throwing it away like that is just dumb. But again, it's their life and they can do whatever dumb thing they can.
Sex is a beautiful thing that should be done with the person you love, and to my opinion idc if it's before or after marriage.

[Agashi]

Is your boyfriend a Christian as well?

[iheartcandy4ever]

If you feel like your going to have sex with him, whats the point of believing in your morals?
I think young people losing their virginities at a young age is disgusting and stupid. I think virginities are really important, and just throwing it away like that is just dumb. But again, it's their life and they can do whatever dumb thing they can.
Sex is a beautiful thing that should be done with the person you love, and to my opinion idc if it's before or after marriage.

I highly agree with you on the sex is a beautiful thing if done with love part. And I am in love with my boyfriend and he is, also. I have told him that I do want to wait before having sex, and he has respected my decision to the fullest. This makes me respect and love him more and thus seems like an inch towards me thinking I will end up losing my virginity to him and not regret it. I'm sorry if that did not make sense at all, but here's just to clear up. I do think that sex should be saved for marriage, but for me, it isn't set in stone.

Is your boyfriend a Christian as well?

My boyfriend is actually not Christian, and has his own philosophy on life. This is the one thing that is a negative about my boyfriend. He did accept Christ, but I know he's not a real Christian. I do try to talk to him about this, but it is very rare. I'm praying about it greatly. (; Hopefully, he'll really become a real Christian soon enough, too.<3

[mintcracker]

having sex is fine as long as you deeply care for the person and you have protection.
I don't believe in sex after marriage
that's too idealistic and could pose problems

[xxcrazy_onexx]

I highly agree with you on the sex is a beautiful thing if done with love part. And I am in love with my boyfriend and he is, also. I have told him that I do want to wait before having sex, and he has respected my decision to the fullest. This makes me respect and love him more and thus seems like an inch towards me thinking I will end up losing my virginity to him and not regret it. I'm sorry if that did not make sense at all, but here's just to clear up. I do think that sex should be saved for marriage, but for me, it isn't set in stone.


My boyfriend is actually not Christian, and has his own philosophy on life. This is the one thing that is a negative about my boyfriend. He did accept Christ, but I know he's not a real Christian. I do try to talk to him about this, but it is very rare. I'm praying about it greatly. (; Hopefully, he'll really become a real Christian soon enough, too.<3

i was going to keep quiet....but sorry i really cant
just b/c he respects your decision and your morals doesn't mean you should compromise them b/c he's "just so understanding"
sorry if i sound harsh but its really contradictory to open the topic by saying you're a christian and stating your morals, but then saying that it doesn't matter as long as you love him
sure, love is great...but these are your MORALS/BELIEFS
i'm a christian as well, and honestly i respect other people's decisions...as long as they're not like 15 yr olds just having sex, but the fact that you say you would compromise something that's so important AFTER you already state what you know is right...it kind of i guess really throws me off

ultimately, it's your decision...i'm just a little confused by your words
you pray for him to be a christian, yet you seem ready to give up your christian beliefs for him?

sigh, sorry if i sound angry

[I Wonder]

My boyfriend is actually not Christian, and has his own philosophy on life. This is the one thing that is a negative about my boyfriend. He did accept Christ, but I know he's not a real Christian. I do try to talk to him about this, but it is very rare. I'm praying about it greatly. (; Hopefully, he'll really become a real Christian soon enough, too.<3

Wtf!?

Not being christian does not mean hes a negative guy.

[Agashi]

I think 15 is a bit young of an age.

Many people are virgins in this world, more than you think. Just because it's more popular or easier, doesn't mean anything.

So many friends I know that lost their virginity, regret it later, because the relationship they thought was the one they end up marriage, ended up not lasting.

[gisbiz]

are you feeling pressured or bothered because he isn't a virgin, and you still are?
if that's the case, don't do it.

sex is apart of nature.
i'd go with nature

but, our economy's doing bad right now..
teens should really reconsider and wait on sex.

[hishari]

My boyfriend is actually not Christian, and has his own philosophy on life. This is the one thing that is a negative about my boyfriend. He did accept Christ, but I know he's not a real Christian. I do try to talk to him about this, but it is very rare. I'm praying about it greatly. (; Hopefully, he'll really become a real Christian soon enough, too.<3

Being a non Christian is not negative. I hate it when I constantly get solicited to those bible workshops and those "gospel parties" when I go to the mall by myself to pick up a last minute outfit or something. Those people even come to my campus and one lady was so persistent she made me late for my class
I hope you don't force him to be a Christian just because you are.

And to answer your question, I don't care about losing my virginity before marriage. It's not like I lost my virginity when I was 13.

[lilazndreamer]

^i don't think she meant it as him not being Christian is a bad thing. I think she means that she sees him as a permanent part of her life and would like to be with someone of the same religion/beliefs as her. but that's my perspective on it.

personally, i'm shocked at how young people are having sex. I just imagine myself when I was their age and how all I thought about was barbie dolls and how guys were bullies. In this day in age, virgins are considered the minority and they're actually considered odd. It's pretty sad becuase your first time is something you should treasure and you should only give your virginity to someone who you truly love and loves you right back, not to someone just out for a quick romp.

My opinion on sex before marriage is the same. I would personally like to wait, because I don't know. It's something special and marriage is something special. Also, honestly wtih all the std's and unplanned pregnancies happening (despite safe sex), it's just too much to worry about. At least when you're married, you're pretty sure (or should be 100% sure) that your partner's clean and whatever kids that may result will be welcomed in happiness rather than panic/fear.

[Alias1234ever]

Sex is an act of love that two people share. I think it brings a relationship to a new intimate level. I don't think two people in love should wait until after marriage because when it comes down to that, (SOMETIMES, I'm not saying all the time) marriage is rushed as an excuse to start having sex. It's just like saying, Oh I'm married; finally I can have sex now! But it shouldn't be like that. Sex is veryvery beautiful when done with the intent to love. Does it really matter if two people are married or not (as long as they love each other deeply and just want to reach that intimacy?) Of course, it shouldn't be done behind parents' backs or done with the intent to 'experiment' or anything like that. All I'm saying is: as long as two people love each other, they should not be shunned by society for wanting to engage in an act of intimacy. I've been called a slut and rainbow for having sex with my boyfriend. I don't understand how that's being a rainbow or a slut for that matter when I've only had this one boyfriend for 2 years and I've loved him and only him. I don't regret it at all. How am I throwing my virginity away when I know I'm going to be with him for possibly the rest of my life?

[des monstres]

i think premartial sex is okie dokie.
as long as it's with someone you truly love.
and it can't be something you regret.
although age is just a number,
i think people having sex at too young of an age is.. not good.
since most of the time, it's usually puppy love.
i think college and up is okay.

i lost mine a bit before my boyfriend went off to college for his first year.
n_n i don't regret it at all!

but.. what? your statement about your boyfriend not being a christain is considered negative to you?
that makes no sense. you should accept him regardless of his religion.

i don't think sex should wait until marriage.
it's usually for "the one" isn't it?
but who knows if that person is the one for you.


i live in the moment.
holla.

[aval-zo]

I'm fine with premarital sex, as long as both parties know the consequences and know what they're getting themselves into. AND practice safe sex!! However, I do have a thing against preteens losing their virginity.

[iheartcandy4ever]

^i don't think she meant it as him not being Christian is a bad thing. I think she means that she sees him as a permanent part of her life and would like to be with someone of the same religion/beliefs as her. but that's my perspective on it.

ah! thats actually exactly what i meant worded exactly the way it was in my head.. its just when i start writing it all gets jumbled up. thank you for clarifying that for everyone (:

no, not being a Christian is not negative. as a matter of fact, most my best friends are not Christian. its just something i look for in a significant other. Its like when someone says "i want someone who has big eyes". small eyes arent bad.. they just like people with big eyes. (yeah i suck at analogies -.-;;) hope that cleared some things up a bit & i'm sorry if i offended anybody out there. i really did not mean to offend anybody out there.

[emma007]

I think sex is a wonderful, beautiful thing...within the covenant of marriage

[sonsibon]

i feel that sex is a personal matter and should not be affected by your partner's wants. if you have values you want to keep for yourself, then keep it for yourself. don't use any excuse/reason to justify the problem, because at the end of the day, you're going to be looking at yourself in the mirror and regretting it.

so if you going to have sex (regardless of your values), do it for yourself...do when you know that sharing yourself body and mind that you won't regret it.

[Fly for Fun:D]

I think that sex before marriage is fine. It's nothing to judge someone for, especially if you're dating a someone who already lost theirs. And I'm sure if people could go back in time to change them having such an act to make one happy, they would. I find it a bit selfish to date someone, fall in love with them, then not give them 100% of that love because they're not a virgin. And I don't mean giving up your own virginity to fulfill that 100%. These days, people are losing their virginity sooner and sooner. Heck, I know for a fact that back in my middle school, it was like THE number one objective for people to lose their virginity. But anyway... as some get older, it becomes very hard to look for someone who isn't a virgin. Virginity isn't so precious these days, or at least, people aren't so serious about it as they were in the earlier decades. I mean come on, would one leave their significant other, who they loved to death, and was also not a virgin, for someone else who they didn't love nearly as much? It's sad to say, but that sort of thing does happen, and not only in the case of virginity.

Don't get me wrong, I respect everyone's beliefs. If one believes in sex after marriage, that's awesome. However, it's not fair if one is going to cheat their other half out of the love they're giving them because of something they can't change. Why bother dating them in the first place? Wouldn't one only be harming them self by staying with their bf/gf and loving them more?

Forgive and forget

[CHOMP!]

having sex is fine as long as you deeply care for the person and you have protection.
I don't believe in sex after marriage
that's too idealistic and could pose problems

agreed.
You have to test drive the car before you buy it, yaknow?

i'm fine with people losing their virginities if it's for the right reasons--such as they love the other person
if a girl is doing it just to be a hoe, then i have a problem.

i'm a christian as well, and honestly i respect other people's decisions...as long as they're not like 15 yr olds just having sex, but the fact that you say you would compromise something that's so important AFTER you already state what you know is right...it kind of i guess really throws me off

i was a 15 year old having sex..
i swear i wasn't a rainbow though! lol. (i'm still not! haha)
i lost mine like two weeks after my 15th birthday o-o
really young, i know.
before it happened, i had always thought i would save it for marriage.. but i guess not :x
but i don't regret it at all. but that's just me.
and i'm still with the guy now, so it worked out wonderfully (:
even if we do break up, i still won't regret my decision. so i guess it's all good for me ;P

i think a lot of people who say they will wait will change their minds once they are in a certain situation.

but like mintcracker said, i think that those who wait till marriage to experience sex for the first part may run into problems :|

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

I'm a Christian.
So this is how I think.
if my gf is Christian, and we had sex, then that's all good. Because we both sinned

If she is not..... then.... urgh...... I won't do it.....