[P a p e r_C l i p]

So i was just wondering whether or not you stand for it when your friends or s/o kind of insult you but not intending to o.o

I have a friend who casually points out a lot of my flaws =/ and i just brushed it off at first but now it's getting kind of irritating. & Kind if mean D; bad for my self esteem. It's like "great...thanks for telling me this"
It would seem weird for me to tell him to stop or that it bothers me because he does it so conversationally/casually that it seems like i'm making a big deal out of nothing o.o

So when your friends do this to you, would you just brush it off and forget about it or would you do something about it?

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

I joke along...... like they call me (my name) burger....... maybe because I am fat... well anyways, I just say to them soemthing like "My burger is nice right?"
Or maybe "I made a burger?? I'm famous now"

something like those.....
IMO, they will eventually stop if they can't make fun of you or whatever.... Plus, you will come up as a funny/sociable person if you joke along with it...

Usually if you are angry or stay quiet, they tend to keep doing it.

[AngieK]

I tend not to let it bother me. Can't take everything in life too seriously, especially if the person isn't intentionally trying to make you feel bad.

Plus a lot of times the reason why it irks us so much is because there's usually some truth behind their words. So instead of sulking over it, I welcome their little comments. This way I learn about my flaws and my bad points so I can find ways to either fix it or simply come to terms with that side of my personality. =)

[junsujunsu]

he's a sagitarius? is he is he?...i dont really mind actually onli if they are picking a fight do i care what they say

[angels.disguise]

i joke along. eventually they stop if they cant
get a rise out of me.

[P a p e r_C l i p]

^ no he's not o.o
^

& okiee >_< that's good advice, its true it irks me cuz there's truth there LOL
but it's more like..physical flaws i guess? o_O & he does it a lot, so it's just starting to bother me now.
He's not like joking about it either, he just makes a lot of comments on i guess some of my negative physical qualities o_o

[AngieK]

if it bugs you that much then talk to him about it. Sitting and complaining won't change anything. If you are truly offended you need to let him know. Sometimes people say things without thinking about how it'll potentially affect others but you need to let him know. That's why you're friends. To tell each other when you're being an ass.

Relationships are about communication.

[MNLV27]

My s/o always does that to me, it's like he points out my flaws but then right after he would say some things to make up for it..
A lot of the time I always think should I take it as a compliment or an insult? lol, but I just usually let it go because he makes me feel better after he says something kind of insulting...lol...

[cubecul]

If it's a friend, I immediately point out one of his/her flaws...casually. The thing is that I sorta make a subconscious mental list of things wrong about everyone, so something always comes up.

[Tuxedomask]

Meh...I'm pretty easy going. I'm comfortable with myself and my flaws so I usually just laugh a long or ignore it. But if it was some random stranger then they'd better watch their mouths.

[Cheri.B*]

No, I don't care if it is my family, close friend, or boy friend.

But if it's my casual friends, I would get irksome.
I just get revenge and do the same to them if they don't stop.
It really depends which friend too.

This friend would point out my jaw line is manly
I just show her how I feel to her comment with by saying something indirect, like Gee... that's very nice thing to say to someone.

Then she kept pointing out my other flaws. I don't know why she does it but I pretty much told her,
"You must like pointing out my flaw @_@, isn't there any good features about me you see instead"

Be blunt can be helpful sometimes too, even if it was rude but if you think about it you're just warning them to back off.

[ms. rachellica]

most of the time i try to insult them back. but yeah, if they constantly do it nd dunno when to be serious then it annoys me

[선아~Suna]

My friends and I throw jokes at each other and some times they can be a bit insulting. Most of the time I don't mind it and I just take it, but sometimes it's a little hard. There's always a limit to how much crap one person can take and still consider to be a joke.
I guess to me it depends on who it is. If it's family and close friends it's fine. But people that I don't talk to that often... it's not ok.

[TechnoFibre]

Lol I think they must be pretty insecure about themselves to find enjoyment in picking out other people's flaws.

And I would usually play along unless it really pisses me off. Then I'd prob insult them back, but in a jokey way.

I'd actually only be half-joking though.

[ManekiNeko~*]

So i was just wondering whether or not you stand for it when your friends or s/o kind of insult you but not intending to o.o

I have a friend who casually points out a lot of my flaws =/ and i just brushed it off at first but now it's getting kind of irritating. & Kind if mean D; bad for my self esteem. It's like "great...thanks for telling me this"
It would seem weird for me to tell him to stop or that it bothers me because he does it so conversationally/casually that it seems like i'm making a big deal out of nothing o.o

So when your friends do this to you, would you just brush it off and forget about it or would you do something about it?

Depends.. If they're doing it to hurt you, then I suggest that you tell them to john tesh off. If not, you can express that you don't appreciate those words from them.

I actually enjoy getting some criticism. It's just another way to motivate myself to be better. (ie: Friend says "you're fat". I'll start hitting gym).

I think I do the most criticizing among my friends tho. It's not to hurt them, but to just tell them to better themselves. Like...one of my friends dresses HORRIBLY... I seriously dont know where she gets her clothes. So I bring her out to shopping telling her that she should toss those and buy new cute clothes . I'll even offer to buy some for her. She'll tell me that she's happy with the clothes that she has, but me+the majority of the society doesn't think so... I'm not the best dresser.. Just decent, but I just can't stand why she dresses the way she does ..

[bipolar{polarbear}]

yeah i do. unless i don't know the other person on a personal level. although, usually i'm the one putting myself down.

[-_-]

Personally I don't mind because I'm confident with my body and looks.

A lot of people make comments thinking it's no big deal or that it's funny or joking but if it hurts your feelings you should stick up for yourself. They may not realize how it's affecting you and if they're your real friends they should try to stop.

[l3oosh]

Yeah, I'm the one in my group of friends everyone likes to pick on. Well, just two people. They point out my flaws, they make fun of my tastes in food, music, movies, etc, and stuff like that. But the funny thing is, when I'm with them separately, they're quite nice and frequently point out all my nice qualities. My theory is that they're just showing off to each other or avoiding being picked on by the other :/ Meh, I'm usually okay with it, but I too have found it very irritating and am more hesitant to hang out with them now.

I actually stood up to one of them yesterday when I told him how much I love tapioca. He then proceeded to say, "How can you like that stuff? It's so gross." So I very calmly told him that it's very rude of him to say something I specifically said I liked was "gross," especially if it's food. No one likes it when someone calls your taste in food 'gross'. He said he didn't care, that if he thought it was gross, he was entitled to voice his opinion. I just told him that it's okay to not like what I don't like and it's okay to tell me you don't like it, but calling it gross was crossing a line. He later apologized.

So if it bothers you, tell them. They're your friends, right? They should respect your feelings. If you don't say anything, they'll just think it's okay to point out your flaws. Say something like, "I don't like having my personality dissected bit by bit by you. If there's something about me that you have a problem with, please talk to me about it." I guess if you say it in a more serious manner, they'd take it seriously and back off. If you don't want it to sound so "mean" haha, you could always say something like, "Geez guys it's getting old." I find that my peers are very afraid of having their jokes called old xD Or you could always point out their flaws...like their flaw of pointing out everyone else's flaws haha.

But just a word of wisdom: don't take yourself too seriously. Laugh at your flaws from time to time with your friends - I think it says much more about a person who can laugh at him/herself.

[envyandy]

depends on who.
if it is someone i dont care about or i don't really know, i brush it off my shoulder and don't let it get to me. its all entertainment, its either they get entertained when you defend yourself and look like an idiot or you get entertained when you see that they see your expressionless face that you dont care. (depending on what/how you react)

id take it as a compliment.

if it is someone i care about i wouldn't be scared to ask them what they mean/why and start an argument. its all for the fun.

they cant be a pretty person if they insult you in the first place so you shouldnt have anything to worry about.

[sheLLiJiElUn]

I'm sort of okay with it because I know they care about me and love to kid around, but sometimes it might make me upset depending on what they say and how they say it and basically how close they are to me