[Lovin' you]

Edit: 051109
(: I went to the wedding yesterday and his oldest brother and wife are really nice.
Once I got there with my BF, his brother pointed at me and told me to go over to him and his wife. I walked over and greeted them. They said thank you for coming, the wife said I looked prettier in person than myspace, >_<" and if my BF's mom started to say something, she would take care of it. At the end of the night, his brother and wife gave me a hug and left in a limo; going to Jamacia next week. lols

Thanks for everyone who told me to go (:

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My boyfriend asked me if I wanted to go with him to his brother’s wedding rehearsal tomorrow. I kind of want to go, to meet his family, even though I have met his mom and grandma already. – I’m a bit afraid to meet them. (I’m the shy type of girl)

Like, I’m not Chinese, so his mom doesn’t like me. The last time I was over at his house was 2 weeks ago, which was my 2nd time going over to his house. When I was leaving, his mom said something to him in Chinese. I kept asking what she had said, and finally he told me. He said that his mom said “She told me not to bring you over anymore. – But don’t listen to her. She’s the ultimate racist.” But his grandma likes me, the first time I was over and was leaving; his grandma, mom, and cousin were outside. My BF told me that his cousin said I was cute and his grandma liked me.

His brothers and sister knows that he has a girlfriend, but they haven’t met me yet. His brother’s fianc�e invited me to the wedding (she msg him on myspace telling him I’m invited), but I’m not sure if I wanna go or not. She wants to meet me >_<! (And I'm not sure if I have work on Sunday, which is the wedding date.)

I’m just afraid to meet his family, mainly meet again w/ his mom and afraid his mom will start saying things and yelling at him.

If I do decide to go to the wedding rehearsal, do we have to dress up nicely?

=edit=
She still will not like me. It's the fact that she only likes Chinese people. Knowing the fact that I'm not Chinese, she hates me. His other brother dated a Viet girl for a few years and she still didn't accept the girl.

[MNLV27]

If the bride or groom invited you then you should.
Who cares if his mom doesn't want you to go, it's not her day, it's the bride and groom's day and they invited to you come enjoy it..
It's not like you are just barging in, you were invited, so I think it's okay for you to go..

As for the what you should wear, if your unsure ask your bf if it's a formal, semi formal or casual event. That way you'll know what to wear...

[ny-sw / ny_sw.]

Agreed, you do have a right to go if the bride invited you and the groom hasn't had a chance to meet you..
The mama will just have to deal.
As for dresscode to a wedding rehearsal... I have nooo idea.

[HappyExpress]

If you want to go. THEN GO!

[Sweet_Asian819]

It's a great time to get to know the family :]
Do it for your boyfriend ^___^

[thesisoflove]

You were invited specifically by the Bride, so I don't see whats the problem.
Your BF's mom might dislike you, but one day she will eventually like you.
Anyways, I think you should go, it`s a great chance for meeting his family members and stuff ,

[tjdabeast]

You'll feed her flame of more mini cooper talking if you don't go.
Next thing she'll be saying is "Oh, she doesn't think our family is important that is why she did not attend the wedding."

[OMGitzYOU]

Dress nicely since it is a wedding rehearsal, who know you might have a second-chance to impress his mom since she probably didn't get to know you that well the first time around. If he brings you his mom will probably accept you more getting the hint that you're important and significant to him to be able to bring you infront of his family.

[minjin]

You are together with your boyfriend not with his mum, i think you should go ^^. His mum will accept you, mothers are always kinda protective of their sons xD

[Lovin' you]

She still will not like me. It's the fact that she only likes Chinese people. Knowing the fact that I'm not Chinese, she hates me. His other brother dated a Viet girl for a few years and she still didn't accept the girl.

[Swtess]

Just go and meet the rest of the family. If the whole family likes you then there's really nothing she can do except hold her tongue.

[cheerydumdum]

i agree with tjdabeast. it doesn't hurt to go. by going to this wedding where you don't even know that many people shows that you care. you say that she's not going to like you still, but is she going to like you even less if you go? be respectful and don't do anything wrong, and she'll have nothing to say. impress the other people in your bf's family. maybe they'll be able to convince his mom that you're likable.

sorry. don't know anything about wedding rehearsals. >___<

[LUVSSOURCREAM]

dont go. although his mom might be unreasonable, this is still her son's wedding, respect that.

[ditsy88]

I think you should go. Don't let his mom ruin it for you. Prove her wrong, if everyone else in the family like you then soon enough she'll have to learn to accept you too. I can relate to your problem since my bf's mom doesn't like me either. But I don't really care because as long as my bf love me that's what matter. Her old fashion thinking is not gonna change his feelings about you. So don't be afraid. Dress up and go have a good time with your bf.

[ANJEE<3]

just go!!

if the mom is smart, she'll shut her mouth

if she lets her mouth run.. then obviously she's got major problems..

problems that are out of your control and you should just ignore it the best you can

[mintcracker]

go
Show that you're an awesome girl and that she was wrong to judge you like that
Make everybody love you =)


have a good time and don't worry so much

[hippiehop]

if the bride invited you, you have to go.

[evolution_]

I think you should go. It would be a good opportunity to meet the rest of his family and as you said, some of them already like you. His mom probably will behave somewhat, it is a wedding and if she makes a scene she'll be the one who looks bad.

[deportedkorean]

Like someone said, if the bride invited you, then you SHOULD go.

Where did she get that kind of racist POV? Obviously she didn't get it from her mom (if that's his maternal grandma you're talking about).
Just deal with it, you can't please everyone (and I know the mother's approval is important) but if your boyfriend's important to you...you won't let his mom come in between you guys.

...HAHA...anyone see Boys over Flowers????

[sukixyume]

I'd go.... xD My bf's mother dislikes me too, and she also told him not to bring me over anymore either. Haha, if you're invited and you want to go then do so, just be natural when you're there.