[EunHana]

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Hello,

Well, this is really nothing big [right now] but this guy, let's call him David, he's really pushing me near the edge. It's been almost a year I've put up with it. He's a classmate, not exactly a friend. He doesn't know where is the line to stop before it hurts or annoys people. In my physics class, he continuously interrupts the teacher with pointless questions [ex. My teacher showed us where the atomic gun is located inside a computer, and he interrupts him by asking "what would happen if I shot someone with an atomic gun?"] It's fine if he just does it every now and then but he does it everyday in all the classes I have with him. He's not exactly one if those 'likeable' guys and because of that, I tried to talk to him when no one else is. However, recently he's been pushing and pushing me. I'm a typical, ordinary Asian girl. I usually do well in exams but not really all A's. Because of the prior night [where my parents were having an arguement] I couldn't study because I was crying. And I didn't do as well in my quiz. Since my parents were having an arguement and I just passed by two marks on my chemistry logic exam, I felt really annoyed when he handed me my quiz and said, "I thought Asians were smart."[btw, he's white] I know it shouldn't bother me, it usually doesn't, but I had so much going on and he said it in such a mocking voice that I just wanted to slap him. Maybe I'm overreacting but I've never really hated anyone before and I feel all these hate inside of me that I'm scared I might just burst out crying and worry my friends. And today in chem class again, it was my best friend's birthday so I wrote her a letter and ended with 'wait until after marriage before doing it' [I wrote it in a playful way because I know she's not catholic] it started a light, non-offending conversation about religion. Since I'm catholic, it's considered a sin to do it before marriage and me and my Christan friend were talking about Catholics and christian. He comes up behind me and starts talking trash about my beliefs. I don't really mind if people have their own beliefs but he trashed what 'I' believed in. And he was correcting me and my Christian friend about what is right and wrong about our religion even though he is neither Christian or catholic!


I don't know anymore. :/ what should I do? I'm scared that what if his next comment just pushes me over the edge and I hurt someone. :/

Note: I'm sorry for any grammar/ spelling errors, I'm on my itouch.

[SupaBayWitIt]

Try sitting somewhere else in the classroom and avoid him as much as possible.

[AHLEENA]

That guy, he probably has some social problems because from what you said, it seems that he doesn't have that many friends (or people who like him). But yeah, you shouldn't pity him although he sounds lonely and rude.

You can talk to him about how the things he says bothers you or you can ignore him. But I don't think the latter is going to work because what he says seems to bother you a lot.


EDIT: oh. the person above me, the avoiding advice is good. that should work

[and i sayd]

I studied religion for awhile and yes there are ALOT of people who like to prove people religions wrong so you'll just have to GIRL UP and be like hey stfu this is my belief idc what you think now scoot off! Btw, catholics are christians

[kerpao]

yo dood. i would so knock his lights out. i respect you for having so much tolerance =\ i'm the blunt type so i'd tell him straight up to STFU!

[charmedamethyst]

dumb guy. if he's not christian, then he wouldn't be catholic. no need to be redudant.

he sounds so annoying and rude! i'd try the 'kill them with kindness' method. he'll be like o_o

but like the above posts, i'd say avoid and ignore him. it'll drive him crazy to no end,
knowing that you're not giving him the attention that he wants.

it reallly does work, trust me. i have no luck with boys because of this. T^T
When they express even the tiniest interest in me, I get uptight, aloof and nervous.
Which makes me avoid them for awhile. (I am so shy! >-<

do it, he'll stop bothering you after a few weeks. he'll get exhausted and bored, no worries.

[EunHana]

Try sitting somewhere else in the classroom and avoid him as much as possible.

We have a seating plan, so I can't really avoid him, sadly. Thank you for the suggestion, though!

That guy, he probably has some social problems because from what you said, it seems that he doesn't have that many friends (or people who like him). But yeah, you shouldn't pity him although he sounds lonely and rude.

You can talk to him about how the things he says bothers you or you can ignore him. But I don't think the latter is going to work because what he says seems to bother you a lot.


EDIT: oh. the person above me, the avoiding advice is good. that should work

I think he has socials problems too. He doesn't seem to know just where is the line to stop. I would always try and avoid him as much as possilbe, but it's truly not working well enough. Thank you for giving some advice!

I studied religion for awhile and yes there are ALOT of people who like to prove people religions wrong so you'll just have to GIRL UP and be like hey stfu this is my belief idc what you think now scoot off! Btw, catholics are christians

Well, that sort of sucks. People should just let people believe in their own beliefs in peace. I don't think I can girl up like that, haha. -breathes deeply- I told him to "shut up" yesterday and fortunately he could get the message this time and he stopped talking but he had this shock expression on his face. I felt bad after. Catholics are Christians? Really? Hmm, I should go ask my parents on that. ^^ I thought the Roman Catholics came first. Thank you for your very poignant advice!

yo dood. i would so knock his lights out. i respect you for having so much tolerance =\ i'm the blunt type so i'd tell him straight up to STFU!

Haha, I admire you for that. Thank you for respecting my personality but some times I wish I can just move on my own without thinking of the consequences. Thanks for making me feel better!

dumb guy. if he's not christian, then he wouldn't be catholic. no need to be redudant.

he sounds so annoying and rude! i'd try the 'kill them with kindness' method. he'll be like o_o

but like the above posts, i'd say avoid and ignore him. it'll drive him crazy to no end,
knowing that you're not giving him the attention that he wants.

it reallly does work, trust me. i have no luck with boys because of this. T^T
When they express even the tiniest interest in me, I get uptight, aloof and nervous.
Which makes me avoid them for awhile. (I am so shy! >-<

do it, he'll stop bothering you after a few weeks. he'll get exhausted and bored, no worries.

He is annoying and rude. You just described him perfectly! I think being kind is what got me into this, I regret it now. I keep on ignoring him, but so far, it's not working quite well. Aww, I wish that you'll have more luck on boy stuff! We should both be more outgoing and have fun! :] Thank you for making me feel better.


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Hello again,

Well, I've already tried what you've advised me to do so, and it hasn't been giving positive results very well. I had a breakdown because of him on Wednesday. I'm in AP Mathematics so after my Food Economics class [I have him as a classmate in both these classes] I saw my older sister in Math class and I just poured my tears down. I know it may seem little, but every little thing he does seem to always make me mad or annoyed. In Food Economics, he grabbed my glasses from me and put it on his face. I don't really want him touching my stuff, since [Not to be mean or anything] he always wears the same clothes and he has acne all over his face. I know that, as teenagers, it's normal to have pimples, but I would honestly, prefer that my glasses [that touches my face] wouldn't have touched his face at all.

Please help, if you have anymore suggestions. My friends are now getting worried over me and I'd rather see them happy. They all wanted to talk to him [or hurt him if he doesn't stay away] but I don't really want any physical contact with a problem like this. Thank you and I apologize for bother you Soompi-ers again!

-- Eun Hana

[Kraka]

Wow... Hes really getting to you isnt he. Just go for it, a one time thing, and tell him, stay away from you. You dont like him around you. Even if its out of your comfort zone to do so, wouldnt you feel so much better when it works out. Personally, if it was me and I had a kid like that on my case, Id set thing straight with him. Before I would jsut ignore people and hold a gurdge for later in case I needed an excuse to attack them. But now I just tell them bluntly what I think.

Its all about communication. You have to let people know, you cant jsut expect them to know what you want or not even if its expressed in body language. But dont worry, I think you are tough and youll do jsut fine.

[AHLEENA]

Hm.

Try to make him hate you so he stays away?
I dunno. I do this a lot to guys I dislike lol.
And it works~ not all the time though
Still, it's not a nice thing to do lol.

Just go, "go away." "you are annoying/irritating." "I don't like you." "I'm not interested." "leave me alone. "go bother someone else."

Or whenever he does something you don't like just go, "I don't like it when you..." like for ex. "I don't like it when you touch my glasses. Please don't do it anymore." Or something.

[5.mystline]

Well If you don't want any physical contact to resolve this issue then you should do it verbally? and no soft stuff get straight to the point and rage..

[yabasta]

I've got the desperate urge to tell you to grab the next big bloke that will sign up to scaring that guy away from you... but, before you hire mercenaries in high schools...

Just keep tell this guy to back off.

He might be a creep, he might be ADHD, he might be who knows what, but ... you can only tell him how you feel about his stupid acts and the absolute refusal to listen to what you have to say.

Find support from your friends as well, ask your friends to help steer the guy away from you.

With the glasses thing, that's horrible, mainly because the way I see it, glasses are damn expensive things and shouldn't be snatched around like toys. But still, next time, tell him straight to his pimple covered face - BUGGER OFF.

Kraka is right, it's all about communication. You can't just expect him to bugger off, and you can't force him to bugger off either. So you'll have to tell him to bugger off, or better yet, you should bugger off. Especially in class, it's a totally worth while trick.

If he starts bugging you again, then just walk out the class, if the teacher says something; turn around to him/her and say in a loud voice, 'THAT GUY IS BUGGING THE CRAP OUT OF ME. SO I'M GOING TO BUGGER OFF NOW' or you know, in your own way. But if you do just up and leave, the teacher will have to talk with you (which is fine since you didn't do anything wrong) and talk with him (which is also fine since he's being a total jerk off).

Good luck with it, and keep your head cool. For crying out loud, don't cry in front of the douchebag!

yabasta

[xxdis0riental]

OH GOD I know people like that. Seriously what I'd do is blow up on him. It'll make him shut his f!cking mouth. If not, I don't know what other way because this guy seems too much of an idiot to realize how annoying he is.

[sodaniechea]

Only way is to talk to him :l

[colloquy]

You just have to stand up for yourself. It's a little difficult for me to tell you how to stand up for yourself, it depends on the situation. Probably the first thing you can do is build confidence with yourself. You're a strong person and one guy in your school isn't going to change that unless you let him. Don't let his childish antics get to you, and if he's annoying you, calmly (but sharply so he gets the point) tell him that you don't appreciate him bothering you. There's no point in being nice to him if he's being a douche, but that also doesn't mean you have to sink to his level.

Sidenote: Catholics are Christians, they believe in Christ.

[Yienny]

Give him the silent treatment

Or if he try's to talk to you just be straight up cold.
Tell him to stfu.

[EunHana]

Hello,

Thank you for all your help. ;D I may not have told him forwardly but my cold subtle actions, when he comes to me, hints that I'm not happy with him. He talks to me less and bothers me less. Plus, my friends [and of course you guys] have really helped me through it. They are making sure that he doesn't bother me. Hehe, and it turns out, my whole grade pretty much hates him... so I know now that I'm not being harsh at all. ^-^ Anyway, I just wanted to show my gratitude and thank you for helping. I haven't completely gained confidence in standing up for myself, but I'm definitely getting there.

I will NOT let one guy in high school, that I don't care for, make me frustrated. Again, I just want to thank you for letting me rant and lend me advices.

-- Eun Hana

[cheesedoodless]

talk to the teacher and ask if you can move your seat.

i'm pretty sure your teacher will let you move