[shan_mei]

we've been official for a month.

when we're out, we always hold hands or his arms around me but when it's with his friend he doesn't hold hands with me; much less hug.

he introduce me to his friend as gf but; today his gestures were so obvious that i couldn't help but get angry.

here's what happened today...

we were walking from the parking lot to the restaurant, as soon as he saw his friend, he let go of my hand. after lunch, we walked with his friend to the parking lot (him not holding my hand). as soon as his friend went away, he held my hand. (his friend is a guy btw)

I got angry.

Am i being overly-sensitive? How is his actions justifiable in anyway?

ps it's not the first time that he did this, it's consistent but it's just today it was so obvious.

[SweetsLove]

Jee I would get angry too. You're not being overly-sensitive. You should definitely talk about it to him cause he has no reason to just let go of your hand in front of his friend unless he's embarrassed to be holding your hand in front of his friend (which he shouldn't) but that's just a possibility. Personally I don't think his actions are justifiable but you really have to talk to him to understand why he's doing that.

[lalalaaa]

I think I understand how you wouldn't like that happening, but have you considered the possibility that maybe your boyfriend is just being considerate to his friend by not making him feel like a third wheel? I mean, if I were to be around a couple, I would be uncomfortable too if they did couple-y things.
It's not like your bf starts being a complete jerk when his friends are around, right? Because that would be a problem.

[한스 ㅋㅋ]

Maybe he is just shy. I hear that it happens to girls too, not wanting to show affection/whatever you call it in public, so I don't see why guys can't do that too.

[shan_mei]

I think I understand how you wouldn't like that happening, but have you considered the possibility that maybe your boyfriend is just being considerate to his friend by not making him feel like a third wheel? I mean, if I were to be around a couple, I would be uncomfortable too if they did couple-y things.

I think this is a high possibility.

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I did ask him why but he didn't have a good answer. he first said that it was subconscious, i argued that it's not the first time, then he had nothing to say but just said I'm thinking too much.

i didn't mention anything about being gay but he added that his friend's isn't gay; that in turn, made me think maybe his friend is gay and they had a past or something.

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[blush]

Well.. I kinda try not to hold my boyfriends hand with my close friends because I know it makes them feel like a third wheel. But considering your boyfriends' answers, I'm not so sure. :S Maybe something is up lol.

[C4Y [[Crazy 4 YeongSaeng]]]

I don't wanna be mean. But I do think that you're over-reacting a little bit.
I mean I guess I can understand that you feel somewhat neglected.
But you're bf was probably trying to let his friend fit in so he doesn't feel like the third wheel.
I think it's actually quite considerate for his friend. That way no one's uncomfortable.
But if it bothers you, why not ask him and talk to him about it? :]

[LK.]

Does this happen around any of his friends? or is it just that one particular guy?

[hishari]

Yeah my bf and I don't really hold hands in front of a friend as well. It's not a big deal. I'm sure your bf doesn't want his friend to feel like a third wheel, but if this persists as your relationship continues, I'd start to ask him about it.

The only time when my bf is all over me in front of his friends was when he is drunk

[plegend2007]

Honestly, he is just being a typical boy. He doesn't want his friends to think that he is all whipped on you or something. If his friends saw you guys all lovey dovey or something..He will get ripped by his boys later on when they hang out lol. It really means nothing, so I wouldn't worry about it.

I did that when I was like 14 or 15.

[LittleCabbage]

yeah i really dont like it how your s/o does do these things to you

[ShadowMax76]

maybe his friend is dealing with the loss of his girlfriend [and is sensitive with seeing couples happy together]?

_ eh. there's endless possible reasons.

[vip_gd]

i didn't mention anything about being gay but he added that his friend's isn't gay; that in turn, made me think maybe his friend is gay and they had a past or something.

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i'm sorry but that made me laugh

maybe he's embarassed coz it's his friend
i'm not sure though
he did say you were his gf to him
like the post above
endless possiblities~

[hippiehop]

My ex-bf was like that too... he probably just doesn't like PDA.

[shan_mei]

I try not to let it bother me, i didn't say anything during the drive home. it did bother me the more i think of it, so i asked him and i didn't get a good reason. however, i do feel better telling him and I'll let it go...for now.

[lisalee89]

If you're being too overly senstive, then i am EXTRMELY sensetive. If my man didn't hold me like how he usually does just bc his friends are there, he would get an earful from me. I dont think so. That do NOT roll with me. You tell him whats up. That would piss me off. I say you have a good talk with him about that. How would he feel if you did that to him? I dontthink he would like it much either.

[HaplessChild]

we've been official for a month.

when we're out, we always hold hands or his arms around me but when it's with his friend he doesn't hold hands with me; much less hug.

he introduce me to his friend as gf but; today his gestures were so obvious that i couldn't help but get angry.

here's what happened today...

we were walking from the parking lot to the restaurant, as soon as he saw his friend, he let go of my hand. after lunch, we walked with his friend to the parking lot (him not holding my hand). as soon as his friend went away, he held my hand. (his friend is a guy btw)

I got angry.

Am i being overly-sensitive? How is his actions justifiable in anyway?

ps it's not the first time that he did this, it's consistent but it's just today it was so obvious.

My bf and I always hold hands except when around his friends. We don't talk about it, it's just something we don't do. We don't even really touch around them. Stay near but not touching. It just seems rude to PDA all up in everyone's face. I wouldn't make a big deal about it. *shrug* Some people just aren't into PDA in a big way.

[jkstyle]

as long as hes not letting go when its in front of a girl then you are fine he just doesn't want to make his friend feel awkward

[nagel]

the claims that say "he doesnt want to make his friend feel weird" is complete bs. Stop trying to justify his actions by bringing him up as a good person or osmething.. lol.
Its probably because, hes not proud to show you off. I mean, think about it..
if i had a hot bf, and my friends started walking by, id hold his hands to let them know hes taken by me ^^''
know what i mean? Harsh as it sounds, its most likely true.

[Bubbie]

I think his just afraid that 'certain' friends might not know or he doesn't want them to know. Or basically he thinks friends before you, even tho he acts like an actually boyfriend when his friends aren't around.

There's a chance that it might of been awkward for him, but if i was in that case, why would i left go of my others hand..? Unless it was to give a handshake or hugs XD

Have you tried to just hold on and don't let go? You should when you have the chance.