[C4Y [[Crazy 4 YeongSaeng]]]

My boyfriend and I have been together for about 7 months now.
It'll be exactly 7 months is a week. We're both 19 and in college.

I love him so very much.
But lately ... I've been feeling our relationship is somewhat falling apart.

The main problem is, there are many times where I feel under-appreciated or taken for granted.
And so because of that, I also feel like he doesn't love me as much as I love him. (I know, I'm being kinda stupid).
I put in a lot of effort in the relationship, even though I have a really busy schedule.
And there are many times, I feel that he doesn't do the same.
There are also those moments where I really questions his feelings towards me.

Here are a couple examples:

I usually see him only once a week, and so I really miss him. The day before we were supposed to see each other, I texted him "I'm so excited to see you. I miss you so much. I might jump you when I see you, so watch out =D"
His response was "uhh ... okay."
My thoughts when I read that text was "Wow ... are you not excited to see me? You didn't even say you missed me as well T____T"

This other time, my boyfriend said something a little mean, while we were walking to the train station together.
I started walking faster, to show that I was upset. He just followed behind me, pretending nothing was wrong.
When we got on the train, I was completely silent. And ANYONE could tell, I was not a happy camper.
My boyfriend just starts to wave his hand in front of my face and poke me.
And I was being unresponsive, so after 5 min, he takes out his ipod, and just starts listening to it.
And I was thinking "WOW ... are you THAT insensitive? To not even ASK what's bothering me?"

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Okay point being, my boyfriend is a really sweet guy. I know it.
I mean before, this was NEVER a problem. He always appreciated me and showed me he cared for me.
But I don't know why he's been acting the way he is lately. I know he still loves me and cares for me ... but I sometimes can't feel that emotion from him anymore.
Yes, there are times when he's still sweet and I get happy when he does that, but ...
It's really hurting me, and sometimes I really do just wanna end it with him to make the pain go away.
Isn't relationships giving and receiving? So why do I feel like I'm doing all the giving?
Am I being ridiculous? I've brought it to his attention a few times, but I don't know ...

I don't want to be needy. I don't think I'm needy. It doesn't take much to make me happy.
If I say "I love you" All I need is a "I love you too" or sometimes even a hug or a kiss in response is perfect.
But sometimes, instead of that, he'll just say "thanks :]"
==;;;;;

[catheezy]

you're not being ridiculous. one person in a relationship shouldn't be the only one trying to make someone the other one happy. you should really sit down and talk to him about your feelings and basically just tell him what you told to us here. you shouldn't be the only one giving, he needs to show that he cares about you. even though he might be thinking 'oh she's my girlfriend she knows i love her'. it's good to remind each other somewhat often to keep that love alive. i hope he starts treating you the way you deserve to be.

[LK.]

I do agree, One thing which ALL people love about being in a relationship is just the fact that you're 'appriciated' by someone, knowing that you're really important to your partner just gives you that oh so fuzzy lovey dovey warm feeling inside of you.. haha. So you have every right to feel the way you do (:

But maybe something is bothering him as well? Like 'catheezy' said, it's good if yous talk about whats happening at the moment, for all we know your boyfriend might be having issues or something with family? or friends? So it's better to talk about it to understand both sides (:

I'm not good at these D: I just wanted to leave my input (:

[justanothergirl]

You need to communicate your feelings to him. From an outsider's point of view, it seems like his feelings are changing, but there's only one way to find out if it's true..and that's by asking him. If you don't communicate with him, things will just get worse. Your feelings of unhappiness will build up and he will remain dense and not know what's going on.

[supraspeed]

hmm, always, you will notice something different in your relationships. many times, it could be.. the part where you know the relationship is going well. and on the other part, you feel as if the relationship is drifting away. it all plays becus your feelings are showing it or trying to tell you something. i think you should talk to him about your relationship, question him and see how he responds. it's not your fault btw

[ltnd.]

I'm kind of in the same situation as you..
You should talk to him..tell him how you feel and what he's not doing and what you would like for him to do..
Like what supraspeed said..it's not your fault. There's something going on in his head or something..
But I totally know how you feel..since I'm kinda going through it T__T .. it hurts

[mstar]

I don't wan to comment to much as it's going to ache my little hearts too much.

Confront him, but be cautious. Stirr up a fuss. Check his reactions. Show your anger and emotions.

I was in the same situation as you described above. Only I was him, and you're in the shoes of my girl.

She told me I changed. I don't love her anymore. That I'm not sweet like I used to be. That I don't care. That I don't miss her, or even want to see her anymore (we got to see each other only a few times a month).

Man, what the hell am I talking about. I'm going to go in my corner and drink my problems away. ㅃㅃ.

[tubbycheeks]

From an outsiders point of view, theres only two logical possibilities.. either his just gotten that comfortable with you that his not seeing it or his feelings have changed towards you. I mean if he loved you then i guess saying 'i love u' back is just common sense unless you wanted him to say it in front of a lot of people. I think you should speak to him about it. Hope things work out well!

[hippiehop]

Talk to him about this.

It's a bit ridiculous.

My ex-bf was like that too. He started out being very sweet... over time, he just became cold. A relationship like that isn't meant to last.