[Infatuation]

So the problem is, my best friend's little sister wants her to stop going online and chatting with people, and instead focus on her studies like for SATs/APs until the end of senior year, btw we're sophomores, her little sister is a freshman. I don't think her little sister understands that it's really hard to balance hardcore studying and social life, she has never taken any AP class before. I understand that it's for the best, but I think it's too extreme. It's frustrating because the internet is the only thing bonding our friendship since we go to different schools. Also, the phone wouldn't work out so well because it's difficult to multi-task since we're both very busy with school and other things. I'm losing my best friend because of this, and she won't even be able to go online to vent if she's stressed, and I won't know what's going on in her life.

I'm really sad, idk what to do about this. Should I just let it go, like there wasn't a friendship even to begin with? I still really cherish our friendship. We understand each other and help each other through our problems, now that my best friend's gone, I feel like I'm losing a part of myself...

[Telmedragon]

I don't think there's much of a problem if your friend can balance everything out correctly. There are plenty of people in highschool and college that do all those things your friend does and they manage. Only thing she has to remember is do it in moderation, if she finds herself constantly checking her Facebook for a single comment, then perhaps that'd be a good solution. Even so, it shouldn't be permanent because depriving yourself of socilizing is just unhealthy.

And no, you shouldn't just pretend it never happened because it did. Like you said, you truly cherish the friendship, so why toss it away so quickly? Just hold on to it and let the events come as they would.

[Infatuation]

I don't think there's much of a problem if your friend can balance everything out correctly. There are plenty of people in highschool and college that do all those things your friend does and they manage. Only thing she has to remember is do it in moderation, if she finds herself constantly checking her Facebook for a single comment, then perhaps that'd be a good solution. Even so, it shouldn't be permanent because depriving yourself of socilizing is just unhealthy.

And no, you shouldn't just pretend it never happened because it did. Like you said, you truly cherish the friendship, so why toss it away so quickly? Just hold on to it and let the events come as they would.

Well, the thing is, her little sister is forcing her

[sodaniechea]

How is her little sister forcing her? O_o; shouldn't she be doing homework rather than keeping the OLDER sister on check? >_> Keep talking to your bestfriend, because most of the time friends go their separate ways after high school. You need to make high school memorable so you won't regret it later.

[plegend2007]

Well, the thing is, her little sister is forcing her

I just don't get this part....How can a little sister make a big sister give up the internet?

Also, doesn't she need to get on the net to do some research or even check her e-mail?

I think there is more to this story. Either you or your friend is keeping something from us b/c none of this make any sense at all.

[Infatuation]

How is her little sister forcing her? O_o; shouldn't she be doing homework rather than keeping the OLDER sister on check? >_> Keep talking to your bestfriend, because most of the time friends go their separate ways after high school. You need to make high school memorable so you won't regret it later.

I think it's because her little sister has high expectations, she wants to make it into an ivy league, and expects more from my best friend I guess. I'm not sure how I can keep in contact with her since she's not going to be online anymore and we don't go to the same school.

I just don't get this part....How can a little sister make a big sister give up the internet?

Also, doesn't she need to get on the net to do some research or even check her e-mail?

I think there is more to this story. Either you or your friend is keeping something from us b/c none of this make any sense at all.

I think it's because her little sister thinks she's a failure and letting down the family by talking to her friends instead of using that time to study. I think she expects my friend to focus on only school because her little sister has high expectations, and lacks understanding of the real world.

[plegend2007]

I think it's because her little sister thinks she's a failure and letting down the family by talking to her friends instead of using that time to study. I think she expects my friend to focus on only school because her little sister has high expectations, and lacks understanding of the real world.

But still...I get the fact that the little sister has high expectations, but what does that have to do with the big sister. Meaning, shouldn't the big sister make her own mind as to what she wants to do or not. If the big sister is doing fine at school, why would she have to give up the internet? It's still not making any sense at all. Is the little sister in charge or what. I understand if the parents forbid her from using the computer, but not the little sister.

If my little sister tells me what to do...I wouldn't listen to her. The big sister should act like one and the little sister should do the same.

I'm sorry for saying this, but I'm not buying this...Your friend is keeping something from you that you don't know.

[Infatuation]

But still...I get the fact that the little sister has high expectations, but what does that have to do with the big sister. Meaning, shouldn't the big sister make her own mind as to what she wants to do or not. If the big sister is doing fine at school, why would she have to give up the internet? It's still not making any sense at all. Is the little sister in charge or what. I understand if the parents forbid her from using the computer, but not the little sister.

If my little sister tells me what to do...I wouldn't listen to her. The big sister should act like one and the little sister should do the same.

I'm sorry for saying this, but I'm not buying this...Your friend is keeping something from you that you don't know.

According to my friend, her little sister watches her and annoys her if she doesn't get off the computer. She's sick of her sister, so she has no choice but to give up.

[blackvelvetfever]

Eh, maybe the little sister needs some sort of restrictions too?

That's hecka weird though, the little sister has superiority over her bigger sister .

Hmm, maybe you could email your bestie instead? I dunno how to help sorry ><.

[Swtess]

Why does an older siblings have to obey the younger one? I really don't get that part.

[5.mystline]

What a horrible sister, trying to destroy her own sisters social life..

[joxxy]

I think your best friend should talk with her little sister and tell her that even though she cares about her, she has no right to "ban" her from the Internet especially since she's older. Your best friend will be fine as long as she is able to control her time online~

Good luck!

[azurette]

Lol, the whole lil sis controlling big sis thing seems like such BS.
Sounds like a lame excuse for something else.

[sodaniechea]

I think it's because her little sister has high expectations, she wants to make it into an ivy league, and expects more from my best friend I guess. I'm not sure how I can keep in contact with her since she's not going to be online anymore and we don't go to the same school.

That's not cool :l your bestie can definitely balance her social life and her studies o.O the little sister needs to back off a bit. You guys should at least go out once a week ><

[Swixx]

According to my friend, her little sister watches her and annoys her if she doesn't get off the computer. She's sick of her sister, so she has no choice but to give up.

Little sister needs a whuppin'

[angels.disguise]

her little sister has no right to dictate her big sisters life.
your best friend is a total pushover.

call each other. she can't be busy all the time.
hang out often, keep in touch.
even if you have to, write a letter!

if you say its a good friendship, why would you let it go?

[AhYee]

You guys seem to have a pretty strong friendship. If her sister continues being the brat she is, and your friend really does give up on the internet [which, by the way, I think is completely absurd], I think you guys will be able to hold up until you guys can communicate again. This one issue isn't going to breakup your friendship, and if it does, then it wasn't really that much of a strong friendship to begin with. And you aren't losing your best friend. You guys go to different schools, not different cities? Am I correct? If you guys are in the same city, it's not going to hurt to bring out a few hours of one day to see each other. If you're keen on keeping this best friend, you're going to have to do what you're going to have to do.